to not want to do training on something that I’m not sure even exists?

[pastiesh]

AIBU to want to just get on with my work, and not be requested to participate in 3 hours (over 3 days) of training on something which I think it a bit irrelavant to me? We have recently had to have some training on ?Post Adoption Depression Syndrome? as a colleague who has recently adopted, and is coming back to work, is claiming to be suffering from it. I?m just a bit annoyed that work time is taken up with this, at a time when me and most of my colleagues are especially busy with lots of projects on, just to pussyfoot around someone who has a new baby - like so many of us have!! When I had my baby, no one did training on how to deal with my PND.
To be perfectly honest, after listening to all the training and doing a bit of reading myself, I just think it?s another example of this crazy PC world we now live in, and while she may be struggling with becoming a parent, I think it?s a bit insulting to compare it to Post Natal Depression, as that is hormonal and physiological and I fail to see how the two can be compared. I would never say all this to her, or to anyone at work (which is why I wanted to vent on here, really) and I probably am being a bit unreasonable, but she is just one member of a thirty-strong workforce, and I feel as though we are being taken away from important work, just to be seen to be doing the right thing - and something I?m not even sure exists outside of the politically correct brigade.

How on earth is the training relevant to you? I can accept that this may be a real issue, but lots of people have real issues; it doesn't mean the entire workforce ought to have training on it. Very odd.

Are you for real?

Can you not have a tiny bit of compassion?

Sad.

Call the daily Mail and tell them about this course - I'm sure it will soon get cancelled what with all the cuts and all!!

YANBU.

Oh my god! What next! fucking ridiculous.

I do agree that it could exist, but I dont see why you would have to do training for her return

Perhaps you can impart your 'wisdom' on PND at the sessions- you know, to balance it out a bit

Not sure whether it exists or not really matters TBH, just seems really odd that you're been asked to learn about what should be a confidential matter relating to her health. Has she asked for you to do it?

Does the company do similar for staff suffering from other types of depression? I've never heard of it (the condition or training staff on such issues)

And Reasonable - I must say this would NEVER happen in the private sector - we can't afford to be compassionate - too busy doing 3 or 4 peoples jobs for no pay increase last 2 years and no pension....

I think it?s because there was a bit of weirdness when she went through the adoption process. She wasn?t allowed time off to see her social worker etc, and didn?t get any adoption leave other than stat, so that?s supposedly contributed to her ?depression?, but it?s not my fault! Or many of my colleagues!a

it is private sector, iamamug

Oh, thanks for schooling me on the private sector.

You know what? In the public sector they don't tend to give corrupt twats who bankrupt the country million pound bonuses, either

Look, maybe the training is OTT. But the employer (and OP's colleague) obviously think it's important. And regardless of that, the OP's attitude stinks. She is ill informed about PND and about what adoption entails.

I'm not ill informed about PND!

I don?t know about being forced to go on the training, but this does sound like a good idea - particularly if your company?s archaic attitude have contributed towards her depression - are they afraid of legal action?
I think YABU to have such little compassion - of course Post Adoption Depression exists - and why not compare it to PND!/

ReasonableDoubt, I don't often applaud posts, but yours gets a clap

I just don't believe in it, and have better things to do!

YANBU to want to get on with your work. And I think maybe the time allocated to it is a little too much.

However I think letting people know about depression (in whatever form) is a good idea. I'm sure you'd have appreciated people knowing a little more about PND?

As for it being an insult comparing it to PND? What makes you think that? If they'd just said depression rather than ?Post Adoption Depression Syndrome? would you be saying the same?

I don't think being aware of other people is PC. Say someone had a physical illness that required different treatment, do you not think it would be a good idea to let the other staff know? It would mean they were in a better position to help if needed and, more importantly, would know enough not to make things worse.

Plenty of people don't believe in PND. Good thing "I don't believe" isn't a valid diagnosis

I just don't think adopting a baby can possibly induce the same level or intensity of depression as having your own baby - and I feel as though comparing it is making real PND seem less awful.

Depression is pretty dreadful and rarely rational.

Reactive depression is just that REACTIVE and can be triggered by any kind of major life event. Blimey I didn't realise there was a sliding scale of misery that made some types of depression more "real" than others.

yes, Kaloki, I get that - but I just think that they are 2 v different things, & am a bit annoyed at the "air-time" and the comparison.

pastiesh, do you not think the agony and disappointment of infertility followed by the jumping through hoops, the building and dashing of hopes and the emotional pressure which adoption can entail can induce the 'same level' of depression as giving birth?

Seriously?

...and I say that as someone who suffered badly with PND.

But they aren't comparing it to PND! Only you are! And I think depression doesn't get enough "air time".

God forbid people would be educated about something that affects so many people.