about" friends "babies diet.

[LittleMrsHappy]

My cousin has a friend who regular stays at her house who has a dd aged roughly between 9-10 months.

I went to cousins house last week at 7am as we are having our garden landscaped, her friends was their and for breakfast gave her dd some white toast with butter, and a bottle of ribena.

Aout half a hour later she gave her about 5 organix finger food biscuit's, followed by her bottle of milk and then a packet of onion rings

Nothing substantial or remotely nutritious, friend says her diet is always like this, but shes not bothered as her dd is skinny and healthy (true tbh)

Now its not as if she is thick or uneducated she is a professional and very intelligent, its just that shes lazy or cba to correctly feed her dd.

Am I being UR to say something to her, she is their tomorrow and I need to go round, but I dont think I can sit and not say something.

Im not usually a judgemental person like this, but this has rather somewhat peed me off, as it just lazy parenting.

so as a society the general census in that we just watch and shut up, while the baby will suffer in the long term when all it MAY take is a indirect word etc... it might not, but it may do also, but at least I can say I have tried, and instead of just sitting and saying nothing, cause apparently the mother knows best and might be offended

I have to lol, at the do you get out much line, always a classic not

"just genuinely interested when other peoples appalling parenting becomes anyone elses business."

I guess I'd like to know exactly what OP would like to say -- maybe she'd get fewer YABUs if she was precise on that. Excess Salt? Excess Sugar? Too little milk? Lack of fruit and veg? Lack of fixed meal times? Lack of home-cooked items? OP seems to believe that all of those are wrong and merit direct comment. And then it depends how OP is going to say whatever she might say, too.

If the baby really is having one+ pack of crips daily I might ask "Do you think that's too much salt?" But the rest seems quite ordinary to me.

Smacking the child around, leaving her to cry for hours, giving her only Coca Cola to drink leaving her in dirty nappy for ages, not feeding her when she's hungry... that's the type of stuff I'd label "appalling".

Say somethign if you like but she's hardly likely to thank you for it

I see so much in my profession also, far far worse than just a poor diet, their is only so much limitation I can do to get a parent to feed their child a reasonable nutritious diet, but at least I tried, instead of ignoring it.

"just genuinely interested when other peoples appalling parenting becomes anyone elses business."

I guess I'd like to know exactly what OP would like to say -- maybe she'd get fewer YABUs if she was precise on that. Excess Salt? Excess Sugar? Too little milk? Lack of fruit and veg? Lack of fixed meal times? Lack of home-cooked items? OP seems to believe that all of those are wrong and merit direct comment. And then it depends how OP is going to say whatever she might say, too.

If the baby really is having one+ pack of crips daily I might ask "Do you think that's too much salt?" But the rest seems quite ordinary to me.

Smacking the child around, leaving her to cry for hours, giving her only Coca Cola to drink leaving her in dirty nappy for ages, not feeding her when she's hungry... that's the type of stuff I'd label "appalling".

eeek! Not sure how I posted twice. I don't feel that strongly about it, honest.

yabu mind ur own its not ur place

i think the pressure to give kids food is crazy, tbh. that child would be better off with just milk than a packet of crisps, so that shite is filling his stomach up and preventing him eating otherwise.

that said, if the baby was eating well otherwise, i wouldn't be fainting at else but the ribena and crisps.

If the child is staying with your cousin 3/4 days/nights a week then your cousin can ensure she has decent food while she's there.

Other than that, while it's a pretty terrible diet, it's not the worst I've heard. Also, don't get wound up in the snacks vs meals bit. Children that age often do not eat proper meals but do graze all day. They have small tummies and can't take huge quantities at any one time. My dd (3) is still the same, although the sum total of her grazing each day is a lot more nutritious and varied.

See if she will try little packets of raisins. You can't get easier than them. Or other dried fruit.

Remember that at under a year milk is still the main source of nutrition and formula is packed full of good stuff. Solid food is only an add-on, although ideally it would be a more healthy add-on!

So what are you going to say then?

she cant ensure as the mother takes it off her and refuses to give it to her, cousin is at the end of her tether with her, as she wont try, "she knows best" .

Cousin has asked me, and now I am unsure, even tho my gut is telling me Yes, something needs to be done.

I have got healthy eating leaflets and importance of a balanced diet leaflets from work, as well as "what good a balanced and healthy diet" does to you and your child long term

I also am giving her and as she is so insistent on [[fwww.amazon.co.uk/Top-100-Baby-Purees-Healthy/dp/0091904994/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid= 1271337310&sr=1-3 AK MADE EASY I am giving her this finger foods book

ive printed leaflets about babies and salt, calcium intakes, how important fruit and veg are etc.. in regards to vitamins etc..

doing it this way as she loves reading, and Im also going to say its for one of my case loads as she is quite nosey and will have a look when I leave them at cousins house intentionally unintentionally

you sounds like a sanctamonious busy body to me and i wouldnt blame her if she shoved your leaflets back up your arse

Ah anothe AIBU where the OP hasd decided she's not before posting, is is only actually posting to sneer at the other person.

Fine to wonder what goes through peoples minds, that's not what this is though.

I haven't decided anything actually, the book and the leaflets I already have, due to work, the leaflets I needed to printout as needed for another case, so hence them already here.

I haven't made my mind up at all.

Do you really think that your intervention will change the mother's practices LMH? As you said, the woman is a professional so her choices aren't borne out of ignorance. I just fail to see what you'll achieve, apart from the reaction predicted by VinegarTits, which may not be entirely undeserved.

Im going to forget about this for a moment and move on to something else, we go on about repeatedly here the cost of obesity to the NHS and how it is self harm and we need to teach and educate people of the importance of a varied and healthy diet, but yet 90% here seem to think that we should just ignore and put up!

No wonder our society is in a abysmal (sp) state, Im all right jack, so everyone else can GTF! attitude, that what is abysmal(sp) , peoples shocking, and selfish attitude of those little voices who cannot speak for themselves!

Just out of interest, why is she staying at your cousins' house?