to think some of you are really nasty?

[Ilovemash]

That's it really, I can't see why some of you feel the need to be nasty/judgemental/vindictive and bitchy to some of the posters on here.

Some of what I read, I would class as bullying and we all know bullies have inferiority complexes and/or self loathing.

I thought we were all grown ups ? If you have children and they see you act like this at home then you are setting a terrible example.

This is not the school play ground, I think some of you need to grow up and realise it's not cool to be a bully.

I think Mumsnet should change it's name to BITCHNET !

Certainly within AIBU there are a couple of posters whose posts always make me double take at what I percieve to be totally uncalled for bitchy unpleasantness. And Im not one for remembering poster-names, but it does seem whenever a post shocks me, it is the same couple of names attached to it. So in that respect YANBU

but AIBU is like that, I do think some people use it as a chance to vent their frustration at the world in general when replying to posts as there does seem to be an 'anything goes' attitude to replying here. the other areas are much nicer and I do find people genuinely helpful and kind.

how exactly? do you think we meet up to discuss strategies of attack?
Of course we are thinking for ourselves, we are all alone behind our individual screens.

I am NOT a bully.

no you can just tell, because then someone comes along that everyone knows and likes, and they all start backpedalling and umming and aahing

for sure for sure can be quite amusing actually

Nonsense OP. Here, as in rl, someone might be having a bad day and be a bit snappy. Or a OP might be clearly in the wrong, in which case posters pointing that out when asked (AIBU) is the only option.

There has been a - yes, ONE - occasion where someone's response really upset me (baby not sleeping, me overtired and emotional). However, loads of people came to my defence, even though I didn't know them from scratch.

I like the honesty of MN. Tiptoeing around an issue doesn't help if action is required.

If someone however clearly just posts for emotional support, people tend to take that into account when posting.

Either you have an issue with one/several posters, in which case take it up with them. Or you don't like the forum, in which case don't participate. It's really quite simple, isn't it?

Oh, and welcome to MN.

I think that if people genuinely want advice they get it and if they respond in a reasonable manner people are very kind. If they come on to say 'I am a wonderful parent-you should all be doing it my way' then of course some people are going to tell them that it isn't necessarily a 'good thing'-it is only a 'good thing' for the poster.
Anyone who posts on AIBU should realise that, in general, 50% of responses will be YABU. They are not going to get a pat on the back. If you want advice then post on an appropriate thread.

I agree to a degree.

Many are genuine - many try very hard to be witty and do very well with it.

It's an open forum so post at your peril.

What I find absolutely hysterical and what keeps me checking back is the so called multiculturalism thingy here.Full of people who accuse everyone else of racism etc but they are the very people who are the first to say 'fuck - I wouldn't put up with that I'd leave him etc etc' - no bloody clue about our multicultural country!

But at the same time it's entertaining. no?

YANBU.

i've yet to see a newspaper article about netmums being full of bullies. MN has too many bullies, alot of them think they own the place. i pity the person they take a dislike to.

I see the difference between MN and NM in the same way as the difference in how I communicate with close friends and acquaintances.

A close friend will tell you, in as kind a way as possible, if you're wrong. They'll be there to support you when you're down, but they're not going to stand by idly whilst you're walking to the edge of a cliff, chanting "your life, you know best".

With an acquaintance you smile and nod and agree because really you don't care that much.

freebirdx - when you post that you know what someone thinks, you've already lost it because you are fantasising. It's a classic silly argument.

By the way, if MN has too many bullies, what's the right number?

MN is v. bracing, to say the least, so people post on AIBU at their peril, and,yes, I've seen a couple of self-regarding, deluded posters get put right, but heigh ho, that's what you get if you talk to strangers and ask for their opinions.

can i just say that i live in Ireland & yesterday my local radio station was talking about how mumsnet is a very good source of information for mothers & a very supportive site for parents . I have had some fantastic help & advice & support from lots of mumsetters in regards to my son being badly bullied & its thanks to those wonderful people (you know who you are)
that my son is now safe & happy . they walked me through the steps i needed to take to get his school to protect him & i am very grateful .

MisSalLaneaous has put is very well.

I have never been accused of being a troll

I feel so dull

am going to paint my toenails

except if you imagine everyone on here thinks for themselves then it ain't like real life at all

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troll green

Elmofan I followed your thread, glad to hear it's finally sorted

goodness I've seen some suck-ups on here

there was one who used to say to all the big names "i am so honoured to have you on my thread.."

ho ho

there are suck-ups, bullies, knowitalls, irritants, hangers on, leaders, lovely never-say-a-bad-worders, the bright ones, the bottomlessly kind ones, all sorts

fantasising to say there aren't bullies

threads develop and have a life of their own sometimes. Yes, they can get nasty, but what can you do? You have to know for yourself (anyone who feels under attack) when to walk away.

Honestly a day or so later, people have forgotten your nick anyhow and you have a fresh start

"i am so honoured to have you on my thread.."

never, come off it

shiney- you can take it though and are quite capable of giving back as good as you get.

it's true but I won't say the name

I saw something similar on another thread a couple of weeks ago under a different name and I wondered if she changed

oh alright but I never have a clue with these threads where names are not mentioned who or what we're talking about

should really be elsewehre doing my toemails

I'm going for a swim

she was a friend of the lovely cake-squasher Squonk

whither Squonk I wonder