To be pissed off when people comment on my weight-loss?

[mosschops30]

I rang my friend yesterday and we were chatting and I said Id been shopping and bought jeans.
She huffed and said 'oh I suppose they were an 8 or a 10'
err yes they are!
Similarly met one of the mums from school who just been congratulated on being pg even though she's not and she said 'oh its alright for you youre skinny'.

The point is that Ive lost 3 stone since having a horrendous time with ds2.
And it hasnt fallen off whilst ive been sat on the sofa eating doritos, oh no its cost me a personal trainer, training 4-5 nights a week, eating 3 meals a day, cutting out all crap stuff, not eating carbs after lunch etc etc.

I feel like saying look I have to work to look like this, as most people do, it doesnt come naturally fgs. If I sat at home every night eating cake then I would look the same as you

its irrational I know but it really winds me up

You sound like a show off. Being skinny doesn't make you attractive. i have lost 2 stone over the last 7 months. Doesn't make me a any better or worse than anyone else because of it.

Why so angry curryfreak?

Well Done

They are jealous and feeling perhaps feeling guilty that they haven't made that much effort.

How is the OP showing off? She is not saying she looks attractive, even though I'm sure she does!

""If I sat at home every night eating cake then I would look the same as you"

Charming.

The problem I had when I dieted and lost 4 stone, was people trying to tempt me when I was out. "Oh go on, have a pudding, chocolate, biscuit" etc etc. It seemed at times like it was a sort of sport - get her to eat something and break her diet! It drove me mad - especially my mum who had spent a lot of time saying that I should lose weight, was a bit chunky and then as soon as I started to, kept trying to spoil it. It drove me mad - but I didn't give in.

It's a tricky one, I think people who feel/know they should lose weight are envious of your self control in sticking to a diet and says snidey things as as a way of conning themselves - most people were complimentary, and it was nice to hear people saying I looked well, but there is always someone to spoil it - just ignore them!

WTF are you on about curryfreak??

I havent said Im more attractive than anyone else, nor that I am better than anyone else for being thin.

Not sure what your problem is, and not sure I care

Every other poster has been able to give an opinion without being nasty, not sure what makes you so special!

I'm normally slimish, and my friend isnt, and when she saw me a month or two after having DD2 she said 'I'm so glad you've not just gone back down to your normal weight straight away' Oh, yeah, thanks for that confidence boost friend.

I've lost the three tons stones I put on, plus another half a stone and can concur...it's fucking hard work!

yanbu. I'm bloody emaciated at the moment. I used to be a size 12 and 9 stone, but 6 months of commuting, snow, stress, illness, IBS, toddlers and my dad dying of cancer have sent me into size 8 primark and under 8 stone, and my bottom has gone missing .

I am fed up with people saying "ooo, you need a good meal". Yes I do, and someone to cook it for me and to look after the children so I can get a rest and a decent nights sleep.

mosschops glad to hear you are doing ok now (I remember what you went through a few months ago).

I know where you are coming from and really these people who make such comments are just jealous!

I was a size 10/12 pre pregnancy and had an awful preganacy, birth and depression etc after. I became a size 14 and everyone used to 'lie' and say oh no you look fine - blah blah blah - then one woman at a baby clinic asked me if I was pregnant again (my DC was 7 months old) - I was so hurt - anyway I then went on to lose weight and am now a size 8 and feel so good about myself!

I get comments like 'gosh don't you eat!' ... 'it's alright for you etc etc etc...' 'don't lose any more weight you'll look like a skeleton'!!!

FFS I am 5'2 and a healthy size 8....its a height within my weight range...Just jealous I tell you...

Fair play to you well done.

Jealousy is a terrible thing.

My friend kept cooking for me when i went round to her's in the end i told her 'i'm not hungry i've just had my tea' she was horrifed, turns out she just wanted me to be as fat as her.

ive had the "feeders" pounce too.
After i had the twins , i lost 4 stone of weight and got down to just under 8 stone
Mil , and friends all tried to feed me ...every time there was tea there was choccy biscuits ect....so now ive got a stone and a half back on and feel like crying everytime i look in a mirror. ....last week had friend i hadnt seen ina while tell me im "starting to show" ...and then she asked if i knew what im having ?
i replied "salad for tea for the next 6 months"

drloves- well done.
why do people do that?

YANBU, people are just jealous as your weight loss shows them up if they are less than perfect (or rather more than perfect!)

i dont know tbh thesunshinesbrightly ..its up there with hairdressers who give crap hair cuts.... some people just have to be mean when someone else is looking and feeling good about themselves .
Loosing weight is damn hard work...if it was easy then we wouldnt have so much bitchiness when we do reach out goals.
Dont listen to the !

wow your weight-loss is amazing! Sounds like you have worked really hard.

I agree with the comment that they are jealous. I see why you would be wound up by what they say but try to not let it get to you and just be proud of your hard work.

i am fatter than you and do not sit at home eating cake or crisps every night, that is a bit offensive too, tbh.

i dont take offence op btw .... i did sit a home eating cake and crisps every night for a while .... thats how i went from 7 and a half stone to 12 stone.
eating biscuits and cheese did it this time ...not going to dance class anymore didnt help either.

well i genuinely dont eat cake or crisps or biscuits and cheese etc, prob just eat a bit much all round but it is offensive that people assume I must sit and stuff my face (I actually rarely even think about food/what I eat as DD is so demanding).

fanjo thats just awful , but assumptions are mostly wrong anyway .
I understand the running around all day after the dc`s .... often i didnt get a chance to eat a proper cooked meal ... which is why i resorted to eating crap when they were in bed.

they are jealous.

well done on your hard work! i bet you look great, remember to accept a few treats now and again though, happy is as good for you as a healthy weight is

can we talk about women [people like my mother] who think that size 8 is the best size for everyone and that if you happen to be a size 12 [like me] you must permenantly be on a diet to 'slim down'
thankfully none on this thread!
but does anyone else have friends/family with this mentality?

sorry, i like my arse and my cake

Lol. I've always been a size 8, apart from a brief period after ds2. I used to get really sick of the comments that I've had all my life - they seem innocuous enough, but when they're constant and said in that particular tone of voice...

Now I'm still a size 8 but have a bit more bulk due to doing some fairly serious martial art training and the comments have got a lot less (heh, perhaps they're scared bwahaha). When I do get them I feel more confident to just say "I just got lucky with the roll of the genetic dice... that and the 10+ hours of training I do every week", which tends to close down the conversation sharpish!

Being serious, they DO sound a bit jealous.

And well done.

lemonysweet - my mum does...she is constantly saying I will kill myself with my weight, I am 5'8 and size 14-16, so I am overweight, but not at death's door, she is about a size 10 and always on a diet.