to think that being an escort is a valid career choice?

[whatkatydidathome]

I have a friend who is 19, unqualified and attractive. She was a lap dancer but is now considering escort work. She has tried it a few times and appears able to earn £200 an hour working for what appears to be a reputable (well as reputable as you can get I suppose!) agency in London. I have been thinking about how I feel about this (and discussing it with dh) and can see why she is doing it and I sort of think that I do think that it is a valid career choice (as long as she sticks with the agency who provide back up etc).

Given the concern here about the "circumstances surrounding the people providing the service" I'm assuming that no one posting along those lines buys cheap clothes made in sweat shops, mobile phones containing nasty substances mined by children or coffee from African dictatorships. I suspect that many British escorts have more choice than many of the people (often really small children) working in near slavery to provide cheap fodder for our first world life styles but I guess out of sight...

you know exactly what I mean.

you are spouting a line.
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Prostitution is not equivalent to the products described above. They are things, made by people, who though working in horrid conditions are not necessarily ashamed to work. One can always hope that those little children will get out of the sweat shops and that the dictators will fall

BUT

Prostitution is about the most basic essence of our humanity, of our bodies and the connection between men and women. Women are not a minority or a local group, we're half of the population and are sexually bullied into submission, by being called either frigid or slutty. Humans should not be bought and sold, like I shouldn't be able to sell my liver so I shouldn't be selling my vagina.

The only way that women were forced to stay indoors and breed and not be allowed to work and vote and earn money was by controlling their sexuality.

It's simply a cop out to say if you don't mind sweat shops then you shouldn't mind prostitution

I'm not saying that prostitution is the same as these things.
We had moved from talking about escorts to talking about the men who buy from escorts.
I was pointing out that many of us (I suspect) buy products every day which are produced by people in pretty dire circumstances and with little choice in their lives. Therefore saying that a man who gives a consenting adult £200 for preagreed activities is somehow truely terrible; whilst buying products from people who I suspect have less choice (and in some cases a shorter life expectancy - it is currently hovering at about 40 in parts of Africa) than your average escort seems a bit hyprocritical - that's all

I do understand that Whatkatydidathome, and I'm not saying that you are copping out, but sometimes the "there's sweat shops you know" is used as an argument against the very seriousness of prostitution... as something that is kind of minute in comparison to the big issues. The way I see it, in those villages in Africa, it's again the prostitutes that have it worst, and all the sexual violence tends to be addressed to women.
Funny isn't it how children now call people or situations gay when they make fun of them? I really think that we've somehow returned to the seventies, where women are darlings, gays are hilarious and real men can't quite control their penises.
I wouldn't have such an issue with prostitution if there were just as many heterosexual men prostituting themselves to men and women, with their ass on the line, so to say. But it's a woman's job to sell sex, and I hate how it's attempted to be normalized by calling it escorting or by being presented as a supposedly lifestyle choice.

I did wonder how long it would take for the "sweatshop" "argument" to be wheeled out...

Dittany...right from page 1, it has been suggested that the OP is not quite what she purports to be

a journalist, a student writing a dissertation...or a seriously fucked-up individual

take your pick

I'd be more worried for her safety and mental health to be honest- I probably sound really scare mongery but the likelyhood of her being attacked and assaulted etc are so much higher than your average girl. This agency might be reputable but she's not protected in someones hotel room is she?
The other thing is I'd imagine shed find it difficult to ever look at men the same way, a friend of mine was a lap dancer in a prestigious gents club but hates hates hates men, like all men, thinks they're alllll pigs and is forever slating the whole lot of em.
IMO- she should go back to college and get some qualifications

Escort is just another word for Legalised Prostitution for me.

I am a mother an escort and a wife.I am happy,healthy and we have a great life.I am highly educated and made an informed choice togo into escorting.All the messages on here are deluded.Its very likely that your boyfriends/husbands have booked an escort,half of my clients are married lawyers,docters and proffessional educated men.They do not abuse me or treat me badly.They respect me as I do them.I have met some great people and had some great conversations and yes great sex.Last night I smiled to myself as my lawyer client went outside the hotel room to call his wife.Do you all judge him too?well if you opened your eyes you would see how this secret world is so so common.I am your average woman,you would never know what I do,am the mum in asda,the mum kissing her son bye to school.I am not ashamed of what I do.I am not on drugs or have a pimp,am intelligent,well balanced and enjoy what I do.Am ready to be slated but I had to have my say here for all the working girls out there.We deserve respect.

This thread is 2 years old

HTH

My DH knows and accepts it.We are strong enough to not let it bother us.If you have done it before you will already know the ropes? x

I have reported your post "figa", your agenda is so obvious that it's practically transparent.

"They respect me as I do them"

LOL