To think who does the caring inherits the money?

[Witchandbitch]

Nutshell for the ladies of wisdom to crack - elderly parents, one with dementia, need looking after in own home.

Parents have made will leaving the lot to The Son, who lives the other end of Europe with his family. Daughter , who is single, no kids, two jobs, lives an hour away, has been pressured to take time out to care for the old couple.

The unusual will has been explained by parents as "didn't trust DD with money", which slightly takes aback DD, as she?s the only solvent and employed member of family.

The family won?t discuss it with her, altho? The Son has been party to all their plans.

Would you help the old couple? The daughter is not wildly well paid and in mediocre health, by the way.

I think that that is why the brother needs to come home for the family conference. They need to work out together what is to be done. If she is to look after them and give up her security, it is up to the brother to sort out the money side legally.
I think that any decent parent splits it equally. I find it odd that the DD in the opening post can't be trusted with money and yet she can be trusted with care.