to think some of you are really nasty?

[Ilovemash]

That's it really, I can't see why some of you feel the need to be nasty/judgemental/vindictive and bitchy to some of the posters on here.

Some of what I read, I would class as bullying and we all know bullies have inferiority complexes and/or self loathing.

I thought we were all grown ups ? If you have children and they see you act like this at home then you are setting a terrible example.

This is not the school play ground, I think some of you need to grow up and realise it's not cool to be a bully.

I think Mumsnet should change it's name to BITCHNET !

Cries.

LOL LeQueen people are always shouting at you!

I know of on person that's had grief LeQueen. I don't think the comments she recieved were gentle ribbing. Fair enough, she was out of order anyway but when she started a new thread about something else the first one was brought back up again. (see princessparty and the hair in her child's lunch thread)

oooh LeQueen I love a bit of lovin ya know. Big hugs and soppy kisses come your way

Oh Elmo glad things have been sorted out at last for you, I remember you thread. Yes AIBU is not always the best place to go if you want advice, more like a bitchfest point of debate, I have got some really good adivce from other forums on here and more understanding. I just use AIBU to post stupid Friday night posts

Well I wouldn't call it bullying. People disagree and when your asking for an opinion you need to be prepared for that.

I'm fairly new and actually the 'ruder' banter I see is between people who seem to be friends as it's always the same people between themselves and I PMSL!!!

I have posted on AIBU and expect there will be people who say YES U R U SILLY COW!!! Its the nature of the beast. And sometimes I've even realised when people are being blunt to my threads they are right even when they say YABU!!!!

I agree with lequeen its better to get the truth than some 'friendly' advice from a mate who may try and spare your feelings as you may still end up making a tit out of yourself.

I would ACTUALLY join a site called Bitchnet. In fact, I'm off to Google in the hope I might find one. Then I won't need Mumsnet anymore!

Yes, AIBU can often be bitchy, but who cares. Such is the nature of online fora. If you're so sensitive (and yes, some people are) then maybe it's not the right place for you. Switch off the computer (and that's the difference between real BULLYING and the recreational bitching that goes on here)and go and watch Loose Women or something.

thanks

I have only ever had one poster be a total bitch to me. I got over it.

I have been very very very rude to one poster but she was a troll and pretended to have a child that died and to have adopted a newborn so she pissed me right orf.

I appreciate the honesty on MN and the non suckieupness. For every one snarky comment you will get two telling the poster not to be so bloody snarky and give the OP a break FFS.

Anyhow I hate the fact that if women are sharp and funny they are called bitches.

nasty ? bullied ?
talking of which,
please can someone tell me where the AF or FA thread re the nasty comment 'kept woman' at NCT, thread has gone. why was it deleted ?i went back today. hoping for some more laffing, but it has gone.

It got deleted, apparently at the OP's request.

Why, I don't know.

thats a shame. a bit poor. it was a classic. I hope Op had very very good reasons why MNHQ agreed to delete it, other than she was a bit embarrassed about the whole thing, with hindsight.

Who knows? I get a bit irritated when people pull their own threads just because they've made themselves look a twonk.

yanbu. Well done for standing up to the bullies.

I have looked at a site that is full of love and hugs and kisses and huns. (Itsurdayhun).

They are a hell of a lot bitchier than I have ever seen on here.

Yes, bitchy implies snidey passive aggressive nastiness, which is rare on here. People are good old-fashioned straight up on MN, by and large, and tell you if you sound like a twassock. How that makes a person a bitch or a bully is beyond me. Whinging about bitches in the playground seems a peculiarly sexist way of characterising straight-talking women, imo.

To paraphrase someone cleverer than me - 'you're calling us bitches like that's a bad thing!

I do sometimes see downright nastiness/grubby behaviour on here quite a lot ad do get a bit when the ones doing it ask for the thread/posts to be deleted. If they don't want their grubby behaviour to be picked through they shouldnt do it in the first place.

However on the whole I do think mumsnet is an excellent, supportive resource an friendly enough usually.

I've had the odd flaming here. Usually deserved.

I've also had TONNES and TONNES of help, support and entertainment.

Mumsnet is like everything else in life, there are some really lovely people here and there is a great deal of support and help to be had, sadly there are some really nasty people too who do seem to get pleasure from upsetting others here, my guess is they were the school bully and still have no life so never grew up.

Also I think it has gotten worse since the AIBU section has been here.

Ignore them and look for the good here.

I think it can be bitchy but I don't like the sweeping 'you're are all big meanies' threads

It always strikes me that those OPs are never ones I have seen on threads asking people to be nicer.
If youthink someone is being a cow then call them on it - don't write an op talking about everyone else as if you are outside MN looking in. You are as much mumnet as I am so take responsibility for that rather than griping.

I also think that sometimes someone will write something offensive/smug/annoying and ten people can reply all at once which looks like ganging up but is actually just a landslide of opinion.

I have been flamed on here but only by stupid people so I don't mind so much.