about" friends "babies diet.

[LittleMrsHappy]

My cousin has a friend who regular stays at her house who has a dd aged roughly between 9-10 months.

I went to cousins house last week at 7am as we are having our garden landscaped, her friends was their and for breakfast gave her dd some white toast with butter, and a bottle of ribena.

Aout half a hour later she gave her about 5 organix finger food biscuit's, followed by her bottle of milk and then a packet of onion rings

Nothing substantial or remotely nutritious, friend says her diet is always like this, but shes not bothered as her dd is skinny and healthy (true tbh)

Now its not as if she is thick or uneducated she is a professional and very intelligent, its just that shes lazy or cba to correctly feed her dd.

Am I being UR to say something to her, she is their tomorrow and I need to go round, but I dont think I can sit and not say something.

Im not usually a judgemental person like this, but this has rather somewhat peed me off, as it just lazy parenting.

What's your job LittlemrsHappy?

I know you are giving this Mum some leaflets. It could also work by simply saying "look what I found about salt levels in food - they are shocking" and then looking at labels with her.

She may just not know how high in salt some foods are etc.

It is a bizarre set up but both of them are happy, my cousin was made a window 3 years ago so they both keep each other company, and NO she is not depressed, or having a tough time, she loves her life and choose for it to be this way, she does not want the father involved her decision. She has loads of help and support also.

She loves her life and loves being a single mummy, Ive known her for years although she is my cousins close friend.

She just has a very lazy attitude concerning food with her dd, and she is very big on routine, activities, education etc..

'and NO she is not depressed, or having a tough time, she loves her life and choose for it to be this way'

yes that was the exact impression i gave to my friends and family when i was suffering from PNA when my ds1 was 12 months old

We dont slate her either, cousin tries to encourage by giving her child food etc...and says try this etc.... she is fantastic in every other parenting aspect, would even put me to shame at times.
she does not know my cousin has asked me to have a word.

Vinegar, take it as you will, but she is not depressed, she is not giving a impression out either, she is who she is, and she will tell you that.

Well good for her, and i hope she tells you to butt out, if you do have a word with her

I agree with gingernutlover, that finger foods book is fab.

As others have said, the toast and butter is fine - babies need loads of fat as long as it's not processed and their wee tummies can't handle too much fibre, so I wouldn't give a baby too much wholemeal food.

But the onion rings and ribena are crapola, it must be said, far too much salt and sugar.

I would have been judging like mad (silently) in your position OP, especially as you know this is the kind of stuff she eats all the time. A one off is completely different.

I think it's a good idea to give her the leaflets and books, you could just say you had them going spare and thought of her, as she has a wee baby at weaning age, so you thought she might be interested..? Can't do any harm. And maybe she doesn't know about salt levels and babies and that it's actually dangerous to give them too much salt.

I wouldn't be too harsh on the mum though OP, it's not abuse or neglect, nor "appalling", or the worst breakfast ever on the planet, and maybe she just hates cooking and thinks it's more difficult to prepare veg and so on than it actually is. Maybe she thinks her baby hates fruit and veg full stop and doesn't realise she's only tiny and could love veg next week, their tastes develop and change so much.

Sorry I do see you don't want to be harsh on her. I wouldn't say anything that was remotely critical at all though, it's just make her defensive and angry and very unlikely to look at the stuff. Probably best to play the "thought you might be interested in these, it's hard being responsible for a new little person's nutrition day in day out" kind of line...?

peista I dont think its in anyway shape or form abuse, I know, I work with AT RISK children daily, and have seen some horrific child abuse cases.

My cousin is genuinely worried about her dd health when older due to cousin DH dying of diabetes but she not some sort of manic friend, she does have a point I believe.

My cousin think she needs a kick in the butt so to speak, as everything else she is fine about, just not what goes into her dd body.

Mmmmmm I'm eating Tayto onion rings now btw.

no need to swear at me secondcoming

no i dont mean that that diet is okay all day everyday, but there are many children who are denied food so the fact the child is fed is one positive.

"We dont slate her either, cousin tries to encourage by giving her child food etc...and says try this etc.... she is fantastic in every other parenting aspect, would even put me to shame at times."

LOLOLOLOL

"LAxative attitude"

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

This is the funniest 'poster' I have seen for ages. A work of genius. MOre! More!

Fio
I really shouldn't
but..........ROFL

Well to me it seems you and your cousin are acting more out of concern for the baby's diet than out of any desire to be judgy for the sake of it. You have nothing to lose by giving her the books and leaflets, as I said, as long as you don't say anything critical imo. Weaning is very daunting, and you can point that out to her, that's not remotely critical. She might not read it though! I agree it's a good idea to ask if you can give the baby a bit of your banana or whatever when you're around there. Hopefully the baby'll love it and she'll see that it's easy and start giving her some every day..?

is not amused at the comment, or by myself, in saying the comment fio, IK dont think my cousins circumstances are laughable, when it was obvious what the error word meant.

maybe that's just me tho.

Anyway, I will let you know what my cousin thinks, I might just giver her the material and let her deal with it, x x x

Thankyou anyway x x x

Littlemrshappy

sorry
v immature to laugh
it was the laxatives what did it

Twas v funny have to admit, don't take offence LittleMrs Happy.

I'm astonished that people think this is a decent diet for a child who is not yet a year old, tbh. I think you're right to say/do something, LMH.

Erm, who said it was a decent diet?

I have friends who let their dc have facebook pages, feed them crap, pierce their ears, don't make them wear helmets on their bikes etc etc

I just don't criticise what I perceive to be their parenting mistakes
not my place
unless there is abuse or neglect

and in this case there clearly isn't so I would judge silently and keep my beak out

What is wrong woith her breakfast ?.
Ribena is based on blackcurrant juice which is high in vitamin C (it has sugar added bu that is to counteract the tartness of the blackcurrants)White bread -well babies aren't supposed to have high fibre foods and butter is very nutritious as is milk.
This is one meal -how do you know what she eats the rest of the week ?
In any case its none of your business-you need to butt out.