To be furious that DD was alone when I came home??

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DD has asd and a statement which covers her from the moment she leaves home to the moment she gets home. IE she is never unsupervised for her own safety.

Got home from shopping earlier and the poor thing was sat on the sofa panicing, one phonecall to the school reveals there were hardly any kids on the transport bus so dd was home quite a lot earlier than usual.
The front door wasnt locked as i've lost my front door key, dp had left for work earlier and left it open for me/the builders.

Not good enough, these people are trusted to care for my child when i'm not there, heads will roll in the morning

oh and I didn't realise that we weren't allowed to changed our opinions

Alouiseg have you actually read and understood the basic points here?

The OP PAYS for a specific transport service which MUST hand her dd to her or, one assumes, a designated adult. No matter what happened with the unlocked door or the time at which the OP arrived home, this procedure did not happen. You really do spout some rubbish.

OP - YANBU, they failed to follow the prescribed procedure. Hope having a word with them this afternoon gets across the seriousness of their lapse.

toccata you obviously have to apply for a special dispensation..

weblette - OFGS no-one ever tells me anything round here - over 5yrs I've been posting and no-one told me I had to apply for a special dispensation to change my opinion?

Do you have to apply for a separate one for each change of mind/heart???

I don't get this about new facts emerging halfway through the thread. The OP clearly stated:

"DD has asd and a statement which covers her from the moment she leaves home to the moment she gets home. IE she is never unsupervised for her own safety."

How could it have been spelled out more clearly? The OPs dd has a statement saying that her disability means she must never be left unsupervised. All there in the first line of the OP. Or am I missing something?

Depends how much of a flip-flopper you are I guess I'm usually too chicken to post anyway

silver frog.

i may not agree that this thread is best placed in AIBU but i didn't say it should be in SN.

chat or other subjects is less hostile.

and i agree with you that it's a shame these threads descend into bun fights but as we're obviously in the minority, i think if it's support OP wanted, she'd be better posting elsewhere.

Ok, both parties at fault here. No handing over, door left insecure, no parent there to greet. end of.

wot cory said

toccata you can buy an annual pass. £100. Cheques made to S. PolarBear.

Right, Weetabix. So, try my 'someone else's four-r-old' scenario above. Would you do it?

aaah, my friend is here again

nah. not OP's fault her door was open. she cam leave her door unlocked if she bloody well wants to. not being there when they were early also not OP's fault.

this is entirely escorts fault for not doing their job properly.

blinks, I know you didn't say that, and I din't suggest you did.

I was just commenting that there is a general feeling on SN that it is not worth the trouble to post outside of that board.

Cory - I don't understand that either. I thought the OP was pretty clear (the only bit she didn't mention was that she paid for the service!)

notsure waht else "can't be left unsupervised" is supposed ot mean

but to give th majority the benefit of the doubt, I suppose they don't automatically know school transport rules (doesn't take a genius to work it out though!)

but, in the haste to flame the OP, I guess the post wasn't comprehended fully.

cory - because from that first post I didn't fully get the picture that she has to be handed over.

And al my friends and I are the type to lock our doors when we're out (unless I've left it wide open and not even shut it ) so I thought it natural to assume that the escort assumed someone was home.

I hadn't realised at the first post that an actual HANDOVER had to take place.

Well I understood that to mean, can't be left alone, e.g. while someone pops to the shops for 10 mins.
Not - can't be in the house while responsible adult has a shower.
My 3yo is 'alone' while I'm in the shower, but I'd never pop to the postbox, even though it may take the same length of time.
Still doesn't make it right, but that was the thinking

we often/usually leave our door unlocked. I don't think that it is that odd - depends on where you live I guess.

lancelottie no chance, not a cats chance in hell, wouldn't feel good about this.

we often/usually leave our door unlocked. I don't think that it is that odd - depends on where you live I guess.

yes Stealth - that was my thought as well, obviously I hadn't factored in the ASD

OP - you cut it a bit fine with the time but YANBU. Hope DD is okay.

From reading the OP's posts elsewhere her dd has complex medical needs.

"in the haste to flame the OP, I guess the post wasn't comprehended fully".

Yes, exactly. It was all there in the op. I think it was the lack of comprehension on behalf of one or two of the first yabu posters that caused AC to post her slightly caustic remark about there being more braincells in the SN topic. She had a point!

well actually no it wasn't my haste to "flame the OP".......it was me being daft

toccatanfudge well done for changing your mind.
no law to say you can't