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To be really upset for my friend

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loolop · 23/05/2010 21:03

It's her dd's 3rd birthday on wednesday and she had a little party for her at her house today...and me and my dd were the only ones who turned up. Was really sad my lovely friend had done lots of food, games, toys in the garden and 8 party bags out on the side. Was awful, her nan was there also but that was it. Invitees, who were a mixture of family and friends, had all said they were coming and then didn't bother. Most didn't even bother to ring/text to say why.

Just feel awful for her, she's a single mum who works f/t and had put time,effort and money in to today. Just feel grrrr on her behalf!

Her poor dd said as we were leaving 'is my party finished mummy, only dd came'

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 23/05/2010 21:04

Aw, the poor love .

Your friend needs to have words I think.

StewieGriffinsMom · 23/05/2010 21:05

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CharlotteYorkGoldenblatt · 23/05/2010 21:05

Your poor friend

CatJosephine · 23/05/2010 21:06

Of course you are not unreasonable! that's awful. I don't think there is anything you can do.

thisisyesterday · 23/05/2010 21:07

omg that has nearly made me cry!
what kind of horrid people do that? i hope she has spoken to them and given them a piece of her mind

poor little girl

wukter · 23/05/2010 21:07

My heart goes out to her.
I'm nonconfrontational by nature but if it was me I'd have to pull them up on it.

firsttimemum77 · 23/05/2010 21:07

Aw reading that has really upset me! What kind of friends and family are they to just not turn up! Poor thing!

pjmama · 23/05/2010 21:08

That's despicable! At least now she knows who her real friends are, doesn't she? I hope the rest of them never get an invitation again!

MrsSawdust · 23/05/2010 21:08

for your friend and her dd. What horrid people to do that to a child. At least they have you and your dd.

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Conundrumish · 23/05/2010 21:11

Poor little girl. I imagine it was because it was hot and people were too lazy, but what hideously bad manners.

foureleven · 23/05/2010 21:12

Oh that is the saddest thing I have heard. Thank goodness at least you went!

OTTMummA · 23/05/2010 21:13

I would no longer be on speaking terms with anyone who accepted the invite and didn't come and also didn't phone to let her know! unless of course they had a good excuse for ruining a little girls bday, like they were dying etc.
How utterly vile those people are, i hope she can find new friends who are actually friends, and as for the family members ! disgusting.

Baileysismyfriend · 23/05/2010 21:13

That is so sad, poor mum and her DD.

Some people are so bloody rude, I hope she manages to let them know how disappointed her DD was.

foureleven · 23/05/2010 21:13

What with this and the poor accountant guy on Britains got talent I think Im going to cry.

maristella · 23/05/2010 21:14

that happened to ds when he was very small
it really pissed me off. was it really too much trouble?
my neighbours were great. i texted them asking if their daughter would like to come over and join in as only one guest had arrived, she turned up and saw the food id prepared then ran home and brought her siblings back with her they played games with the little ones and i learned a hard lesson about who to bother with next time.

blackflyinyourchardonnay · 23/05/2010 21:14

Oh your poor friend and her DD.

Also feeling a bit teary here. Awful behaviour.

traceybath · 23/05/2010 21:14

How mean.

Although wasn't there a thread on friday from someone who wasn't going to go to some parties as they wanted to make the most of the weather and go camping?

paisleyleaf · 23/05/2010 21:14

"is my party finished mummy"

Thank goodness you went.

mummytotwins · 23/05/2010 21:14

your poor friend, I hope the people who didnt turn up feel suitably ashamed of themselves

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loolop · 23/05/2010 21:31

Sorry for making everyone teary! I came home and starting bawling to dp. Have been on the phone to her tonight and she is mortified & now v.v angry! Am tempted to drive back to give her a huge hug. Among the lame (imo) excuses were 'we came to the beach this morning and the kids really want to stay here for the day' and 'some friends popped round just as we were leaving'.

I don't know any of the other people who were supposed to show but my friend is quite feisty and will no doubt let them know the impact it had.

Oh it was so so sad, never ever want that to happen to anyone ever again. I also saw the camping thread - I guess you always think 'oh well everyone else will be there'. This what happens when everyone thinks that!!

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babyicebean · 23/05/2010 21:33

It happened to my youngest this year and I 2was spitting nails.The 3 little friends he had invited didn't turn up, one was in A&E so I let it go but the other two live either side of us and would have seen the baloons and banner on the door.Was crosser as he had taken round his invitations that we had gone and bougfht specially.Thankfully family came round later on so we had let him nap so he didnt realise the time difference.Never had a sorry or an explanation as to why and not even a birthday card was dropped in.

SirBoobAlot · 23/05/2010 21:42

The poor girl - and her poor mum It really grates me when people just don't turn up. I hope she had a nice time with the people who did make the effort though

MrsHarkness · 23/05/2010 21:50

OMG that poor little girl, my heart could break reading the comment she made about the end of her party, how can some people be so nasty