To be furious that DD was alone when I came home??

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DD has asd and a statement which covers her from the moment she leaves home to the moment she gets home. IE she is never unsupervised for her own safety.

Got home from shopping earlier and the poor thing was sat on the sofa panicing, one phonecall to the school reveals there were hardly any kids on the transport bus so dd was home quite a lot earlier than usual.
The front door wasnt locked as i've lost my front door key, dp had left for work earlier and left it open for me/the builders.

Not good enough, these people are trusted to care for my child when i'm not there, heads will roll in the morning

Hmm. A Tory berating people for having the 'sense of entitlement' to expect a service provider to do what they are contracted and paid to do. That bodes well for the next five years...

Yanbu at all
If ds was not handed over to me personally I would be livid. Open door or not.
I have been late home from picking up my dd from school and the bus has already been, they do some more drop off's then try again.If I do not return childrens services would be involved.
The very reason our children are able to get specialist transport door to door is indicative of their needs.
I dread to think what would have happened if this happened to ds.
Give your mobile no to the escort, she/he should have a works phone and ask for their no, then if you should ever find yourself late or them early at least they will be able to let you know.

Cheesey yanbu if it states she has to be handed over, then thats what they should have done.

they cant change that fact, so yes you are entitled to answers.

Goblin - because she was p*ssed off and shaken and was probably sitting tthere thinking to her self "am I being unreasonable to think this"........oh I know I'll ask MN.......

Portia, mine can start a fire with flint and a metal shard. Try keeping him away from flint in Sussex.

Goblin, I agree, shouldnt tbh my unusual way of life is totally normal to me I expect/assume everybody else will understand.

And I suppose we could argue why post anything in here.

morecrackthanharlem .... no , a handover for a sn child is child is taken to parent in person ,(might not actually involve hand being held by escort to hand being held by parent but should be at lest standing infront of parent when left)

Just don't post anything important that matters to you.

and if we're on about sense of entitlement then I think that the OP is perfectly entitled to expect the service that she pays for to be delivered.

so.......on that basis YANBU ...........just don't bite their heads off as you did say later (once you'd calmed down a little bit ) that they've stuck to it for 6yrs so they don't sound like they usually cock it up

Portia, dosent work that way here. The LEA directed her to a different school which was nearer, however the school I chose for dd to attend is far better suited to her needs, for that I will be eternally grateful.

why shouldn't the op post here?

Just because she has a child with sn doesn't mean she has to stick to the sn area - does it?

The person dropping her off should of course have called you when they realised that there was no adult in the house.

I don't know what the protocol is for this - probably not normal to find house unlocked.

No, what usually happens if I've read it correctly is that the bus will pull up close to the front door, the OP will be waiting for the bus, she will see it pull up, will go out and meet her daughter off the bus, then go in the house with her daughter. This is what happens when Ds2 is dropped off at lunchtime. For Ds1 I have to walk a little bit away to a youth club for his drop off point.

Ha, you summed that wannabe.

I'm well aware sn is an exclusive club, why should the interweb be any different ??!!

YANBU

Not everyone can plan for every eventuality and if you have used a service for 6 years without them ever being early, then of course you are going to assume that you would be home before your child.

If nothing else this should make the carers reiterate that they need to check an adult is there to receive the child.

hi wannabe- i think what goblinchild is trying to say is not that you shouldnt post in other areas if you have a SN child - more that if you swim in shark infested waters your liable to get bitten. and AIBU is very shark infested, and to the untrained eye Apolcalypsecheeses post may have seemed unreasonable - more people would understand on the SN boards about how her child functions and what the transport service and being statemented entails.

i have a SN adult child. i post all over. so does goblinchild. its just the op would have had a deeper level of understanding tallking to parents in the same boat, rather than those who think a "bespoke" travel service is something to envy.

I have to say, if this had happened to my DD, I'd be more worried for the hamster than for anyone else... I left her upstairs for 10 minutes to get changed yesterday and found him an hour later munching his way out of DS's fort.

To all of you who dont know a statement is legally binding and they HAVE to abide by it, no matter what.

so carer should have waited til she saw AC.

thats why she is nbu.

Glad your daughter is OK - must have been a huge shock for the both of you (lots more cuddles tonight).

Call school and bus tomorrow - be diplomatic - it was a huge shock.

TBH - if the front door was open and this is a regular drop off to this address, he would probably thought - then fine.

Had it been shut I'm sure he wouldn't have driven off. So that's your responsibility.
Also does the bus have other children who have a sen - if so he may not be able to leave them while he find out where you are and go retreive your daughter from inside your house?

Please do call the school and bus company and just ensure that you are available much earlier - no idea where you are but here in London the traffic is variable and so my neighbour is just out there early waiting - added to the fact we live next to a school whcih means that the bus can be very very late because of school traffic and parking.

So glad your daughter is OK - if you make those calls (following a good night's leep) tomorrow and never leave your front door unlocked again, hopefully you can draw a line under this horrible experience.

I'm sure that many services run on previous experience and just get 'lax' - I'd hope this would give everyone a wake up call NEVER to be lax and make assumptions (as I think that this is what this is about - on all sides).

Put dd to bed with the biggest cuddle. Then have a glass of wine and got to bed early yourself in the knowledge that your dd is safe and sound and sort it out in the morning.

A few lessons to be had here - on all sides - and do make those calls in the morning.

Wannabe, don't be ridiculous, you know that SN people have to stay on the SN boards.

Goblinchild, you are hilarious!

AC, I would raise it with transport, school don't really have anything to do with drop off/pick up. I had a problem with DS2's transport once, when the carer told me they had gone to Morrisons on the way to school and done a bit of shopping, leaving 5 children with ASD in the car with just the driver.

Glad your daughter was unharmed. Hope she settles ok toniht for you and it doesn't affect her getting on/off the bus.

mmmmmm ice cream, strawberries and raspberries - heaven

Was the door open or shut but not locked?

oh shite - sorry - wrong thread