To get a teeny bit irritated by people who "parent loudly"

[Rollergirl1]

I was at the swimming baths yesterday and there was a mother with her toddler DD getting her dressed into her swimming costume. They were sat the bench just across from me and mother kept up a running commentary in a booming jovial voice the entire time...

" Come now Evie, shall we take your trousers off now? What colour are your trousers? Are they pink? Can you say pink? Oh good girl! Can you stand up for Mummy? No Evie, stay here like a good girl. Gosh you are a little monkey aren't you. What sound does a monkey make? That's right. Okay, shall we bring Ducky with us? What colour is Ducky? Is he yellow? Oh you clever thing. Can you say ducky? What sound do ducks make? Quack quack yellow ducky." And it went on. And on.

It really isn't a crime atall but I got the distinct impression that it was all for everyone else's benefit and she was expecting everyone in there to comment on her exceptional parenting and how well she interacts with her child, and isn't Evie just the cutest little thing and how old is she.........when instead I was just thinking SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP!!!

I know it probably makes me sound like a right cow but I just find the whole "look at what a great parent I am" thing kinda irksome.

The only public parenting I do is shouting "MIND the lady!" at ds as he careers down the street. Which is mainly a warning to said lady to watch out, there's a small child heading in her direction at speed.

Morecrack and UQD have it just right.

Oh yeah. I forgot I do some too. DS is actually very well behaved but if another child is being a brat near him, and the mother is ignoring and reading Heat or something I always shout out.

'I'm going to the loo, NO BITING the other children okay'.

It usually gets parent of brat to pay attention to her brat's behaviour.

I guess that is true public parenting.

At the end of the day the specifics are pointless. I called her Evie. That wasn't her name. Someone said the name was hopelessly middle-class. UQD mentioned the science museuem. It's irrelevent.

It was something that occurred that mildly irritated me. I would probably mention in idle chit chat to my best friend on the phone but besides that nothing. I decide to post it on mumsnet, just because. And here we are 11 pages later. It's quite hilarious really. I don't know whether to laugh or cry.

When I have my DGD over (turned 2 in December) she normally has a sleep.

When she wakes up I generally give her a cuddle,asks if she needs the loo, give her something to eat and drink if she wants it.

I was at my sister's home and her almost 3 DGD woke up and before the poor little thing could even open her eyes properly the third degree started.

"How old are you going to be in two weeks time"?

"What date is your birthday?"

"What month is your birthday in?"

"Show me with your fingers how old you are going to be".

My sister and I are very close so I was able to say "Giveover, she's not a performing monkey"

MrsShu is the best thing on this thread.

people who deliberately misinterpret on mumsnet are just looking for somewhere to rant and someone to direct their anger at. start your own thread, dont attack the OP!

its like that one we had a while ago about people who are always whinging on about minor ailments, and people came on like 'oh, should i have shut up about my [genuinely awful ailment]'

no, READ the OP....

oh and i completely agree with this, i whispered with my kids on trains and stuff unless it was fairly empty, you know, teaching them to respect others around them?
in supermarkets i did chat to them a lot, but low level, and i just found it funny how their faces lit up when i showed them the puppy on the Andrex roll.

YABU.

Good post from dorisbonkers.

I did it a lot,usually not when people were around listening though, and I am quiet and soft spoken. I hate drawing any attention to myself, to the point of having registry weddings rather than church weddings.

Unquiet Dad I found your first post hilarious.

A mum at school recently made a fabulous lunch for her son - it was a chicken salad. She also made home-made yogurt.
I watched her get it out and 'rearrange' it 3 times in the space of ten minutes - wanting someone to comment on how BRILLIANT she was.
Eventually someone said 'oh you're good, I just make mine sandwiches.'
She was happy then.

It wasn't about a healthy meal for her son - it was about showing off.

MAYBE she has some deep seeded issues that make her need the attention, but that doesn't make it any less irritating.

I'm afraid the woman in OP sounds exactly like me, but its because DD (SN) is having real problems with speech and we are trying to bring her on Hope I am not going round irritating everyone.

and for all the people who say "we don't mean your child with SN"...they dont come with two heads or a big badge

Oh ffs everyone getting 'very upset' about this thread...WE ARE ONLY TALKING ABOUT LOUD PARENTING by annoying parents who are clearly showing off and putting on a public show which is just irritating - nothing more, nothing less. We're not talking about engaging with/talking to/teaching/distracting/your children in public, which we all do and is not the same thing at all!!

Am practically weeping at the deliberate misunderstanding of this thread.

Can I even bear to write the following? It's been said time and time again on this thread.......

Not talking about just chatting in a loud voice to your dc

Not referring to children with SN (would Rollergirl be that cruel???!)

Talking about showing off !!!!!!!

Tried to bold 'showing off' and it didn't work.

my point exactly fartmeister - and I did manage bold!

fartmeister - I'm bawling my eyes out here

i am SORRY But this is the best thing

"I saw someone asking their very coifed dog if if wanted a vanilla icecream or a strawberry icecream the other day."

Oh did it go tits up ?

What a surprise

Never ever critisise 'involved' middle-class parenting on MN.

I talk to my baby AND my dog in a stupid loud voice, haha. I usually do the 'looking around' thing in a furtive way to see if anyone's looking at me strangely...

Anyway - I totally understand what the OP is saying. There's talking to your kid (albeit loudly - that's me) and then there's thinking that anyone actually gives a shit whether your two month old is tri-lingual or writing their dissertation or (insert startlingly-advanced-for-age achievement here)

On a tangent, I post on another site. They have a sort of equivalent forum to AIBU (except it's just called 'Opinion') We have posters over there who'll take offence at the drop of a hat/deliberately misinterpret the OP, etc. It doesn't just happen here (except there's a clarity of viciousness on AIBU that can be either very entertaining or eye-rollingly tedious. Depends on my mood at the time.)

Anyhoo - as you were. I'm sure this thread'll die now that I've posted...

a dog once winked at me.

It made my day.

funny how shedloads of parents of kids with SN/language delay can identify with the example in the OP, or maybe we are all deliberately playing the wounded martyr for a a laugh .

I do get the whole competitive public parenting scenario - happens often enough on MN after all - but the OP's example really doesn't sound like that at all.

OP YANBU at all! Haven't read all of it but I bet she doesn't do that at home.
My friend said to me the other day "DS was asking question after question on the whole bus journey he just went on and on it was so irritating" Er, just tell him to be quiet for a while! Don't really get it TBH.
Will read the rest now