To be pissed off when people comment on my weight-loss?

[mosschops30]

I rang my friend yesterday and we were chatting and I said Id been shopping and bought jeans.
She huffed and said 'oh I suppose they were an 8 or a 10'
err yes they are!
Similarly met one of the mums from school who just been congratulated on being pg even though she's not and she said 'oh its alright for you youre skinny'.

The point is that Ive lost 3 stone since having a horrendous time with ds2.
And it hasnt fallen off whilst ive been sat on the sofa eating doritos, oh no its cost me a personal trainer, training 4-5 nights a week, eating 3 meals a day, cutting out all crap stuff, not eating carbs after lunch etc etc.

I feel like saying look I have to work to look like this, as most people do, it doesnt come naturally fgs. If I sat at home every night eating cake then I would look the same as you

its irrational I know but it really winds me up

Anyone who comments in a non-nice way is jealous.

Why on earth would you huff at a friend's jeans size? I just don't get it!

Oh dear at the non-pregnant friend. Jimmy Carr has a bit where he concludes that (on a train etc) 'it's better to see a pregnant woman stand than a fat woman cry'.

"If I sat at home every night eating cake then I would look the same as you"

please don't actually say that to anyone. It's not nice.

Oh stop showing off!

I can sympathise as exactly the same happened to me. I lost 3stone a few years ago (have since put some of it back on but that's another story sob) after dieting religiously and running 27 miles a week. It was blinkin' hard work and took a while but I stuck to it.

I got all sorts of comments such as 'oh you don't know what it's like not to be able to lose weight. It just falls off you.'

Eh?

That kind of comment really annoyed me. If it just 'falls off' I wouldnt have been overweight in the first place and wouldnt be now.

Eat more chips and then they won't say it

Think you need to chill out to be honest, no one has said anything I would class as derogatory to you - YABU

And btw why have you got to all that effort to loose weight if you don't want anyone to notice or mention it?!!!!

BAFE I havent said it but its not meant in a nasty way, and the people I am talking about are not particularly fat and certainly not obese, just regular prob size 14 women which is what I was after having ds2.

proudnsad I am deffo not showing off, I couldnt walk at the beginning of the year after 2 major operations so this is a huge achievement for me

lol @ the jimmy carr joke

"If I sat at home every night eating cake then I would look the same as you"

Moss isn't saying that the 'you' in this sits at home eating cake every night, just that she isn't someone wo is 'naturally skinny', she is someone who works at being slim, so saying 'it's alright for you' is wrong.

gibberish thats exactly my point. and no they havent been derogatory but not nice either, some friends have complimented me which is lovely but to make out that im just 'lucky to be skinny' or a bit of a fluke because Im in a size 8 or 10 isnt particularly nice

I love people commenting on my weight loss. I'm very proud of it. Just reply 'yes, the diet and exercise have really paid off - I feel great'

I wouldn't like that kind of comment any more than you did.

I've been a Weightwatcher for thirteen years (currently on sabbatical as I'm pregnant ), and they often warn about detractors.

People who are threatened by your weight loss, and are unpleasant to you.

Well done, btw!

swallowed but totally true if I sat at home every night and ate cake or crisps i would be a size 14-16, I dont, I go to the gym and am therefore not a size 14-16.
Do we have to pretend that people who are bigger are naturally bigger and those who are smaller are naturally smaller?

Some people have wider shoulders, a wider pelvis, larger ribcage, and would be unhealthy at anything below a 14.

Some people are naturally very slim and can eat cake and crisps all the time without putting on weight.

Most people are in the middle.

agree but neither of the people I am talking about look like Holly Willoughby who is naturally curvier all over.

Well done on your weight loss, and I am sorry that some people are belittling your efforts.

That is what this is about.

The fact that you worked hard to lose the weight and your friends are making sound like it was so easy, that you do not have to try hard to stay slim. I would be cross about that too.

YADNBU!!! I think it's so inappropriate for anyone to comment on my figure, ever- it's completely rude and no one else's business. I never look and make judgements about other women's bodies, for my own sanity as much as anything else, and i expect the same courtesy in a group of friends.

I have normally fluctuated between a 10 and a 14 over the years (am 5"11) and seem to have settled on a 12. I once suffered a bout of severe depression (pre dc) where i dropped to a size 8/10- very underweight for me. But the compliments that pored forth were incredible. Once i began to get better, i got quite fat. I didn't mind- I was happier. And much, much healthier. No compliments there. Seems it's better to be depressed and thin than happy and fat, eh?

Seething at the commenter who wrote:

And btw why have you got to all that effort to loose weight if you don't want anyone to notice or mention it?!!!!

like the only reason op could possibly want to lose weight is to be admired- she's not a dolly you know! It makes her feel good, nothing to do with anyone else.

And btw, the health risks of being severely underweight are much more immediate and fatal compared to being severely overweight.

Rant over!

I lost 2 stone about 7 years ago, it doesn't sound a lot but I'm only 5.2 and went from being a size 14 to a size 8. I was surprised at how bitchy people can be. I was sat in a meeting once and this awful woman introduced me to a colleague, she said "this is thedollshouse she has lost loads of weight and been promoted so we are wondering who she is shagging!" I was really pissed off as I barely knew the silly cow.

I've recently joined ww as I want to lose my excess baby weight that I gained after ds1. The weight I put on with ds2 just fell off without me needing to do anything but it is going to take some effort to get the rid of the 2 stone I put on with ds1. People have already started going on about how it isn't good for me to join ww. I don't understand, I am at least 1 stone overweight so surely it is positive that I want to do something about it. With ww I don't even feel like I am dieting, I'm just making sure that I watch what I eat and keep cakes and chocolate as as a weekly treat rather than something I eat everyday.

Dh is far from overweight but he wants to tone up and get fit so has been doing weights and wants to start running. Dh's mum was really cross with him and told me I need to sort him out and get him to stop the silly nonsence! I don't think I will ever understand some people.

I am so with you dolsshouse why cant people just either be nice or say nothing at all. And sally youre right, I dont lose weight to please other people, its so that I look and feel good and am healthy.

I dont feel like I diet either, sure Id love to eat stuff every night when Im watching tv, but I go for a Nandos on a weekend if we fancy it, or I'll have something nice on a sunday night, its all about moderation, and I think the exercise plays a huge part for me

actually the nicest thing was said by my pilates teacher who said 'i wish we had a photo of you when you first came back to class, you have done so well, and worked so hard and I know you cant always see it but I see you shape change every week' [smi;e] she is lovely and so very honest about her crap pelvic floor and the fact that even she looks shite in a bikini lol

I have a friend who went through a phase of saying 'it's because you don't eat enough' to EVERY complaint I made about myself, e.g. 'It's a bit chilly in here' 'No it isn't, you just don't eat enough'. 'I might go home, I'm a bit tired' 'It's because you don't eat enough'. I told her it was boring and she's stopped now

YANBU people say to me the weight just drops of you though you are so lucky grrrrrr! no I worked for this I didn't just wake up one morning all skinny and I am still really struggling to shift the last stone. Well done btw.