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AIBU?

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I know Im not, dh is a twat, i just want you to tell me Im right

63 replies

mosschops30 · 15/05/2010 15:45

Ive had a crap week, ds1 been sick so ive been stuck in the house with him and ds2 for 3 days.
dh last night met his mate here, they went out taking photos whilst I sorted out the dcs with dinner, baths, taking dd to nana etc) then he came home, at dinner, I made them both a cuppa and went to shop for choc.

Then he said thatI had no interest in his hobbies and that Im self centred and have no enjoyment.
I tried to be a bit more upbeat this morning, he went to camera shop and asked if Id get ready so we could go out when he got home, I said I wanted to go to the gym so would sort the house out, washing etc, them go to gym and then we could go out and he grudgingly agreed.
I came home, made lunch for everyone then went in the shower, he came up and rubbed his willy on my leg (seriously ) and said 'have a little play' as if he was offering me something wonderful, then said I was boring when I wouldnt do it!!!!!!

He then had abother go saying that on my tombstone it will say 'here lies mosschops, she liked to keep fit' because thats my only 'interest', as if thats my defining feature!!! Not the fact that we have 3 kids that I take care of the majority of the time, and I neither have the time or the money for expensive hobbies like photography and windsurfing.

Anyway had a huge row, and hes now gone out in a huff

He is a nob yes?????

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ABatInBunkFive · 15/05/2010 15:46

pretty much

biddysmama · 15/05/2010 15:46

came home, made lunch for everyone then went in the shower, he came up and rubbed his willy on my leg (seriously ) and said 'have a little play' as if he was offering me something wonderful, then said I was boring when I wouldnt do it!!!!!!

^ for that reason alone yanbu

mumbar · 15/05/2010 15:49

Been in the same situation before. Worked 6 days/ partner 5, did washing ironing, housework looked after DS etc. When too tired at 3 am to 'have some fun' when he came in from nights out I was being boring. He's now my ex so don't really feel any advice I can give you will will unbias.

IMO YANBU

GeekOfTheWeek · 15/05/2010 15:49

Rubbed his willy on your leg? - is he a jack russell

YANBU

mosschops30 · 15/05/2010 15:50

biddy i said to him 'its all about you, when would I ever stand here and say play with my bits' , he replied ' well you never would'!!!
Damn right i wouldnt because Im not in a bad 70's pron film

Does anyone else dh behave like this and it turns them on? He makes out like Im frigid but dh standing there with his dick out asking me to have a play whilst Im shaving my lady bits is a no-go for me sorry.
Now if he'd have looked at me as I got out the shower saying 'wow you look hot, the gym is doing you good' etc etc he prob would have got it

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Mouseface · 15/05/2010 15:50

'rubbed his willy on my leg'.......

Can you imagine if we all went round rubbing our furry front bottoms on our DH/DP and said the same how that would pan out......

I for one, would get nothing done!

Oh, and YANBU.

mosschops30 · 15/05/2010 15:51

porn lol

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biddysmama · 15/05/2010 15:55

i think my dp's given up to sex tbh, he said they other night " we never have sex" i pointed to my large belly and said, "i can prove we have at least once" he might try it on sometimes but doesnt expect anything and he's very happy when he does get something lol

Hassled · 15/05/2010 15:58

Yup, he's a nob. Or is that knob? I'm never sure. He sounds like he's 14.

saslou · 15/05/2010 16:00

YAdefNBU. Tell him to spend less time playing with his toys and more time pulling his weight at home and then you might feel like having sex with him

compo · 15/05/2010 16:00

Ew! Gross!

thesunshinesbrightly · 15/05/2010 16:16

I'm sorry, i'm wetting myslef laughing, oh thanks for cheering me up.

mosschops30 · 15/05/2010 16:18

happy to oblige

anyone turned on by by dh's advances??? or just me that frigid?

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biddysmama · 15/05/2010 16:20

i told dp we could have sex as long as it was ok for me to kick him in the bollocks afterwards so we both felt the same way (i have spd)

thesunshinesbrightly · 15/05/2010 16:20

But i agree with Saslou.

thesunshinesbrightly · 15/05/2010 16:22

No mosschops30, most certainly would not turn me on, tell him to grow up.

VoulezVouzCrochezAvecJACK · 15/05/2010 16:22

Ew. nobber.
I'd have flicked it.

mumbar · 15/05/2010 16:23

so do I and tried the same with ex-p!!

mumbar · 15/05/2010 16:24

whoops should have said so do I agree with salsou post now looks slighlt deranged out of context!!!!

thesunshinesbrightly · 15/05/2010 16:35

Mosschops - I hope you are going have a stern chat with your DH and tell him, that what he done wouldn't turn anyone on, if anything it's a turn off.

I can't get that out my head, i'm still laughing, god, i should get out more.

biddysmama · 15/05/2010 16:38

mumbar... you like to rub your penis on people ??

mumbar · 15/05/2010 16:42

yes note to self on that one - be more precise on posts as someone may just be posting at the same time

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 15/05/2010 16:43

Urgh, with regards to the leg humping I'd have told my DH to fuck off. Bluntly. I cannot imagine anything less erotic. Oh god, I need to go wash my brain with bleach. "have a little play".

errr... what was the question again?

MadamDeathstare · 15/05/2010 16:43

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2old4thislark · 15/05/2010 16:51

YANBU

If they were bright enough to use a bit of flattery and seduction it might get them somewhere. Instead they make it about them, as though we just love the sight of a floppy willy

And if they helped out with the chores more, we'd resent them less. And be less knackered at bedtime .

God, men are stupid.

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