To think that some regular mn's ...

[thricenay]

...are getting overbearing in their posts to the point that others are put off posting or feel they have to grovel/apologise for their posts because they expect to get flamed.

Porc! You are supposed to have changed your name..

I only come on here if i'm in the mood for a fight!

If everyone started being nicey, nicey i'd have to find another forum.

AIBU is my favourite.

You don't always get just an honest response though. I spent a few infuriating hours on a thread one night last week (sad twat) where I got quoted out of context, words put into my mouth and generally hounded for expressing a reasonable opinion. A few MNers stuck up for me but for the most part, I got bullied by the bigger girls, miss. Like i said though, I'll fight anyone on the internets...

I've been flamed before

I DON'T CARE

i deserved my flaming (I reall did, I was utter twat)

If someone tries to flame me and I don't think I dersve it i just think "cockend" and move on

its the 'my husband is a lazy arse' thread in relationships i think!!!

I'm not upset actually (and you MISSED ME hullygully) I'm just putting the point. If I'm upset about anything it's that someone who was feeling fragile was made to feel she had to apologise for her thoughts in case of a backlash.

Of course YANBU, but you were asking for it by posting it on here

And there is no 'getting' about it. Some MNers are simply overbearing in their responses, depending on what time of day it is, whether they have had their morning fix of mothers little helper coffee, if they have had their ego rubbed on another thread, what direction the wind has blown that kind of thing.

But that is just how it goes really. Tell them to their virtual faces. They are only humans at the end of the keyboard, not monsters.

TBB - what is?

I don't get it OP tbh

Why couldn't you just have said oi I am not being nasty, I think x because of y and left it at that? Argue yer point on the thread, don't drag it over to another thread

Now that IS bad form

hully....the thread being referred to...

thricenay, I've read the thread in question now and think yes, YABU. Just because someone says "I'll probably get flamed for this" doesn't mean that (a) they will, or (b) any flaming would be unjustified. MN can be robust and there are certain posting styles you might not like, but it's like walking into a pub and telling people to stop talking in a certain way. All the time.

If you see what you think is an unjustified flaming/aggressive post, then say so on the thread or report it. That's how MN works at its best.

Ok, read it now . Thrice - I am utterly perplexed as to your conclusions, everyone went out of their way to be reassuring, kind and soothing, particularly AF. What a strange and dainty world you must live in.

I agree with junglist1. I think the people who are the most abrupt and snide and cutting on mn probably have 1 and a half friends and a smelly cat for company in the real World.

Definitely, being a bitch can be a coping mechanism for dealing with feelings of inadequacy, powerlessness, loneliness, lack of control in ones real life, feelings of not being heard. There are many many reasons why people who are timid and polite in real life come on MN and omg they aren't a bit of a bitch, they go the full nine yardS!

It's kind of like a pet spaniel going bananas barking at a great dane, from the safety of inside the car.

Thrice I have read that thread and I really don't think AF was in anyway unpleasant. But...I have seen threads in relationships where people seemed to get a hard time, including name calling and diagnosing and have then disappeared. It is near impossible using text to determine whether people want sympathy and hugs or solutions. I wonder if there is a case for relationships threads, for example but I suspect a lot more would also benefit, for the instructions at the top to suggest to posters that they try and make clear what they want? Sorry I am not being clear here and I do understand what you are saying, I think, but I also know that AF and many other longterm posters would cut their keyboard off before making women feel worse!

Ps, I have not read the other thread. I didn't know there was another thread!

"If I'm upset about anything it's that someone who was feeling fragile was made to feel she had to apologise for her thoughts in case of a backlash." See, thricenay, I think people talk like that in RL - little pre-signals to ask people to behave in a certain way "I'm probably being stupid, but", "this is a daft question, but" "don't flame me, but" etc. I think you're reading too much into it and assuming it's an MN/MNer issue, when it's just normal discourse.

what an odd thread

Vivian - I get your point but I actually would be taking that 'moral high ground stance' in real life. Circumcision is wrong, female or male and I feel people should make that point very strongly (obviously that is IMO).

Just thought I'd hijack the op there

Thrice I have read the thread now too and I can't work out where you are coming from at all. Sorry but YABU

People were disagreeing whilst trying to be supportive and nobody was getting flamed

And when the subject of flaming came up, posters were quick to reassure

It's a difference of opinion and it's a subject people feel strongly about, that's all