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to think nicky hambleton jones is irresponsible and ridiculous

147 replies

woahthere · 12/04/2010 22:20

this quote in particular has got my back up....
'Eventually, when he was eight days old and screaming all the time, I gave him formula milk: he was a transformed baby. The best thing I ever did was forget the breast and move on to the bottle.'

The whole article has annoyed me to be honest, it is about her horrible birth but has been written with the angle of...home birth is dangerous and why bother breastfeeding you'll just get cracked nipples. silly cow.

Read more: www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1265496/Nicky-Hambleton-Jones-shunned-NHS-private-home-birth--thi ngs-went-terribly-wrong-.html#ixzz0kvHmx1a9

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stressheaderic · 12/04/2010 22:40

On an utterly shallow vein....I always thought she was a bit of posh, but her son's clothes are a wee bit chavvy aren't they? Trainers? Dear me.

outnumbered2to1 · 12/04/2010 22:40

the article was in the daily mail so i am surprised they managed to spell her name properly never mind the other contradictions in it.
Breast feeding doesn't work for everyone that much is clear. My DS1 was breast fed till he was 8 months old. My DS2 had dislocated hips at birth and was put into a von rosen splint at 3 days old follwed by the Pavlik harness till he was almost a year old. It was hard to find a comfortable position for both of us to breast feed him and after 3 months we switched to bottles. Much easier and happier baby.

Passay · 12/04/2010 22:41

chavvy?
nice

wukter · 12/04/2010 22:42

She's allowed to talk about her own experience. We should't have to follow the party line.

Lulumaam · 12/04/2010 22:42

underneath it all is a valid question

rather than why do we do it to ourselves, and let;s face it e, there are many many threads on here re breastfeeding probems including bleeding nipples and mastitis - the question is where is the support, teh help, the accurate consistent advice, pre and psot birth for succesful breastfeeding

bleeding nips and mastitis are solveable

maybe she didn;t know where to turn

maybe she was so exhauseted she didn;t want to

either way to call her names is not on

this gives pro breastfeeders a really bad name

fishie · 12/04/2010 22:43

i had a very similar birth experience. i don't go around telling other people anything much about it except that it is not a great idea to have a drip induction without an epidural and that it can be hard to get decent bf support in hospital.

n hambleton jones is irresponsible to be unloading all her woes onto us dm readers in this peculiar lecturing fashion. while advertising her glasses.

brockleybelle · 12/04/2010 22:44

The poor woman went through an exhausting, traumatic time that was drawn out over days. She then had to contend with recovering from a c-section on top of that exhaustion. If a way she managed to cope was to give her son formula so be it - sounds like she had to do it for her own sanity. Not sure why it bothers you so much.

AitchTwoZone · 12/04/2010 22:44

if her boy had lost 25% of his birth weight after a week the medics will have insisted that he have formula, it was likely a life-saver. (although how the hell they didn't notice before is a disgrace... but that's private for ya).

TheFallenMadonna · 12/04/2010 22:45

That quote, in particular, relates her experience.

I don't think censoring women's experience enhances the pro-breastfeeding cause really.

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woahthere · 12/04/2010 22:48

if thats the case lulu then perhaps daily mail are the iresponsible ones and they are who I am more irritated by. However, I think youre all being a bit naiive if you think that Nicky Jones wasnt aware of what she was implying, and as a person in the public eye who is supposed to be intelligent should perhaps have been more careful with her words. She didnt do the article for charity Im sure.

fishie...that has made me laugh...

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Passay · 12/04/2010 22:49

if oyu are in the public eye do you HAVE to breastfeed then?

fishie · 12/04/2010 22:49

the bf element is not why i find this article so irritating. it is the inaccuracies, sloppy writing. and that it is only there to sell her bloody glasses.

TheFallenMadonna · 12/04/2010 22:50

Or keep schtum?

AitchTwoZone · 12/04/2010 22:50

she has no responsibility to you or anyone else re bfing, woahthere. she's allowed to think it's a shitty faff if that's how she found it.

Passay · 12/04/2010 22:50

lol at glasses

MollieO · 12/04/2010 22:50

I really don't get the pro-bf anti-formula arguments at all. Surely it is down to what is right for you?

bibbitybobbityhat · 12/04/2010 22:50

Are you well known or in the public eye fishie? If not, I doubt anyone's interested in your birth experience.

I had the most horiffic time imaginable giving birth to my dd, and I breast fed her with almost no problems. Lucky, lucky me.
Doesn't mean I think anyone who chooses formula is "irresponsible or ridiculous".

Ack, I don't know why but every few months or so I stray on to these fekking anti formula threads. Really should know better.

30andMerkin · 12/04/2010 22:51

This is a woman who has made her career out of denying one of the most natural body processes - ageing. Her hair, teeth, skin, everything is controlled to within an inch of its life. So I'm completely amazed that she opted for a home birth from the outset!

(I'm not saying she could or should have squeezed out a massive baby in that position though!).

Passay · 12/04/2010 22:52

lol POOR fishie
i am fascinated by your birth
arf

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woahthere · 12/04/2010 22:54

its not an anti formula thread thats only what some have jumped on it as...because they love a good argument...
aitchtwo zone, course shes allowed to have found it a shitty faff, I certainly found mine was, most people probably did..but she has taken it a step further.

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fishie · 12/04/2010 22:54

nhj had epidural. she is wimp in comparison to wondrous me...

i think richard webber is the villain here. 'shunned the nhs' ffs.

Lulumaam · 12/04/2010 22:56

she has had her opinion and experience published

lots of women share their breastfeeding experiences, good and bad all over teh place, every day, in magazines, blogs, internet forums

why pick on this particular article, with a throwaway comment about bf?

i presume as you feel so strongly, you do something to support other women in breastfeeding?

she is not a HCP, or Mw, or obs, or anyone with any connection to birth/maternity/infant feeding, so owes no-one anything in terms of how she feeds her baby

even if she was one of the above, she is entiteld to feed her baby how she chooses

Lulumaam · 12/04/2010 22:57

woahthere, why start this is AIBU if you weren;t looking for a good argument?

Lulumaam · 12/04/2010 22:58

maybe women who do breastfeed and have homebirths should not be allowed to discuss it , as it is irresponsible to hurt the feelings of those who could not breastfeed or had to transfer in ?

AitchTwoZone · 12/04/2010 22:58

what, because some journalist asked her about her birth and bfing experience and she was truthful about it? worrabitch.