young mum prejudice

[SweetMuff]

hi i am new to this site!!
just wondered if anyone else feels the same about being treated bad because your a young mum? it really gets my goat.
ok im 22 with 3 dc under4. BUT -
they were all planned
they all have the same dad
we own our house
i work and my partner works
we dont claim benefits, except cb, which correct me if im wrong, everyone is entitled to
and last but not least i am a bloody good mum!

so why all the patronising comments and filthy looks????????
my dc are never seen looking dirty, scruffy and are wel behaved and have good manners (apart from the baby obv).

AIBU?

Baaa

Feel the need to put in my twopence worth....

If everybody stop being so bloody self righteous and 'Oh poor me' then perhaps our children will stand a chance of being actual human beings instead of having all these ridiculous neuroses thrust upon them...

Feel inadequate? Doesn't everybody at some point?
Think people are talking about you? Same applies.
Worry that people are questioning your worthiness as a parent? Same again.

If you didn't worry at all then you wouldn't give a shit and so would be a bad Mum.

Why don't we all give ourselves a pat on the back for being good Mum's whether we are 16 or 50 and stop being so bloody trivial!!!!

Gaaaaaah!

OOH good response!

So can we assume that you're lying out of your arse about everything else? You're a hairy trucker of 35 really aren't you?

If not, do tell us how you have managed to amass such a fortune at such a tender age given that most law students I know of your age are paying off their student loans until they're about 30.

My MiL had 3 by 23. We have our issues but she's a fantastic mum (except she completely mollycoddles middle ds). She fosters really difficult, wrecked kids now she's in her forties.

Therefore, young mum/ old mum: no difference.

I'm 22, have one so far. I like it. Everything has sprung back nicely...

Sweetmuffin, she said her partner was in teh legal profession> I have a fiver on him being the post boy

Hurley - do they pay the post boy enough for private education? Or maybe the OP comes from a terribly wealthy family? What a shame her education seems to have been so wasted. And no, I don't mean because she's had children but because she doesn't appear to be able to string a sentence together, much less a cogent argument

Seriously... could you come across any more areseholey?

and yes I meant arseholey before you start on spelling...

it's not a word I feel I have to type often hence the glaringly obvious typo....

But I HAD to type it. I wanted to shout it.

ARSEHOLEY.

Urgh, is this lets pick on those who don't have wonderful jobs day or something ??

Have a barney with the op if you must, but leave postmen or whatever out of it please.

Are you talking to me bethjeff?

ApocalypseCheese - I have utmost respect for people that work for RM and the postroom but this is about the OP being down on people that don't earn much. Banging on about private education is just ill-mannered. And doubly so when your kids aren't even old enough to hold a pencil

I know that we have moved on from talking about young mums, but anyway...

I have looked up Posie's stats about teenage mothers being 3 times more likely to have PND. I have also found that mothers on low incomes are 4 times more likely to have PND.

As most teenage mothers are on low incomes, it doesn't seem to suggest that their age is a direct factor in their depression.

I would like to see some stats that compare mothers of different ages with other mothers in the same socio-economic group.

OP, have you considered the possibility that people are giving you filthy looks because, despite your apparent riches, you sound rough and nasty?

Maybe the looks are actually ones of terror; you do sound like the kind of person who would bottle someone as soon as look at them.

There is a Lord of Muff

He is quite young

How strange. Not a word from MsMuff.

Ladies, this kerfuffle is all very well, but I think we're missing the really important point here - how on earth do you get a job that pays enough for childcare for three under-4s?! (and presumably without a degree?!)

Cause I really need to get me one of those!

Crikey...it's all Harry Hill...FIGHT!!!! I think I'd hedge a bet on who would win. Young mums are great and so are older ones...I used to be a young one and now I'm an older one...

I had just turned 22 when I had ds1, both worked at the time, married and owned our home home. Have to say I never noticed any looks or comments but I fully admit to be completely obtuse about these things.

I would have said 'gets my goat in those' days too.

It's only recently I've started to feel judged having my 4th at 28. I think that people feel I'm a breeder. Was patronised rather well by a doctor on thursday in fact. I don't feel she did her job well enough though so I will be going higher on that one. why let it get to me?

I too want a job like that. It might be worth me going back to work!

ahhh
it didn't refresh properly so theres about 15 posts I didn't read...

Ummm... LOL. Ta'ra, SweetMuff... Thank you so much for fulfilling very prejudice you were on here to complain about. My irony meter has exploded.

Off you fuck back under your bridge. No Billy Goats here.

Lovely. What a charmer. Have just reported the last SMuff post, hopefully will get pulled.

Sorry am PMSL at that latest post. That is the bloody funniest thing I have read in ages...

ROFL!!