to think that being an escort is a valid career choice?

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I have a friend who is 19, unqualified and attractive. She was a lap dancer but is now considering escort work. She has tried it a few times and appears able to earn £200 an hour working for what appears to be a reputable (well as reputable as you can get I suppose!) agency in London. I have been thinking about how I feel about this (and discussing it with dh) and can see why she is doing it and I sort of think that I do think that it is a valid career choice (as long as she sticks with the agency who provide back up etc).

Mal - I wondered if Figa is after some......how can I put this.......ladies to have on her books??? Was that your line of thinking?

I have no agenda at all.I work inpendently.I am not looking for anyone at all.I only wanted to put my opinion on here.Reported me for what?

No, I think she hails from elsewhere, I doubt "she" is even female - there has been a history of similar posts from people from a vile website that reviews certain services.

well just for the record Figa, my DP wouldn't touch a prostitute with a stolen cock, nevermind his own.

LOL figa. Of course you don't deserve respect. Love this new way of thinking where you can do what the hell you like and sell your body for money and still demand respect.

ooooooooohhhh I know which one you mean now.

ha, nearly got suckered in.....

Figa, even if you're genuine, you lost any right to respect the second you started implying that our husbands pay women like you for sex.

Just so we're clear.

oh go on then, I'll bite again.

Figa - men who sleep with prostitutes do not respect them

Women who take money off men for sex do not respect the men, or themselves

Husbands who turn a blind eye to their wives sleeping with prostitutes do not respect their wives and are only marginally better than pimps

HTH

wives sleeping with prostitutes?! WTF does that mean

You know what I meant....

I have not read all 12 pages of this thread so I'm sorry if someone has already bought this up but I read a post on relationships yesterday from an ex escort. I was quite open minded about these thing but that thread really effected me. Also looked at punternet for the first time because of that thread and god I wish I hadn't, the men on there, they way they 'rate' the escorts like they are just a thing, not a person disgusted me. Also the way they talk about their wives is replusive. I always thought it should be legalised to make it safer for the escorts but after reading all of that yesterday I now feel sick and sad about the whole thing. I don't know how to link to the thread but would encourage anyone thinking of going into that job to read it before.

Please don't type the name of that site in an identifiable way - it attracts them like flies.

Wrong Gravitas, there is so much fun to be had reading these threads.

Ticktock, it is legal in the UK.

I thought dittany had returned till I realised this is an old thread. It's really different here without her isn't it?

ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT

Perhaps I am being unreasonable, but I thought that 'highly educated' people could spell.

Go figa.

(See what I did there..?)

"she could more into the organisational side, much of which seems to be done by women."

PMSL at the phrase "career structure"

She would then be a "Madame" and progress to gain the trust of young women and exploit them

Just for the record, some here may have a different view, but that is not the same as giving a damming judgement.

So to answer you OP, I do not think it is a valdid career choice, just a second income at best which could lead to all sorts of physical and psychological damage down the line. Your friend is 19 and sounds a bit vulnerable to me, better for her to get a low paid regular job and get a bit of life experience. As an escort, I doubt that she will mix with "worthy" people. Sincerely hope she has not seen Pretty Woman!

Highly educated eh?

I really didn't want to read this thread but feel I need to comment. I have name changed for this as I post often.

There is no way to justify prostituting yourself, that is exactly what escorting is.

I started escorting at 19 to pay the rent, very bad choice. I was under the illusion it was all okay, not much worse than one night stands, yadda yadda. What a complete load of shit.

If she does this, even if she "okay" with it for a while when doing it, it will come back and bite her up the arse, she will regret it. I learned this the hard way.

Although I made a lot of money and it was a lot, I charged a fair bit more than your friend and my clients were the nice dressed, well mannered types it didn't change anything. You are still there for the same reason, you are not looked at as a person, just a disposable fuck toy.

I find it hard to live with myself now, I contemplated suicide many times and am now completely broken as I will never be the same person I was when I was younger.

I'm posting this because if there's a way for me to let even 1 person know that it's not going to be the way they think it will then I will be happier.

I got smarter and unlike many unlucky people realised I was completely brainwashed.

If you let her do this, condone it whatever then it's you that deserves to be in her position as you could have saver her a lifetime of mental health problems (at the very very best).

Just realised this is an old thread. I should really start looking at dates.

The OP's friend seems to have a rather polarised view of what constitutes a career opportunity. Only she seems to assume she can either kill people or fuck them.

Glad you posted though, KnowNoLies. People still might see it that need to.
I worked on the edges of that sort of thing for a while. When I was asked why I turned down some huge sums of money I was offered to do escorting, my reply was always 'No matter how much they offer to pay, I'd still never be able to afford the therapy'.

I don't know one ex escort/prostitute who is not f*cked up in some way.

figa sounds suspiciously familiar to me.