about" friends "babies diet.

[LittleMrsHappy]

My cousin has a friend who regular stays at her house who has a dd aged roughly between 9-10 months.

I went to cousins house last week at 7am as we are having our garden landscaped, her friends was their and for breakfast gave her dd some white toast with butter, and a bottle of ribena.

Aout half a hour later she gave her about 5 organix finger food biscuit's, followed by her bottle of milk and then a packet of onion rings

Nothing substantial or remotely nutritious, friend says her diet is always like this, but shes not bothered as her dd is skinny and healthy (true tbh)

Now its not as if she is thick or uneducated she is a professional and very intelligent, its just that shes lazy or cba to correctly feed her dd.

Am I being UR to say something to her, she is their tomorrow and I need to go round, but I dont think I can sit and not say something.

Im not usually a judgemental person like this, but this has rather somewhat peed me off, as it just lazy parenting.

Say something at your peril imo!

If somebody questioned how I feed my child I would have them for breakfast!

My child is, fwiw, fed a mainly healthy diet so nobody would have cause to query it but god help them if they did!

YABU

How could you get a 9-10 month old to eat a packet of onion rings?

toast = fine. Organix biscuits = fine. ribena is a bit too sugary and onion rings are not great. But you can't get involved. try offering the child some fruit? If she likes it, make a comment on 'look how much she loves the banana' etc.

I don't understand people who don't offer their children at least some healthy food but you can't say anything about her diet.

YABU - none of your business and you or your cousin does not her diet 24/7 so don't have the full picture.
Since when is toast & butter not at all substantial or nutritious? Not saying it is the best but it's not the devil's food!

def sounds like too much salt and sugar to me, and a lack of fruit and veg, if that really is representitive of babys diet

very very sad

i do not think a "skinny" 10 month old looks healthy at all TBH, they need some fat to burn off when they get mobile and for growth spurts

sounds like a diet designed to bring on constipation to me

this is her diet mostly, apparently she does not like the texture of veg or fruit, and will only eat hand held foods, i asked if she tried finger carrots, etc,,, nah too much hassle

she stays at friends house 3-4 days/nights a week.

YABU. You don't know what she feeds her baby every day, you've just seen a snapshot.
Get your nose out.

my nose is not in, reason why I asked on here first!

I wouldn't if I were you.

are you sure they were onion rings and not those organix sweetcorn rings (they looked very very similar)

TBH I wouldnt say anything, if someone questioned the way I feed my kids I would go up the wall

At 9 - 10 months she will be getting most of her nutrition from her bottles.

White toast and butter is fine. As are teh biscuits.

Ok, ribena and onion rings are a bit dodgy, but she is not going to poison her child.

And my DC NEVER ate veg, still rarely do. DD loves fruit, but DS has to be forced encouraged to eat fruit.

I don't even think her friend should say anything - nevermind her friend's cousin.

If the friend is maintaining health checks, etc then any deficiency in diet would be picked up if it were serious. Just sounds like crap choices rather than neglect.

Oh I dont think its neglect, and No she does not take her to the Drs etc.. she does not believe in them as they will only judge her

Ive known her for years, but she is my cousins friend more than mine.
The onion rings were crisps the cheap TAYTO ones, my friend aways make the child something decent but she always takes it off her saying she will not eat it, and give her something unhealthy instead.

Shes had Chinese food, chip shop food etc... anything that she does not have to cook and the child can eat herself, she does not have meals also, just snacks all day.

Not the way I'd feed at 9 or 10 mo, but what can you do really? If you say something, you'll be seen as being nosey or judgemental.

Maybe take along some fruit next time and see if her DD takes an interest in it and ask her mum if she minds her having a piece of apple or banana. Better to do it this way indirectly rather than being too upfront - not everyone takes kindly to being told what they should and shouldn't be feeding their child.

Well its up to you, You are judging her parenting which nobody likes to be done to them, so she's not exactly going to thank you!

Whatever you say to her about her dds diet its not going to go well!

From 7-12 months babies have a salt allowance of 1 gm, not hard to go over that if you start bunging them crisps! There have been instances where children given a large amount of salt in their diet have died, so it is an actual risk.

Bottom line,

How much will it bother you if she never speaks to you again or causes a massive scene at your cousins?

balanced with..

How will you feel if something does happen to the child?

The alternative is to speak to her health visitor. Or print something off the net with some recipes and and showing the salt allowances for her age group.

Ribena - actual ribena says on it suitable from 3 years up so she should know that its not reccomended.

Good luck I think you're going to need it!

I was thinking maybe she just gives these more snacky things when she goes out to visit your friend, rather than packing a full cooked lunch, as I tend to do that sometimes but if it really is her every day diet its not so good, i think best action would be just to keep offering her other stuff though if she makes for her own child some carrot sticks or whatever, then keep offering each time does she want to try some? then say somethings like encouraging but doesnt sound that judgemental eg maybe you could say oh my dd didnt like vegetables either but i kept offering it to her and now she loves it, or something like that? to encourage her 2 keep offering..?
She can give her pre prepared fruit and vegetables just buy it and all you have to do is wash it and hand it over 2 the child for a healthier snack than crisps, so if lazyness is the problem its still extremely easy 2 buy a bag of ready prepared carrot stick, or whatever else, and just wash and give..

YABU though I agree with your general observations that the diet appears less that ideal.

YANBU. Well not totally. Toast is fine imo, as are the organix stuff. However at that age ribena from a bottle is hideous (actually pop from a bottle at any age is!) and crisps if shes having them all the time.
I believe a little of what you fancy does you no harm, so long as your diet as a whole is healthy.
In this situation though it sounds like a constant.
I agree you could try and be subtle as mentioned, but i am not too sure it is your place to say anything direct.

YABU
It's far from the most crap diet I've heard of for a baby that age. I wouldn't give ribena, many biscuits or a whole pack of crips to a baby that age -- but I see people feed their babies like this often at toddler groups, do you not get out very often? so I can't believe you'd actually complain to someone about it!