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AIBU?

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To except we can never afford to buy our own house

152 replies

happygolovely · 29/04/2010 20:16

Like most people my dd and ds share a room we have a two bed,they love sharing but we will when they are older have to divide the room and get by, as we simply can not afford to buy a 3 bed house.

I am very grateful for what we have and in a way it could be worse I get on with my life but do get angry with myself and wish I had planned my future better finacially, and gone into a decent career after I left school ,aibu.

OP posts:

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:22

er i never said it did

AnyFucker · 29/04/2010 22:23

my name again, sea ??

change the record...

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:23

standards dear

fernie3 · 29/04/2010 22:23

not really on point I know but I dont actually know anyone (well) who owns a house when I think about it. All of my daughters friends live in rented houses, no one has ever made any comment about us renting it seems to be the norm in my circle anyway. Maybe because my friends and my childrens friends parents are roughly the same age as me (twenties) or maybe the area I live in? Would be nice to have a bit more protection for people renting so buying wasnt the only way to have a secure roof over your head.

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:24

i find your name offensive but don't go on about it - unless you have a go at me - horses for courses dear

8rubberduckies · 29/04/2010 22:24

promise that is... oops... check out my spelling / grammar ability... and I rent

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:26

do you know what isn't hard? checking grammar and spelling on google first, really you lot should try it sometimes.

AnyFucker · 29/04/2010 22:27

you don't go on about it ??

you never shut up about it...

ok, horses for courses, let us agree on this then

I have a mildly offensive username

you are an arrogant pillock...agreed ?

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:29

how exactly do i never shut up about it?

GypsyMoth · 29/04/2010 22:30

By southeastastra Thu 29-Apr-10 22:16:13
er yes it was fucker sorry, i've only got on o level too and that wasn't even in english

hmmmm....'on o level'....

AnyFucker · 29/04/2010 22:31

you have mentioned it several times, sea

not necessary

like your OP on this thread

emsyj · 29/04/2010 22:31

Again, agree with fernie3. Most of my old school friends and uni friends are still renting (I am 30). There are the odd few who have had parental help to buy, but renting into your 30s is quite normal these days.

DH and I recently returned to our home town after spending a few years living in London. Many of the people our age that we knew in London were living in shared accommodation (i.e. couples sharing rented places with other couples) and virtually all of my London-based friends lived in rented. I actually only know one close friend who owns her own flat, and she bought very early on in her career (before the boom really scuppered anyone else's chances) and she's now looking to move as she's got married and had a baby since then - but they can't really afford a house in their area, so they're looking to leave London altogether.

We have a house that we rent out to a woman with a young daughter and she always asks when she renews her tenancy for a full year's contract (rather than a rolling contract), which we're happy to agree to as we have no plans to sell the house and she's a great tenant and keeps the house immaculate, so the longer she stays the better as far as we're concerned. But it is very true that tenants need better protection if long-term renting is to become 'the norm' in the way that it is in much of continental Europe. It is Not Unreasonable to want to feel secure in your home.

8rubberduckies · 29/04/2010 22:35

emsyj can I come and live in your house?

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:35

lol well i guess i was happy when people pointed out my mistakes and grew and learnt from them

SanctiMoanyArse · 29/04/2010 22:35

I don't accept we will never buy although I know we cannot ATM: DH is studying around his work in order to improve matters, we did own before but he was sick for a while and we sold up and cleared all debts so we could get by, and I am a carer.

Accept things for the moment only: always keep one eye out for a chance and you never know.

I don't agree home owning is over rated becuase security is worth so much, but certainly renting isn't all bad either. And home owndership doesn't buy happiness: happiness we have far more of now, security is the next thing to acquire.

emsyj · 29/04/2010 22:36

Might be a bit small for two families, 8rubberduckies, it's only a 2-bed terrace!!! But you can ask my tenant if you like...

AnyFucker · 29/04/2010 22:36

GypsyMoth · 29/04/2010 22:38

well thats 2 mistakes.....people really should google their grammar/spelling before they post lol!!

southeastastra · 29/04/2010 22:41

whatever loser lol...

IAteABetaDadsBreadstick · 29/04/2010 22:44

wonders idly why sea is such a total bitch... nah can't be arsed.

GypsyMoth · 29/04/2010 22:45

i was wondering too......never seen her be like this before?

is it the full moon maybe??

AnyFucker · 29/04/2010 22:45

let sea have the last word

it is obviously very important to her...

expatinscotland · 29/04/2010 22:47

Oh, they Lord, ya'll!

I can't agree more with the OP, tbh.

Been in the same boat.

We're in HA now, but it's a shitty flat and we're damn grateful, tbh, despite having lived over junkie drug dealers and jakies and all manner of crap.

I think it's a shit way to bring up my young ones. It makes me pure ashamed.

I hate it, and I know they'll leave skidmarks on this place as soon as they're able and I'll have to follow.

I think it's pure crap that DH can work his fingers to the bone and it'll get him all of nowhere, just like it got me.

I think it's short-sighted and dumb of any government to think that's a good idea to keep it all inflated because my young ones and a whole helluva a lot of others won't stay here for all hell and work from now till the world ends so someone else can lord it up owning a place they won't have a chance in hell of even getting their own place unless they're millionnaires.

That's stupid and wrong and you reap what you sow.

You buy now pay later.

They'll have to bring immigrants in to wipe their arses when they live till 100 sitting on a pot of cold that won't do 'em a lick of good once they're gone because there are no pockets in a shroud.

So I have nothing but sympathy for the OP, accept or except.

She works away and feels it's all for naught and you know, we're right there with her.

expatinscotland · 29/04/2010 22:48

South, you need to be putting down the whiskey or whatever it is because if that's what it is you are a bad drunk and that's no good thing.

It ain't fun and if it ain't then what's the point?

Quattrocento · 29/04/2010 22:48

I'm a bit confused. Your thread title says that you can't afford to buy but then your op seems to suggest that you have bought a 2-bed house but can't afford to trade up to a 3-bed.

Either way, sympathies.

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