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To except we can never afford to buy our own house

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happygolovely · 29/04/2010 20:16

Like most people my dd and ds share a room we have a two bed,they love sharing but we will when they are older have to divide the room and get by, as we simply can not afford to buy a 3 bed house.

I am very grateful for what we have and in a way it could be worse I get on with my life but do get angry with myself and wish I had planned my future better finacially, and gone into a decent career after I left school ,aibu.

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expatinscotland · 30/04/2010 00:58

Well, I take my DS to playgroup, but they make me sing folk every week and if you've ever heard it round here, Cheerful, it's not such, I can tell you. Still the children and mothers know the songs and join in.

All selkies and kelpies and maids stealing booty and sailors abandoning loves who die of fever whilst Johnny's in the West Indies.

The school's logo is the bloody Campbell boat, oars and all. Well, I've not told them but the spectre of that boat will be seen on Loch Fyne sailing straight up to that castle when the duke is to die, and the last was no exception to that.

Johnny's Gone for Soldier.

The Bonnie Swans. 'And there does sit my false sister, Anne. Who drowned me for the sake of a man . . .' and there is DS, grinning away at it and singing.

No one owned house round here, they were tenants of the laird.

We walk of a good day in a cemetary, there since St. Munn founded that place in about 800AD, only heaven knows how many bones lay under where we walk, but all around the plaques, 'Lost At Sea'.

Own a house, die anyway.

Sakura · 30/04/2010 02:31

HIlarious thread...
expat, aren't you American? You sound like Rab C Nesbitt tonight. Do you think there will be a brain drain out of the UK? Just had a discussion on another thread about how there's no meritocracy so where you get in life has more to do with your origins than anything else, and particularly nothing to do with how hard you work of how clever you are

OP, you are so young. 26! You are so organised too having your kids young. Plenty of time, you never know what will happen. And if you don't own your house, so what? We own a house and it's a shack. It's made of wood so over time the value will gradually decrease or the insects will eat it or the humidity will mould it or because we live in an earthquake zone it might not even be standing. Why did we buy it? Good question. I think we were in the mindset of "Got to own a house, got to own a house". I do like the garden but we've only got that because we live in the middle of nowhere. You can easily rent a lovely house, like someone on here mentioned a farmhouse. And I agree that the newly-built houses are soul-less. I'd rather live in a flat than in one of them.

8rubberduckies · 30/04/2010 09:52

Morning... WTF happened whilst I was asleep? Hope the whiskey hangovers aren't too bad .

OP, and anyone else interested, discovered this in an article a few weeks ago; haven't looked at it properly yet but it seems worth a look for a good rant ...www.pricedout.org.uk/

happygolovely · 30/04/2010 10:36

Thank you to the bullys Southeastastra who thought it would be nice to take the piss out of me hope you feel better now.

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happygolovely · 30/04/2010 10:45

I meant nasty bitch of a bully, look up fuck off and title your thread aibu im a bitch.

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ladyofshallots · 30/04/2010 10:47

HappyGoLovely - we were in the same position as you 3 years ago and never thought we would buy our own house. I was also 26 then.

Dh lost his job, I was working part time, we had 2 dds and crippling childcare costs.

We now have an unexpected ds, dh has a better job,I work fulltime and we managed to buy our own house last year. We honestly would never have thought it possible.

So it may happen for you too, life can work out in very unexpected ways. And please ignore the grammar police who clearly have nothing better to do.

happygolovely · 30/04/2010 11:09

I have been on here a while , I have name changed and its just a few individuals who think its clever to bully and make mean remarks and take the piss out of other people its not on.

Thank you to all those who gave advice its truly appreciated.

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IAteABetaDadsBreadstick · 30/04/2010 11:18

lots of us told that poster they were out of order. i'm hoping their account was hacked as they're normally 'normal' if you see what i mean

giveitago · 30/04/2010 11:38

We have a nice big mortgage on our flat (no garden) and prospect of moving up. I don't care actually - I'm just glad to be out the having to move on when landlords change their plan scenario (happened to us alot).

But I'd say that ownership is not that important - we are screwed for service charges, we're stuck here and the great advantage of having kids and renting is that you can move into a good catchment area - not easy when you buy.

It's my home but heck it's eats us up.

maltesers · 30/04/2010 12:18

This mumsnet thing is meant to be helpful , supportive and friendly. Some of the posts on here and elsewhere are shockingly rude . . . .Cant you guys just be civilised and polite. ?????

SanctiMoanyArse · 30/04/2010 13:34

'We want to pay off all our debts. Not to buy a place but just to not be bowing to Da Man and be able to be free

Gof or it ExP

That's what we did when DH got ill and the house had to go; we're still looking for our bit of luck but fuck me, life's easier in poverty without any debt! And Ic an't help being a carer but I'm glad i didn't take anyone down with me through a bad debt

southeastastra · 30/04/2010 14:23

i'm sorry happygolovely i was a cow

GibbonInARibbon · 30/04/2010 15:00

sea, hope everything is ok, you were not your usual self last night

GypsyMoth · 30/04/2010 15:48

was your account hacked sea??

IAteABetaDadsBreadstick · 30/04/2010 16:12

Nice of you to apologise, hope you're ok

AnyFucker · 30/04/2010 17:15

< ahem >

RedBlueRed · 30/04/2010 17:53

I also apologise. Y'know, for going full frontal - am back to my ususal now, following a request from [email protected]

southeastastra · 30/04/2010 17:58

sorry anyfucker and anyone else i offended

IAteABetaDadsBreadstick · 30/04/2010 18:07

Any of you ever run a book people franchise? everyone is ignoring me in chat or, more likely, they've just never run one

Elasticwoman · 30/04/2010 18:12

OP - you are grateful for what you have, but would like more. Nothing wrong with that. Why look back beating yourself up for the past, and not look forward thinking how you can increase your income? Plenty of parents take courses and study for a better future, eg through Open University. You may have to put effort/financial sacrifice in now for an uncertain return later on, but hey, that's life.

Southeastastra, can't imagine what you said as I've come to this thread after your post was removed.

AnyFucker · 03/05/2010 15:50

am very late back to this thread

haven't checked any other bits of the board yet, but I hope things are ok with you, southeastastra

happygolovely · 03/05/2010 15:56

Southeastastra its fine, thanks for your apology hope you are ok?

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southeastastra · 03/05/2010 19:08

i'm ok thanks for being nice. sorry again

pagwatch · 03/05/2010 19:14

southeast

I wasn't even on this thread - just mooching around today but I accept your apology .
Seriously, hope you are Ok and it was just one of those flip out moment. I have those every now and again. usually wine features....
You are good to come back and apologise

happygolovely · 03/05/2010 19:15

Dont worry no probs.

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