To get a teeny bit irritated by people who "parent loudly"

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I was at the swimming baths yesterday and there was a mother with her toddler DD getting her dressed into her swimming costume. They were sat the bench just across from me and mother kept up a running commentary in a booming jovial voice the entire time...

" Come now Evie, shall we take your trousers off now? What colour are your trousers? Are they pink? Can you say pink? Oh good girl! Can you stand up for Mummy? No Evie, stay here like a good girl. Gosh you are a little monkey aren't you. What sound does a monkey make? That's right. Okay, shall we bring Ducky with us? What colour is Ducky? Is he yellow? Oh you clever thing. Can you say ducky? What sound do ducks make? Quack quack yellow ducky." And it went on. And on.

It really isn't a crime atall but I got the distinct impression that it was all for everyone else's benefit and she was expecting everyone in there to comment on her exceptional parenting and how well she interacts with her child, and isn't Evie just the cutest little thing and how old is she.........when instead I was just thinking SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!!

I know it probably makes me sound like a right cow but I just find the whole "look at what a great parent I am" thing kinda irksome.

I don't think I am a pushy mum KatiePul but I do ask my DD the colours of things, it is her current obsession and she loves to do it. I am certainly not talking with her to impress other people, just chatting with her about something she's interested in!

Ha at "basil and LIME"! Exactly.

Must admit I felt a bit icky when I heard a woman in Sainsbury's loudly belting out 'Timmy, it's Timmy', in a deranged way to her tiny baby who looked, well, asleep.
But I did give her the benefit of doubt and assumed perhaps she was just post-natal. It was sweet really, if nuts.
She did kind of grin and look around for approval afterwards which i thought was odd.

I parent very loudly. Generally because my boys are heading for the horizon at WarpSpeed 13 and appear chronically deaf.

On the rare occasions we are actually sharing a positive moment then I find it hard to turn the volume down to something more appropriate. Sorry about that!

I find the loudest parents are always unaccompanied dads trying to impress any nearby women with their 'daddy skills'.

It just makes me laugh really.

LMAO, gizmo...we sound similar in our philosophies!!!

UQD: Such a compliment!

I have always thought AIBU is the internet equivalent of hearing other people slag you off in the toilet when you are in a cubicle. So, do you brazen it out and face up to your attackers or wait mortified in the toilet and slink out after they have left?

Oh God, MrsShu, is it me you're talking about when it comes to parents reading stories loudly on the train.

I confess I did attempt some performance parenting recently. DD was running towards me and I bent down to swoop her up and swing her around. Only I accidentally dug my fingernail into her and she wailed loudly instead. I definitely wasn't looking for general applause after that.

I don't speak loudly (I think) but I do speak clearly and I am really , really upset to think that anybody would be so mean spirited as to be judging me on how I speak to my daughter. I naturally have very little patience and a quick temper so it is hard work for me to manage dd3 without shouting and I was really pleased with what we managed today and I am really angry that so many of you can't see that but would rather just accuse these parents of showing off. You know nothing about how they parent and the only thing you are judging them on is a snap shot in which they are showing interest and pride in tehir children. In what twisted world is that a bad thing?

The mum of twins at ds2's nursery does this. Just talks constantly. As we get out the car and walk to nursery. God its painful.

And what is wrong with car boot sales shu ? the car boot season has just begun. better than those middle class snobs who only wear designer or boden.

I parent loudly, I think. I have a son with SN and a 1 yr old DD so they both need lots of organising and back-and-forth interaction. i don't think many parents do it for the 'performancce' element. You are a cynical lot!

To be honest, I find it much more strange when I see parents and children not speaking to each other at all. I watched a family (mum, dad, two kids) eat lunch in a pizza place the other day without saying a single word to each other. They can't have been very happy.

NL - no-one on this thread is talking about you. Good for you for having a nice day with your child. Don't let this AIBU nonsense ruin it for you.

last week

kid eating cheddar sarnie
" are oyu sick of the brie sandwiches alernina"
"yes " said she( for it was she " its a bit like msoked salmon - you can get sick of it"

readers, she was 6

nothing wrong with boot sales
just the compare and contrast theme of the convo was so dull.
i thought " ladies has it come to this"

god but talking doesnt = happy does it.

does is?

Northernlurker...I don't think anyone is talking about just TALKING to your kid in a normal fashion. Mine are cute and funny, and conversational, so I chat to them all the time when we're out...plus I finally have an audience for all the muttering to myself I did before I had the DCs. What they're on about is parents who speak loudly to their children with the intention of others around them hearing it and thinking 'my, what a good mum she is'. They are doing it to attract attention...NOT for the benefit of their children. You can spot the difference from light years away.

Northernlurker: I really don't want you to feel bad about this. I am sorry. But I didn't say it was a bad thing atall, just a little irritating. It is a fact of life that people judge others. We know we shouldn't but we do. Please don't let a silly thread like this colour your day.

northern
step waway from puter

Well I think yabu. Much more odd to walk around in complete silence.

I've been doing numbers in French, German & Spanish with my dc4 and when she says "there are 3 dogs in the park" I'll ask her what 3 is in another language. I hadn't thought people might be listening thinking I'm showing off. She wanted to learn numbers as other 3 dc are learning languages at school.

It does annoy me when parents witter on not actually pausing to let their child speak or reply!

lol at UnquietDad (1st post) brill - its exactly that!!

evie is a v trendy name as well

I know what you mean Northernlurker, I have been the same with my ds when he is been a bit challenging. Its a coping mechanism which has stopped me yelling and looking like a fish wife.

Then I would be judged.

The issue here is LOUD PARENTING, PassionateWoman, no one's saying you should studiously ignore your children in public.
I took kids on tube this morning and read a book to them QUIETLY so it was just for them to hear, not for the carriage.
These type of parents drive me nuts.
I was in Wagamama sans dc the other day, and there was a mum with a 2 yr old who was bellowing 'That's RIGHT, blah blah, 10 DOES come after 9' and kept giving me smiley raised eyebrow looks desperate for me to give her a gushy smile and a 'your little one's sooo bright'.
The little girl came up to me to chat, no probs at all I was happy to say hello, but the mum then jumped on me and said 'She is just SO curious, she wants to see everything speak to everyone, learn everything' and I said with a sweet smile 'Yes a TOTALLY TYPICAL 2 YEAR OLD'

ooh

WE DONT LIKE YOUR KIDS

we dont give a toss

lol at peopel dELIBERATELY chooseing to misinterpret this
teh dleight in being CROSS and eveyone else being WRONG is overhwleming