To be furious that DD was alone when I came home??

[ApocalypseCheese]

DD has asd and a statement which covers her from the moment she leaves home to the moment she gets home. IE she is never unsupervised for her own safety.

Got home from shopping earlier and the poor thing was sat on the sofa panicing, one phonecall to the school reveals there were hardly any kids on the transport bus so dd was home quite a lot earlier than usual.
The front door wasnt locked as i've lost my front door key, dp had left for work earlier and left it open for me/the builders.

Not good enough, these people are trusted to care for my child when i'm not there, heads will roll in the morning

you really are not nice

Alouise you really need to apologise for the being grateful comment.

So you are saying that the escort had no responsibility to hand over, in accordance with formal hand over procedures?

To be honest i think your both a little at fault.

Really they should of checked that somone was home before leaving her at the house, but equally you reall should of been home

my lo gets dropped off by a van at around 4 i mean they are not big ben they cant always time it perfect so they say be in between 20 to 4 and 20 past 4 any later or ealier they will ring.

their i have said my 2 pence

Maypole did you read the whole thread?

ApocalypseCheese YADNBU. My dad is a driver and my mum an escort for SN children, NEVER would either allow a child to just go into a property alone. They would need the parent to either collect the child from the taxi OR walk the child to the parent at the house... If the parent was not there they would need to take said child back to the school or wait with the child (what ever the school thought was best)...

What did they say today?

Had a chat with escort when she dropped dd off, acknowledged th door being open situation etc and the importance of face to face contact at drop off.

It seems dd had just ran off bus and straight into house as said by dd and clarified by driver.

I was firm but fair, explained there was fault on both sides however the agreement must be adhered to and that I must be informed ofany alterations to drop off times asap. Also made it very clear that if this were to happen again I will be taking things further.

Hopefully a case of lesson learnt the hard way.Still a worry tho.

I think transport should have waited ten mins, to the normal time.

your child is under 7 with sn ?

my child is 6 with sn i would be horified to find her home alone, however due to transport problems and no escort being provided i now pick her up and i am always ten mins early i would rather wait in car for ten mins than ever see her waiting for me.

the escort should have rang ur door bell to see if anyone was in i presume ur car wasnt there.

i do think ur brain cell comment wasnt very justified ! However people who dont have sn children should mayb be a bit more sympathic, your child at 7 would not be allowed to leave school grounds unless a parent there.

Glad it is sorted Apocalypse I hope that they never make that mistake again with anyones child...

I initially thought she was BU...........I'm struggling to see where she was so disgustingly rude to me as you've been to her.

Only one comment I see near the start that was directed at a number of people. But the rest of the way through the thread the OP has been, while perhaps a little frustrated that some of us were a bit thick with regards to the procedures and policies absolutely fine.

Are you talking about Wednesday-when England were playing at 3 o'clock???????

Sorry but everyone in the universe would know that the roads would be dead and so the journey would be quicker.
You are at fault and should have been home earlier. If your child is a 10 minute drive from school (relying on her going straight home and no other kids being on the bus) then you should be in before that time.

Again muminthemiddle did you read the whole thread?

That may be so but absolutely no reason for any child being left unsupervised or not notifying parents.

Hey, the world cups on, lets all start neglecting the children, what a great excuse we have !

No one else on here has neglected their own child though, have they. I picked mine up from school, at seperate times, regardless of what else was happenimg in the world.

oh ffs........read the sodding thread

Haven't read the whole thread.... but YANBU.

DD2 is collected by SN transport every day. Every day it is at 8.55 and 3.25. There is scarcely any variation beyond 5 minutes from these times. 10 minutes early doesn't seem to me to be cutting it very fine based on my experience.

Dd's bus has never been early, but on the occasions where it is late, the school or the driver always calls to let me know. I'm sure the same would happen if it was early. You should have been contacted about being early, and they should definitely not just let your dd wander in to the house without checking there's an adult around. I agree that it really isn't good enough.

I made one narky comment which to be honest has a large element of truth.

It gets incredibly frustrating that even on the interweb parents of sn children must only mix with/share their problems with those who are in the same situation quite simply because the majority of rest of society seems unable to use their brain, think outside the box sometimes and realise that for some people life is both very difficult and different, but no, the can't do that and so they hurl about ill informed nonesense .

Haven't read whole thread but a few things come to mind to share with OP:

1. as soon as I saw it was posted yesterday I thought both school and dropper-offers wanted rid of responsibilities to watch match
2. You were rude to accuse people of lacking braincells (even though many of us do - actually all of us do on some subjects!)
3. Leaving your door open was the killer really, your DD's carers wouldn't have left if she couldn't get in the house, they are bound to think that if front door is open someone is there.

Over all, I think yab(a tad)u

FFS, you cant be angry with anyone! you left your front door unlocked, they saw her walk in, anyone would presume there was someone there surely? on the other hand your asking for trouble in many forms by not locking your front door, you dont know who could be in that house unlawfully, you should get a door that actually locks for everyones benefit! then at least when your Daughter returns home they wouldnt see her walk into a house without a key!

Although there is a degree of time pressure on these services - my driver says he's only meant to wait 3 minutes at each house, and if people aren't home or ready, he just has to drive on.

But as they were early, I don't think that's an excuse in your case.

And if I want to post on AIBU about an issue regarding the treatment or whatever of either of my special needs children then I chuffin well will do

Might even educate a few people along the way

WHY CAN'T PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT THE OP IS NOT TALKING ABOUT A F ING NT CHILD.
THE ESCOURT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHOULD HAVE LEFT THE CHILD IN HER/HIS CARE WITHOUT ADULT SUPERVISION, THAT IS THE WHOLE POINT OF PEOPLE WITH SN HAVING HOME/SCHOOL TRANSPORT.
IT ISN'T A LUXURY, IT IS IN PLACE TO KEEP CHILDREN/TEENS/ADULTS SAFE.

YANBU. I have no experience of children with sn but even I can see that if the transport company are contracted to hand your child over to a designated adult then hand over they should and opening the door, letting her off and driving off isn't handing over. If they had left a 6yo at home on their own without checking for an adult the responses on this thread would be different.

I posted too slowly, sorry AC. My grin was in response to your post.
The majority still don't get it, and now the thread is too long for those with short attention spans to read all the comments.