To have said no!!!!!!

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This is so cheeky and I am that I am being considered unreasonable.We agreed to take ds and 3 mates to barcelona when the exams are over for 3 days to skateboard.they are all 16.I have agreed it with the other parents and flights are easyjet £90 basic plus about 60 for an appartment." of the boys I know the 3rd I know but not teh parents.His parents have said they want him to fly BA as they have airmiles and tehy don't want to pay teh easyjet flight.His dad suggested we fly with tehm too and after realising they don't fly from gatwick and they are so much more £ I said no.He now wants his 16 yr old son to fly alone and meet us there!I have said no I don't want to have to track someone elses son down in a strange place he either comes as part of our group or forget it!

YANBU

I just want to stick to the plan unreasonable or not.We are responsible for these boys and I have an itinerary sorted that i am comfortable with.The other parents are happy with it all and have agreed they will do 'my rules' wrt times for being in/out freedom etc.3rd boy is home schooled and parents more liberal so maybe I am a bit anal for them

YANBU.

(and you are v.brave, i wouldn't like to be responsible for other people's 16yr old. Especially in Barcellona!!)

Well then tell the other parents it isn't what you want to do and its a shame he will not be coming along.

Have a fantastic time in barcelona it is a great beach city

Thanks all!I know I am mad hence the desire to simplify it all.

YANBU

How does his dad expect him to get to the airport if he's flying back a day later?

I don't know!Also they want to exchange airmiles for his share in the appartment Nightmare!

Do they know they still have to pay the tax on flights booked with airmiles? Combined with the quantity of airmiles they'll use too they'd most likely be better off with Easyjet - the son has to get to and from Heathrow, and then to wherever you are in Barcelona, presumably that won't be free?

Plus they may not even get the flights they want with miles, they can be tricky to book.

They sound a bit mental, I feel sorry for the teenager! I do think you're being fair though, it's not reasonable of them to complicate things. It's either yes he can go on the planned trip or no he can't.

YANBU - I can't beleive that the other parents would even suggest it. You're doing a lot by arranging it and accompanying the boys, I would be grateful if another parent offered a trip for my DC.

YANBU

You are organising and chaperoning the trip. Therefore, you make the arrangements and the others comply, or they don't go.

What if the flight is delayed, or there is some sort of problem? Are you supposed to trek back and forth? And then the hassle on the way back? Your flights will be at different times?

No way.

I am glad most people agree with me.They have enough airmiles for 2 flights so want someone to accompany their ds free on BA flight and then in exchange for flight he stays free.I said from day one I was booking a reasonable appt v central so that i can keep an eye on everyone so they knew costs.Total for trip is 150 I know its not cheap but initially was only ds and friend

they are taking the piss.

Ericpickles that is the terminology i have been using for the last 24 hrs

Another YANBU

I was thinking the same as PfftTheMagicDragon wbout delays etc that could mean you waste a day waiting on him to arrive

Just tell the parents you have 2 other sets of parents already agreed on the arangements so they can't be changed.

They really should have thought this through before agreeing their son could go anywhere, I know I wouldn't want to be turning up a day later

some people are furreaks

at what age are kids allowed to fly alone anyway? you may find that BA don't want one or two children by themselves, or will charge a huge surcharge for it.

tell the dad, this is the deal, he can't stay in the apartment an extra day, so would be homeless & alone for 24 hours.

It is a set trip I have sorted the times and prices etc and also set some ground rules re when they have to be in etc and this one boy is the only one who thinks he can do his own thing and I'll fall into line.I am now thinking of just saying he can't come regardless as I think he may want more freedom than teh others too and they already know they have to meet us lunchtimes to 'check in'as it were plus home at 6 and then with us for evening

think you're being completely reasonable re not agreeing to the different flight thing but think it would be unreasonable slightly to disinvite him now that he has already been invited....

Your trip -your rules .Cant see what the argument is. If the other parents want something you aren't offering they can buy it themselves.
Just say no -and dont apologise

You need to lose this child. I mean before the trip, not in Barcelona Saying that though....