To get a teeny bit irritated by people who "parent loudly"

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I was at the swimming baths yesterday and there was a mother with her toddler DD getting her dressed into her swimming costume. They were sat the bench just across from me and mother kept up a running commentary in a booming jovial voice the entire time...

" Come now Evie, shall we take your trousers off now? What colour are your trousers? Are they pink? Can you say pink? Oh good girl! Can you stand up for Mummy? No Evie, stay here like a good girl. Gosh you are a little monkey aren't you. What sound does a monkey make? That's right. Okay, shall we bring Ducky with us? What colour is Ducky? Is he yellow? Oh you clever thing. Can you say ducky? What sound do ducks make? Quack quack yellow ducky." And it went on. And on.

It really isn't a crime atall but I got the distinct impression that it was all for everyone else's benefit and she was expecting everyone in there to comment on her exceptional parenting and how well she interacts with her child, and isn't Evie just the cutest little thing and how old is she.........when instead I was just thinking SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!!

I know it probably makes me sound like a right cow but I just find the whole "look at what a great parent I am" thing kinda irksome.

Bleughhhhhh

Id rather see this than see someone not speaking to their child at all, or shouting manically at it as I often witness.

But seiously, vomit inducing does this woman sound.

YANBU

You get a lot of them in the summer holidays in the Natural History Museum. "Now, what's that, Alfie? That's right, a STEGOSAURUS. And what does a STEGOSAURUS eat? That's right, and what do we CALL a dinosaur that eats plants?..." etc.

Subtext is "Alfie is a Very Middle Class Child, don't you know, and we Talk About Things and he eats organic hummus."

WE HAD THIS THREAD ONLY LAST WEEK

oops sorry caps ock

heere

I do this when we're on our own; I'm just a talker, and given to effusive praise (I can't help it! She astounds me hourly). The result is that we go out, and I am on autopilot, and I'm sure people think I'm showing off how incredible my daughter is. But I don't mean to, I'm just...loquacious.

That thread was from November so hardly last week MrsShu

I've only spent six days in England this year and even I came across this kind of parent at the local park, talking about undulating hills and organic farms, and explaining to her children why the wooden bench was so much warmer for her BOTTOM (perfectly and rather loudly enunciated) then the metal bench.

I sniggered and then had to pretend ds had done something very funny.

in the grand scheme of htings i doubt if loud talking practises vary a lot year on year
but hey ho
as oyu were

I don't care how many times we've had this thread. If I hear much more middle class bellowing superiority overly vocal parenting this week I may be forced to stick the fucking stegosaurus where the sun never fucking shines.

MAkes me waant to shout
'Arent you just fucking wonderful!' at said parent!

ha i overheard the DULLEST conversation the other day between two mums who obv were onyl talking to fill time.
it was utterly pointless and i wanted to say " oh fgs you lot stop"
it was about the merit of " yard sales" and car boots.

MrsShu: No no, it was very helpful of you to point out that I'd started a thread about something that has been discussed on Mumsnet before. Because it probably never ever happens and I really should pay more attention. Thank you!

Silly question, but are you sure she was the mother? I know you said 'mummy' in your post, but I figure that was more an example than a transcript.

I ask because if she was an auntie or a friend, it may just have been that she was nervous and eager. I do this with my niece.

However, yes, it IS annoying, so YANBU. Some mums seem to have that attitude that when they go out with their kids, they are displaying them to the world. Maybe they don't think like that at all, but it's how it comes across.

Well op I do this quite a lot with dd3 - because if I don't she will simply run riot. She is bright and strong willed and it takes a lot of praise and focus to keep her on task with me because she's perfectly capable of making her own plans. This is bloody hard work and to come on here and read you complaining about people talking to their children

Thanks for that - great way to make me feel utterly crap about the day out together we've just had in which we managed without any major tantrums and a lot of nice chatting. And yes this post does make you seem like a right cow.

Gosh yes how awful. Much better never to talk to your children except to swear.

oh god so its YOU northern lurker

try not talking - she might have time to think!

I wish I could retell the more ludicrous conversation heard all over Waitrose t'other week but the ridiculous names of the children in question would likely "out" me!

they are fucking ANNOYING ugh, really rile me too, YANBU

lol fine line between talking relaly loudly and swearing of course

Yanbu. I also tend to think 'oh DO put a sock in it.'

That's not to say I don't enthuse about all the brilliant things my dc do - I just tell them not everyone within a half mile radius.

I speak fairly quietly anyway though. I find booming voices a bit tirsome to be around.

or worse
reading a book REALLY LOUDLY to a kid on a train
no need to shout - the kid is on your lap

Was just going to post almost exactly what NorthernLurker posted, I talk lots to DD as it stops her tantrumming helps her focus on what we are doing.