to not want DP to go in a lapdancing club on his mates stag do?

[mummee09v]

my dp is off on a stag night in a couple of months. its just a load of mates going out in town but there has been talk about them going in lapdancing bars.

i have laughed it off to my dp and tried to be the cool girlfriend about it and made out i couldnt care less as i dont want to seem controlling or jealous. i have even said i dont care if he has a private dance! because i want to come across as cool, as i know his ex used to stop him doing things and i dont want to be like that as he really resented her for it.

but i HATE the idea of it and know i will be furious if he does end up in one. the thought of him ogling some naked girl/s who will probably be a)younger then me b)prettier than me and c)have a better body than me (i have had 2 kids, say no more) kills me....i know that it would only be a laugh for them and nothing would happen other than them looking at the girls but i would be so jealous, coz how could he not compare their young fit bodies to my 30 year old, had-2-kids body?

so i am kind of testing him in a way by saying i dont care, and "allowing" him to go in one, but surely if he loved and fancied me as much as he says he does he wouldnt need to go look at sexy young girls?

also the stag's bride is my best friend (in fact i will be on her hen do the same night) and i know for a fact she would go nuts if she found out her husband to be had been in one as we have already spoken about it and she has the same insecurities as me.

I think sherlock's posts are gone because she was found out to be fibbing.

She can't be a "lapdancing single mum" if she's got a husband now, can she?

Has she said somewhere that she was married then? Wow I have missed all the action!

She mentions her husband on other threads. I remembered one of her old posts and double checked to make sure.

LG;

Have you ever read oranges are not the only fruit..?

LG...be soothed in the knowledge that on this forum DP is, in the main, alone in her backward views..... she is like the MN version of a car crash.

Blimey. Well i fell for it

DP....you really are not qualified to speak of the relationship habits of lesbian couples even if you have read a whole book.

It's not just about lesbian relationships PP....more about growing up in a very religious house and expectations....

..but you're right....what do I know...

@LeQueen

Some sense there. He'll want to go to the club because it's his friends stag do. The actual experience may or may not appeal to him, although the OP is far better equipped to know that than any of us.

In general these places aren't brothels in disguise (trust me, I've been in both ), and you aren't going to get some eastern european beauty rubbing herself against you until you make a sticky mess. It's normally one song.

Sherlock's been deleted because he was a man from an IT geeks board. It seems more than likely that some of the other "characters" on this thread are too. Except for daftpunk- we get to keep her.

BOF, have you been in touch with Homebirthmummy? Or seen her thread recently?
Think she could do with a friend close by

Sheepinwolfs "(trust me, I've been in both )"

Intrigued, what's a brothel like? Are you a ver norty (sic) lady or police person??

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@Leningrad

When I was younger, due to the way I was bought up, I was of the belief that women didn't actually want or enjoy sex, and that it was something they did to get "a relationship" out of men. I found it difficult to be with "real" women and consummate the relationship unless they were very very very forwards.

It's not something I'm particularly proud of.

I don't know any lesbian relationships where one is the "man"

LeQueen, my mother was with my father over thirty years and still had no idea what he was capable of. There are also all of the women whose husbands run off with another woman after 25 years of marriage. You can know that your husband wouldn't go to one as you know where your DH is, you cannot know what he does/doesn't do in twww.mumsnet.com/images/buttons/post_message.gifhese places.

"Sherlock's been deleted because he was a man from an IT geeks board."

he wasn't MrQueen was he?