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to think nicky hambleton jones is irresponsible and ridiculous

147 replies

woahthere · 12/04/2010 22:20

this quote in particular has got my back up....
'Eventually, when he was eight days old and screaming all the time, I gave him formula milk: he was a transformed baby. The best thing I ever did was forget the breast and move on to the bottle.'

The whole article has annoyed me to be honest, it is about her horrible birth but has been written with the angle of...home birth is dangerous and why bother breastfeeding you'll just get cracked nipples. silly cow.

Read more: www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1265496/Nicky-Hambleton-Jones-shunned-NHS-private-home-birth--thi ngs-went-terribly-wrong-.html#ixzz0kvHmx1a9

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scottishmummy · 13/04/2010 20:17

why are you deriding her mode of feeding.its up to her.maybe after a horrid scary birth experience and struggling to feed she made her decision maybe you are the silly cow for being unempathic about someone else birth experience and struggling to breastfeed

hf128219 · 13/04/2010 20:18

YABVU. Each to their own. No different than any sort of discussion.

monkeyfacegrace · 13/04/2010 20:21

I dont understand the waters breaking 'shocker'. My waters went at 32+6, and the cons kept me in hosp for 2 days then sent me home on antibiotics with instructions not to soak in the bath or have sex. No mention of induction, then labour started naturally 5 days later.

woahthere · 13/04/2010 20:25

oh scottishmummy am so bored of defending myself....read what is written you stupid people, i am not deriding her mode of feeding...if you would like to quote where i have done so I will in fact apologise but I know I havent. ffs, why dont people actually read whats written?

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scottishmummy · 13/04/2010 20:29

so posters are "you stupid people"
NHJ is a "silly cow"
...
and we wonder why no one warms to your opinionated bossy posts

she has her live healthy baby
she has chosen how to feed said baby
not much else to say

unless you want to,launch in and call posters stupid again that is

bibbitybobbityhat · 13/04/2010 20:33

MmeLindt

"Breast Is Best But Formula Is Fine Too" - that is marvellous. Is it your own invention? You should tm it, if not.

hf128219 · 13/04/2010 20:49

'why bother breastfeeding you'll just get cracked nipples. silly cow.'

I would say your above comment is rather judgemental.

'Judge not...' Matthew 7:1

EvilTwins · 13/04/2010 20:50

woahthere - your OP starts with:

"this quote in particular has got my back up....
'Eventually, when he was eight days old and screaming all the time, I gave him formula milk: he was a transformed baby. The best thing I ever did was forget the breast and move on to the bottle.' "

So why do you think it's EVERYONE ELSE's fault that you are coming across as anti-FF?

"read what is written you stupid people" (well, person in your case) - Perhaps you should.

woahthere · 13/04/2010 20:53

scottishmummy, you said this about me...

''why are you deriding her mode of feeding.its up to her.maybe after a horrid scary birth experience and struggling to feed she made her decision maybe you are the silly cow for being unempathic about someone else birth experience and struggling to breastfeed''

i take it that you looked back at my other posts and found the bit where i actually said any of those things. Oh, couldnt find it? funny that because you made it up.
not all posters are stupid,only the ones that twist things on their tail and fabricate what i have said.

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EvilTwins · 13/04/2010 20:54

But you start your whole OP by saying that her thing about changing to formula has got your back up. Surely you can see how that might be interpreted as anti-FF?

scottishmummy · 13/04/2010 20:56

oh do gie it a rest.take your anger and vent elsewhere.you are now coming across a bit foaming at the gob

GettinTrimmer · 13/04/2010 21:06

woahthere My first reaction was that I didn't blame NHJ for not continuing with bf. What a hideous time of it, when I had ds I couldn't hold him at first after an awful birth, but successfully breastfed him.

I think the DM are at fault here, not NHJ she is entitled to tell us about her opinions and experiences.

DM has included a box on home births but has done nothing to give facts about breastfeeding, and to point out not all women have a hideous time of it. Don't read the paper myself anyway.

woahthere · 13/04/2010 21:08

that wasnt what i meant evil twins, it wasnt that she changed to formula that got my back up...that is purely how you read into it. i have explained myself so shant again, and later on i said this

''I may relent a little and say I dont know her and maybe she did have a bad experience so it might be out of order calling her names...BUT I still think its shitty to print this kind of stuff. I literally read and felt outraged and thats probably because it is a sore point for me having had negativity about my choice of hb and bf and then I vented my outrage.''

So there you go. I have concluded that I shouldnt call people names if I dont know them after half a bottle of wine, but I still feel perfectly reasonable that it is a terrible article to print and highly inflammatory. I shall also conclude that scottishmummy thinks i am not a real person and obviously could not possibly be upset. I am not angry, i am upset because I have been time and time again called anti ff and I have constantly stated how I am not but people do not read those bits they just think they will have a pop at the op.

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BariatricObama · 13/04/2010 21:12

formula smormula - have you seen what the child has on its feet! ffs

scottishmummy · 13/04/2010 21:13

your post and tone were very judgy of NHJ as others have also said

you wrote this quote in particular has got my back up....
'Eventually, when he was eight days old and screaming all the time, I gave him formula milk: he was a transformed baby. The best thing I ever did was forget the breast and move on to the bottle.' you admit obvious ire at her mode of feeding and called NHJ a silly cow -hardly supportive of her situation

NHJ isnt a role model. she is a wealthy schleb recounting her birth experience.no one is compelled to copy her.and somehow i dont think people will really take her narrative on board

woahthere · 13/04/2010 21:20

what situation is she in that millions of other people havent been in? why does she need supporting, shes got of her own words a happy baby. Im confused. I will ask again, where have i got 'obvious ire' of her method of feeding?

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scottishmummy · 13/04/2010 21:22

got my back up usually indicative of ire

woahthere · 13/04/2010 21:59

but not of her method of feeding is my point sm, its the whole wording and impression the article is giving that gets my back up so can you please stop trying to make me something i am not.

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scottishmummy · 13/04/2010 22:12

your op created an impression of disapproval and ire hence numerous yabu replies you have received

reviewing posts,and no one gets your thread based on your opinion expressed

i have not misrepresented you. i cannot see any affirmative posts on this thread supporting your pov

except yours of course

MorrisZapp · 14/04/2010 12:54

Give it up OP.

Your OP was clearly eye rolley about FF.

You can't turn it round now.

And as for gettingtrimmer 'they didn't give BF info or say that lots of people don't have such an awful time' etc well why should they? Surely most readers of newspapers are quite aware that Nicky bloomin' H-J is just one woman and that her own personal experiences don't constitute The Way It Is. It's a celeb article, not a how-to guide to correctly feeding a baby.

If she was praising BF then nobody would expect a disclaimer saying 'not everybody has this positive experience'.

tinkletinklelittlestar · 16/04/2010 23:31

Who cares? She has a healthy baby. It looks like this thread is turning into 'tit vs teat' discussion.

I thinks it is great she even tried to breastfeed.

New mums should not be judged on whether they breastfeed or not; or whether they pushed baby out or not - surely confidence is fragile enough with a new baby!

bridewolf · 17/04/2010 00:56

she just came across to me as a innocent first time mum, who didnt like her parents experience of birth, and thought , like many today , that natural birth is not that bad..............and its not surprising that having that simple idea, about birth, she would have had the same about breastfeeding.

she sounds like a woman who had full control of all aspect of her life, like many of us do, before we have our first child.
we just dont realise the reality of many things, when we go through pregnancy and labour, and then being a parent.

she had a nice healthy baby, and the end result is a happy mum and baby.

her story is not different, but one i have heard before from many mothers.

one mum i knew, even brought the hand woven bedewin (SP?) rug to give birth on to, in front of the(newly put in fireplace) fire, and kept the after birth, to make into pate for the babies naming day. Which all sounded rather romatic and hippy.
she did get her home birth, and found it to be rather more painful that she realised.

breastfeeding was quickly abandoned, when that too was painful, and the hippy mother , was swiftly back at work, in her work suit, high heels and fed infant in day nursery.
all doing well and happy.

like i mentioned, we all hit that reality brick wall eventually.
some of us just hit it with rather quickly , and head on.

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