The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 2

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Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from ApocalypseCheese, CheerfulYank, Anyfucker, HairExtensions, gomummy, tired mum and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

Good you have her mil cos i am not giving mine away

Hello all! Oh Tea at least we stand together on the MIL problems, undermining is exactly the word too. Nice to not be alone anyway.

I now envision my imaginary fairy-godMIL as a combination of Tiredmum's and Mumcentre's MILs. ( too btw) I have resolved that when I must deal with my RL MIL, I will mentally go to my "happy place" imaginary MIL. Thank you, at least you gave me something to work from in dreaming her up! LOL. Needed that. Been a long few days. I haven't even eaten yet today. Must go grab a snack.

bit late for a snack here nearly bed time.

just remember that image gomummy, whenever your mil is near.

Hello, all!

Sorry to hear that, gomummy...what did she do? Tell the bench allll about it now, darling. I did not get along with my MIL at all at first. She's very reserved and so is DH and most of the family. I don't know who they expected him to bring home and eventually marry, but this bubbly blond chatterbox was not it. She was very cold to me and I in turn was terrified of her.

But in time things changed. Their family went through some very hard things and I must say, I am a rock in a crisis. No really! I feel I can say that as it's one of my very few attributes. Also things changed when DS came along; she adores him and thinks I am good mother. My BIL has her other GC and he and his wife totally spoil them and they are, frankly, not very nice children, so DS and I look very good by comparison. So yes, I like my MIL as well now. I stopped caring what she thought and I think she respects me more for that than her other DIL who is sort of simpering around her.

Oooh, vodka lemonade you say? Don't mind if I do!

Nothing new or different Cheerful, just not very nice to pull it on Father's Day. She is much nicer to me than her other poor DILs, so I suppose I should still be grateful in comparison. She is very "high maintenance" and I bent over backwards to be nice to her and for years thought we had a great relationship -- only to slowly see the passive aggressiveness for what it was. Later learned of all the undermining comments, etc., to DH and family. Have only seen it clearly in the last few years since DS. I have no tolerance for such things so just ignore it as it is DH's mum and I can't exactly treat it the way I would in anyone else. But I'm not great with ignoring things like that, things I naturally want to call people on. So my blood boils.

Cheerful our situation sounds sort of similar in that I am also a "rock in a crisis" type person and have been for their family, and my MIL v. much respects my parenting style; these are the only two things that have me treated "better" than the other DILs. Were it not for those two things, I would suffer the wrath that they do, which is much worse. And they are some of the most lovely women I have ever met in my life!

Ahh, rant over. Much better now actually, thanks!

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WELCOME BACK!!!! How are you J?

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Very well, thanks!

Has been pretty quiet on here lately. Alien abductions it seems...

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She has had a few names since then (cheekypinksox and cheekybigbrotherfan were a couple I think but could be wrong). Cheesy is apocalypsecheese, but think she was that for a while before you were taken away from us! I must come up with something creative for a new name one of these days. Still waiting for Tiredmum to give hers up!

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are you BU???

No idea how it works or how they'd know it was you?

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Well, glad you're still around anyway.

I told you, gomummy, we are the same person.

Hi, Naughty! We've missed you!

Ladies...

I think you just may be right Cheerful!

Can I ask where/how to find the book you mentioned on another thread "Old Turtle?" It sounds perfect for what we are looking for.

That's so funny gomummy, I was just coming to post about that! It's a gorgeous book, one of my absolute favorites. It's fairly easy to find here because Douglas Wood, the author, is a Minnesotan as well. (All the good ones are... ) Maybe you could get it from Amazon? It's just called Old Turtle. If you can't find it anywhere let me know and I can send you a copy.

Whenever I'm on an "is God real" thread I think of the part in the book where it says, "And the people started to argue, about who knew God and who did not, and whether God WAS, or was not." It's very good, I think you'll like it. Let me know if you can find it!

Hello, Mumcentre! Fancy you stopping by . Fancy a vodka lemonade?

got any Brandy?...if not I love a free drink ! ..ice please

What a great day, I am so happy to finally see some rain that I have just taken DS puddle jumping!

Cheerful, I searched amazon and found two by that name by someone named Douglas Wood with co-authors, could you possibly tell me which one it is?

Douglas Wood & Jon J. Muth
Douglas Wood & Cheng-Khee Chee

Both appear to be called Old Turtle but have different looking covers...?

Mumcentre, Brandy was my after-work drink of choice pre-DS, I'm sure there's lots still around here somewhere, coming up!

It's the one with Cheng-Khee Chee. The one with Jon J Muth is I believe a sequel of sorts, called Old Turtle and the Broken Truth. It's great too, but for my money there's nothing like the straight up Old Turtle.

Puddle jumping is so fun, isn't it? It's ridiculously hot and muggy here, I'd love some rain.

Thanks Cheerful, have ordered it!

Puddle jumping is great. So is trying to "catch" raindrops with DS, we had a blast. We have been desperate for rain. We grow all of our veg and fruit for the year so it's a big concern for us when it's so dry.