to think some of you are really nasty?

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That's it really, I can't see why some of you feel the need to be nasty/judgemental/vindictive and bitchy to some of the posters on here.

Some of what I read, I would class as bullying and we all know bullies have inferiority complexes and/or self loathing.

I thought we were all grown ups ? If you have children and they see you act like this at home then you are setting a terrible example.

This is not the school play ground, I think some of you need to grow up and realise it's not cool to be a bully.

I think Mumsnet should change it's name to BITCHNET !

Shiney you bitch.

Ooh, bitchnet.com isn't taken!

We could set up a little offshoot gang. Only the sarcastic and scathing need apply. Anyone who mentions bullying - barred.

i think it's definitely got alot bitchier

no you have to accept bullying as part of the holistic thingymajig

"By mamasparkle Sat 22-May-10 10:37:30
I remember a thread where a lady posted saying she was an experienced mum and granny,new to MN,and felt she could offer advice to other MNers.Naive,possibly.Thus ensued page after page of bullying mockery,quite disgusting and nasty."

I remember that- it was so obviously a piss-take though, how can you have fallen for it? Even if it wasn't, don't you expect people to get flamed for trying to teach the proverbial granny to suck eggs?

There are some fantastic MNers here, and a wealth of support. I have lost count of the small kindnesses people have shown me over the last few months- from lovely private messages to actually sending me flowers and an online shop when I was going through a dark patch.

I won't hear a word against my girls!

I am loving bitchnet.com

I can see how that some people wade into AIBU on their first post with a slightly contentious post and get flamed which must put them off. But in general, I don't think that there is bullying. This is a different type of site from the "it's ur kiddy hun, u no best" brigade, so you have to take it a bit differently than you would if the same thing was posted there IYSWIM?

Most people seem to lurk for a bit to learn the unspoken rules of the different boards first, which works much better

The thread with the woman who said she was an oracle of good advice was ridiculous, I mean, if you were a granny with loads of good advice who walked into a busy toddler group, sat in the middle of the play area and told them to come and ask your opinion as you knew everything you would not be welcomed with open arms, so why would you think it would be more welcome on an internet forum? Gah.

I love 'bitchnet' as a name, sounds so much cooler than mumsnet

SEE - I told you that Bitter was a bully - now she's bullying Shiney

Shiney, you didn't notice that the badge had 'bitch' written on the back then?

Love the name bitchnet.

I couldn't give a monkeys what people call me, I already know I am a bitter old harriden.

oh i wish this WAS called bitchnet

lolo at unintended contradiction of OP

I was called a c*nt on a thread once. I admit it didn't feel nice and I doubt the poster would ever have said it to me in rl. She didn't stick around too much longer; I like to think she realised she'd gone too far. Sometimes the way people talk to others on here makes me a bit but it's mostly better than that and supportive.

OP

You say you wouldn't dare post for advice. Well that's a great shame because many of us have been able to get our heads straight because on MN. I would advise caution of AIBU, if you are very upset and not up for "hearing" other points of view.

There are a few, a very few people who don't seem to take into account someone's distress when posting, but that is life.

OP - pot, kettle, much?

Mumsnet is generally great.
However, it has its nasty moments and I do feel that sometimes the pack mentality runs a bit high; I know of at least one poster who has de-regged because of feeling personally attacked and bullied - I'm sure there are more.

This type of thread is cropping up quite regularly at the moment, mostly by newbies - and I am also tempted to say "if you don't like it, go elsewhere" because no one is MAKING you post here or read the threads.

Hi thumb

I have hit the 'report' button more then a few times because someone has personally attacked someone else on here. People have their own opinions, not everyone has the common sense to keep their opinions to themselves though. Too many people think they are right and think it's OK to try and attack educate to get their point across. Take the private vs state school 'debate', OP's and posters are jumped on if they choose private. The vast majority of threads always end up the same, no matter what the thread was started about origionally. Thumb's right when she takls about pack mentality.

Liking the sound of bitch.net something to really get my teeth into, how do i sign up???

I too have reported personal attacks. It's dealt with very quickly by MNHQ. But a lot of what people call bullying is nothing like that

hey fluffy, how are you? glad you're still here yourself

There are definitely people who jump on an attack bandwagon, as others have observed. Its a moot point whether thats bullying or not, but its not very nice.
I would respect such people more, if I ever saw them advocating an opinion that wasnt the majority one!

For the moment thumb. I'm getting rather bored of repeating myself. The house is still a mess though! We're OK thanks. Hope you are all well

I wouldn't say there's alot of bullying on here, there's a few posters who seem to get alot of grief though. I'd say there's alot of nastiness though. MNHQ are quick to remove posts most of the time.

I like being a bitch on AIBU, on the other boards I have both given and received advice and support.

Nothing worse than the passive aggressive bullshit you get on other parenting "debate" sites, here we just do aggressive aggressive and all enjoy a good shout.

If you don't like it, don't read it. Great thing about the internet, it comes with an "off" button.

And yes, I did just reply to the OP without reading all the posts. So nah nah nah.

THere are a few posters who are extremely outspoken in their views and believe that as it's only words on a screen then one shouldn't be affected by it - but I think that's simplistic and a touch naive in itself, as some people are more vulnerable than others and will be affected by it. Telling them they shouldn't be only adds to their vulnerability as it belittles their feelings.

Morloth - I am reporting you for that.

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