To have said no!!!!!!

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This is so cheeky and I am that I am being considered unreasonable.We agreed to take ds and 3 mates to barcelona when the exams are over for 3 days to skateboard.they are all 16.I have agreed it with the other parents and flights are easyjet £90 basic plus about 60 for an appartment." of the boys I know the 3rd I know but not teh parents.His parents have said they want him to fly BA as they have airmiles and tehy don't want to pay teh easyjet flight.His dad suggested we fly with tehm too and after realising they don't fly from gatwick and they are so much more £ I said no.He now wants his 16 yr old son to fly alone and meet us there!I have said no I don't want to have to track someone elses son down in a strange place he either comes as part of our group or forget it!

I think its a shame, that your ds and his other 2 friends are now losing out. I expect there could also be fall-out between your ds and his friends and the other lad, which is a shame, as it is down to his parents not him.
If you promised this trip to your son, I think you should still go ahead if possible later in the year if you can get a good deal, as its not his fault the trip can no longer go ahead. Or think of an alternative.
YANBU-some people want things all their own way no matter how much upset that causes.

I could still take them if I can find a 'deal' I am looking at city breaks to see if that might work.I would still take the others I never really thought about this boy tbh ds invited him so I agreed reluctantly anyway.

why not ask your ds to try to find some flights & accom - see if he can come up with anything? if he wants it so much, he could put some effort into it.

I have read the whole thread and posted on it earlier and I have a niggle in the back of my head.

I sort of feel like you should have not have given such a green light to the trip without getting all the rules and parental permission sorted out first. It sounds like you have really dissapointed your DS which is the fall out from the other parenst. But perhaps it would have been better to have suggested the possibility of a trip, but kept it vague and sought out who he would have liked to invited and then spoken to parents and then got flight/accomodation quotes.

I know it is easy for me to say this now. It just seems like a big broken promise to your DS.

FWIW I totally I agree with how you handled the other kid and parents.

If we can get flights etc in the original budget which was agreed with all parents bar this one it would have been booked last Thursday!They delayed with their own arrangements i waited for them to phone and they never did.

OP, that's a great suggestion from kickass. I would hand it over to him, some great lessons there and would also test his motivation to do the groundwork.

Have done!