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Challenge 25 is a joke!!!

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IveStillGotIt · 08/04/2010 23:03

Ive just been to a well known supermarket with ds WHO'S NEARLY 10, and dp, had a full trolly of shopping £80! i.e food, washing powder, general household stuff, and a bottle of wine for myself and a create of lager that was on offer for dp, and the jobsworth at the till had the cheek to ask me for i.d! FFS im 28! ds is nearly 10! dp is 32! We were doing a full weeks shopping, and when she asked me, i pointed out ds and she had the cheek to say "that doesnt prove anything these days" well i totally let rip at her, common sense has obviously went out the window! She just shrugged her shoulders at me and demanded i.d, so i gave her my provisonal photo card license, and she had the cheek to hum and hay over the photo cause ive dyed my hair from dark brown to dark red! A supervisor (who i went to school with) came over and comfirmed it was ok to serve me, then she grudgenly put it through saying "if it was up to me, i dont think your old enough"!!! AIBU or should i put in a formal letter of complaint?

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differentnameforthis · 09/04/2010 08:20

"if it was up to me, i dont think your old enough"

Maybe because you were having such a tantrum! I would have refused to serve you if you had acted like that to me. Or called security!

No wonder nobody wants jobs serving people any more!

SoupDragon · 09/04/2010 08:22

You were rude when you pointed at your DS rather than simply laughing and handing over your driving license. I'm with coldtits.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2010 08:34

Tee i have plenty of stuff on me that have my name & address on - just none are accepted as ID

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hocuspontas · 09/04/2010 08:52

I was going to post that maybe alcohol needs to be sold in a separate place, not something you pick up while shopping. But then I remembered my Bailey's Truffles were flagged up the other day. (She took one look at me (53) and ok'd it ). I can't imagine people queuing separately for their sherry trifles or tiramasu.

I'd rather alcohol was still only sold in off licences but I presume there's a large mark up that supermarkets don't want to miss out on

TrillianAstra · 09/04/2010 09:20

You reacted wrongly.

If you want them to believe you are old enough to buy booze you must act plased that you might be mistaken for a 17-yr-old.

cassell · 09/04/2010 09:31

OP at least your experience was more flattering than mine yesterday. I'm also 28 and doing household shop with ds 1yo - the checkout assistant as she was about to put through some wine started saying she would need id then looked at me again and said oh no definitely not! Ok haven't had much sleep recently with ds teething but didn't think I looked so obviously old!

purits · 09/04/2010 09:39

I totally agree with Prof Yaffle.

The law on alcohol is 18 y.o.
The challenge 25 thing is made up by the supermarkets.
Cashiers are so stupid/scared that they are challenging anybody the wrong side of 30 y.o. ie 12 years over the limit. People have the right to get annoyed at such imbicilic behaviour, esp when the supermarkets then try to make out that it's us who are being unreasonable.
It is a plot by Labour to get us used to carrying proof of identity so that they can introduce ID cards.
It's all nanny state gorn mad.

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mumdrivenmad · 09/04/2010 09:55

It's not just an £80 fine you can get now, but also a criminal record to boot if you serve somebody who is underage, and the store you work for gets a fine and a three strikes rule on their licence to sell as well. Please think about that next time you are asked for ID.

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FickleFairy · 09/04/2010 10:00

I'm 34 and got ID'd recently and was totally made up! I told the cashier she had made my day and she then started pointing me out to all the people in the queue and saying "You'd never believe she was 34 would you?"

I must add, that I genuinely do look my approx age.

I was chuffed to bits. Take it as a compliment and like a few others have said, it's sooooo easy now to get people's ages wrong and this lady was just doing her job.

purits · 09/04/2010 10:03

"this lady was just doing her job."

Oooh, can I invoke Godwins Law.

Ellokitty · 09/04/2010 10:03

Tee - I was actually advised by the police when my purse was stolen last year not to carry ID on me. It makes identity fraud so much easier, and increases the likelihood of your credit cards being used more, apparrently. Thankfully, I didn't keep my driver's license on me anyway - in the half hour between my purse being stolen and me getting to a police station to stop my cards - they were still used for getting petrol.

I'd never carry a driver's license on me now - having gone through the whole fraud thing, its not worth the hassle. You don't need one for identification - If I get hit by a bus, surely they can just look in my mobile phone and phone 'home' or 'mum and dad'? Or look in my diary at get my address? My name is on my credit cards - what do I need to keep a driver's license on me for?

nowherewoman · 09/04/2010 10:04

I got ID'd at the age of 33, do I win
To be honest I was a bit annoyed, although I remained polite, and I felt a bit daft really, probably a flash back to being refused alchohol when I was actually under age. Also, I had to go home to get photo ID, and it took me ages to find my passport. By the time I got back the woman who had refused had gone, and I didn't get asked for it.

Coldhands · 09/04/2010 10:05

Are you kidding me! You got mistaken for being much younger and you are pissed off about it and was very rude to someone who was doing their job.

I got asked for ID the day before my 28th last year and I was so happy. Then I went out the month after and got asked for ID going into a pub, bouncer couldn't believe it when I gave him my ID showing my age, he actually twice.

My friends get really jealous.

tummytime · 09/04/2010 10:13

My mum was id'd in Sainsbury's a couple of weeks ago. She is 64. She looks 64.

ShinyAndNew · 09/04/2010 10:22

I have had this before. Except the when challenged the girl at the till stated that she thought I was only about 17. I had my daughter with me who was four at the time. I was buying newborn nappies, a packet of 0-3mnths vests, various bits of food, cleaning stuff etc. an as an after thought I picked up a pack of lager for DH as it was on offer.

I do not look 17 by any stretch of the imagination. At the time I was 25 and I looked about 25, if not older. I'd just had a baby and I was knackered.

The girl on the till was quite clearly taking the piss.

I had walked to the supermarket as I don't drive but I was that annoyed I ended up walking out with nothing.

When I was in the shop a few weeks later with Dh I noticed that she did the same to aother woman who was quite clearly not underage.

I think some staff get a bit of a power trip from being able to refuse service.

Remotew · 09/04/2010 10:23

I started a thread some time ago after I was furious that a cashier in Morrisons tried to refuse to sell an age related DVD to my daughter even though she produced proof of her dob and I was with her, I was accused of lying. Everyone told me to get over it.

It wasn't this one incident that annoyed me it was the realisation that carrying ID is likely to be compulsory for our DC's once they get into their teens/20's or they will never be able to exercise their right to buy anything age related without it.

Subsequent threads about people being chuffed to be ID's at 28 annoy me too.

purits · 09/04/2010 10:29

"Subsequent threads about people being chuffed to be ID's at 28 annoy me too."

Totally agree. Their civil rights are being eroded and do they care? No, they just get fluffy-headed about it.

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mountainmonkey · 09/04/2010 10:30

I'm also 28 and get ID'd from time to time (never when with dp cos he's got a fair bit of grey hair!) I'm always really chuffed if I happen to have ID with me and rather pissed off at the absence of common sense if I don't.

I used to work in a shop selling alcohol and know how difficult it can be to judge someone's age and also how much pressure they're under- its really stressful and dealing with stroppy customers just makes it worse.

I think its really unfair that responsibility for underage drinkers is placed on shop assistants. Surely the kids parents (or even the kids themselves) should be held responsible- if they buy alcohol underage they know its against the law.

Hulababy · 09/04/2010 10:31

I am 37y and have still been asked for id I just laugh, and sometimes - depending on my mood - thank them

I don't get offended though or upset about it. Theya re doing their job and if they get it wrong then they will get into trouble.

I pretty much always have ID on my anyway as I carry my driving license round in my wallet as a matter of course.

Have been asked when buying alcohol, knives and glue too.

One day they will stop asking altogether - maybe then is the time for me to get upset!

Poshpaws · 09/04/2010 10:50

I was ID'd at the grand old age of 37 and was heavily pregnant.

She asked me how old I was, I laughed and said '37 and this bottle of red is not even for me!' .

Others in the queue laughed, she looked a little embarrassed, but I understand she was doing her job.

Can't see the problem myself, although, like Hulababy, I carry my ID with me anyway, but that is because from the age of 18, I was asked continuously about my age in pubs, clubs, etc. However, since turning 40, it seems to have stopped .

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