To be really upset for my friend

[loolop]

It's her dd's 3rd birthday on wednesday and she had a little party for her at her house today...and me and my dd were the only ones who turned up. Was really sad my lovely friend had done lots of food, games, toys in the garden and 8 party bags out on the side. Was awful, her nan was there also but that was it. Invitees, who were a mixture of family and friends, had all said they were coming and then didn't bother. Most didn't even bother to ring/text to say why.

Just feel awful for her, she's a single mum who works f/t and had put time,effort and money in to today. Just feel grrrr on her behalf!

Her poor dd said as we were leaving 'is my party finished mummy, only dd came'

I had something similar when we moved to a new area. We don't have family here so only invited nursery people to DD's 3rd birthday party at home, who we didn't really know (but the kids knew DD). We had food for parents as well as kids, games organised and a huge cake and everything - only 2 turned up (out of 12 invited and 8 acceptances). We gave 4 pieces of the cake to each kid!

But DD had fun, two friends was enough, they had a riot, and I got quite friendly with the two mums who had bothered.

The year after, we went to a soft play and people were a bit better at replying and turning up, probably because they know you have to pay per child. However DD's birthday is in Jan so they may not have had anything better to do.

We owe her a party now because I couldn't face it in the snow... I'm dreading it - all the preparation, arranging, not to mention paying for it - and am expecting about a 20% attendance rate!!!

Still, it has to be done...

Hugs to your friend and her DD. Even if the arseholes are in the majority, they are still arseholes. It is a really bad thing about modern life that people treat invitations so casually.

Cannot believe she has been called over sensitive!

Tbh I see it quite often both on here and in real life, this attitude of being unable to take a couple of hours out your life to do something which you may not choose to do. So bloody rude and selfish.

This OP should have a warning for hormonal pregnant women. It ha made me feel so sad for that poor girl.

It is beyond rude, I cannot understand how anyone could just not turn up?

'is my party finished mummy, only dd came'

Utter bastards

loolop, what a lovely idea to show this thread to your friend but wouldn't it be great to able to show it to the nasty people who didn't turn up.
The only brightside is that at least the poor birthday girl won't remeber this but how very sad for your friend who will never be able to forget it.
If only there was something we could all do to make it better.

Her own family members stood up a 3-year-old and then had the nerve to call her oversensitive?

Gimme their numbers. I'll gladly call them up and say, 'Oh, btw, a bunch of pals of hers think you're an arsehole, even if she's too polite to tell you that. And fuck you. How's that for oversensitive?'

'Is it getting more common just to stand people/ little children up? How horrible. I don't think I could let it go either.'

Yes.

A friend of mine also ditched a so-called friend in a cafe yesterday. The gal was already on the phone when she walked in, then proceded to text away at the table, interrupting teh conversation. When the phone rang, she took it.

My pal sat there for about 5 minutes whilst the gal yammered on with no sign of stopping, then she got up and left.

Can you post your email on here so we can send you little presents off each of us to the girl? That might make up for it??

TinyPants - look for frangipan

I would send a little gift for definite.

That poor poor little girl. That is nasty of people not turning up

I was wondering if we could club together and get quite a nice present? As the poor little girl didn't get any toys from her so-called friends.

Or would that be compromising your anonymity too much loolop?

But we could easily gather together enough for something like

this

or

this

I'm definitely in if it doesn't compromise your anonynimity (sp?)

found you Hully

This happened to a mum in my son's class. About 5 out of 10 people confirmed then didn't turn up and as it was a soft play place she had paid for all the food. I would have been livid. She is on benefits too so it would have been a lot of wasted money

bibbitybobbityhat - that's such a nice idea, you can count me in. Note of caution though - wouldn't want to come across as considering op's friend as "charity case". Because really, it's not about the presents, it's about the thoughtlessness, isn't it?

No, I know, presents seem inadequate but I feel like everyone else that I just want to do a little something to make the mum and her dd feel better. So that they know people are not all thoughtless and selfish.

I hope that OP's friend would know that we'd be doing this for her DD not out of charity or pity but because a little girl had her birthday spoiled and some nicer people want to do something nice for her. That's how I see it anyway

That's how I see it too - just OP's friend bound to be feeling a bit spikey, would hate to make her feel worse. But hopefully she'd like it.

Maybe if OP shows her friend this thread then she'll understand where we're coming from?

I've done a collection via PayPal for various scams causes. Don't mind being the one to give out my email address since I have my picture on my profile here anyway...

Also, OP, where abouts does your friend live? Her DD can willingly come to my DS's parties and he would more than happily return the sentiment

Poor little girl, how awfully rude and inconsiderate the parents of her so called friends are. I recently had a party for my DS and we designed some really lovely invitation cards.

The aim was to invite the whole class but in the end we narrowed it down to 20. Now my son goes to a school which is predominantly Muslim (we are christian) so apparently they dont celebrate birthdays so they just rudely said 'no cant come' and did not even take the invite from me. I just think that a) it would have been manners to take the invite and b)even if you dont celebrate birthdays its not your DC's you are celebrating is it? I was appalled. About 10 parents responded in that way with two of them saying ' child has appointment that day' wtf, they didnt even know what the date of the party was..... I know its fair enough not to celebrate something but if its for your child I certainly dont see what the problem is.

Anyway on the day of the party, after designing a few more invites to give to the 'non muslims' we had 20 again and ALL of these parents confirmed that they would be attending so I gave the numbers to Pizza Express. Out of these only five turned up, no texts or calls at all. We ended up with about 15 kids anyway because of family but still The lack of manners is really shocking. So in a nutshell if I hadnt designed the extra 10 invites, there wouldnt have been anyone who turned up apart from family.

Don't want to hijack the thread but can I just ask an AIBU about something similar?

I am friends with a mum of 2 girls, one is 5 and one is 2 and a bit. DS has always been invited to both girls parties, except this year he wasn't invited to the eldest girls because "she can pick her own friends now she's at school" I felt a wee bit for DS as he had assumed he was going and had her pressie ready and that. I just think it's a bit harsh to say "he can come and make the numbers up until she goes to school then he won't be welcome" When I was little, I had all of my own friends, cousins and family friends come to my parties. Just hire a church hall out and throw everyone in. AIBU?