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to refuse to shag dp?

44 replies

jendaisy · 19/03/2010 22:00

I am 21 weeks pregnant. My back hurts. I am knackered. I run a business and have been rushed off my feet all day, then have had to look after 5 year old dd and her friend who are having a sleepover, waiting on them hand and foor (kitchen is in basement, they are 4 floors up so no easy task). I also walked the dogs in the pissing rain, took the cats to the vets so they could have their nuts cut off. And now DP (who has done very little today) is hassling me for sex. I would rather eat wasps. I have told him to jog on.

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BrahmsThirdRacket · 19/03/2010 22:02

YANBU he should understand that you might feel more like having sex if you felt appreciated (and helped) by him.

BattyKoda · 19/03/2010 22:05

YANBU - Pass him the laptop and some tissues and go to bed

rasputin · 19/03/2010 22:06

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ThatVikRinA22 · 19/03/2010 22:07

yanbu. you sound positively restrained! if it were me he would be wearing his balls as earings.

(i am hormonal i think, pmt time!)

Portofino · 19/03/2010 22:07

Jog on

thisisnotwhoyouthink · 19/03/2010 22:07

yanbu. pmsl @ batty!!

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jendaisy · 19/03/2010 22:07

lol - if only that worked. he doesn't like wanking or porn (I know that is hard to believe but it's true). I do feel a bit sorry for him as I find a reason to not shag him most days but since I have been pg I just haven't felt like it. And he does do ALL the housework, so even though I earn the money he has his uses.

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starkadder · 19/03/2010 22:08

YANBU. Also, I particularly liked the use of the "jog on" phrase; it made me laugh

youremindmeofthebabe · 19/03/2010 22:08

YANBU. As battykoda said!

starkadder · 19/03/2010 22:09

Your last post sounded a bit mean though...but I expect just being flippant...

womblingfree · 19/03/2010 22:09

I'd be telling him to jog off...the end of the pier!

youremindmeofthebabe · 19/03/2010 22:10

he doesn't like wanking?

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jendaisy · 19/03/2010 22:10

Great - keep the YANBUs coming - then I can go to bed and leave this thread open on the laptop mwah ha ha ha ha.

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MouthAndTrousers · 19/03/2010 22:11

@ 'jog on'

YANBU I'm 21 weeks pg and ach after a busy day too.

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jendaisy · 19/03/2010 22:12

starkadder - I love him really. And can't knock a bloke who is as domesticated as him! He does have talents in other areas too.

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jendaisy · 19/03/2010 22:13

No he really doesn't like wanking. He had a very strange upbringing, which may have something to do with that.

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geordieminx · 19/03/2010 22:13

IMO - you should have taken him to the vets instead of the cats...

Failing that a couple of bricks...?

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jendaisy · 19/03/2010 22:17

lol geordie - he's booked in for Monday

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Maleeka · 19/03/2010 22:20

LOL geordieminx

spiderpig8 · 19/03/2010 22:21

'took the cats to the vets so they could have their nuts cut off'
This bit had me ROFL, hilarious turn of phrase !!

TottWriter · 19/03/2010 22:29

YANBU. I really have to be in the right mood ATM (23wks) or it just hurts (my back, my hips, my boobs...) and is a real turn off.

I take it he's not getting wigged by the thought of the baby in there yet then? I was always partially relieved when we got to that stage last time. If I was in the mood we could easily work round it, if not, the baby was fidgeting too much.

Honestly though, it's not your fault that the pregnancy is making you completely not in the mood. I think your DP needs to work through his wanking issues. Mine certainly doesn't feel guilty about 'taking care of himself' if it's been a few days and I'm still the opposite of horny.

Kitkatqueen · 19/03/2010 22:31

Please ask your dp to take a look at this link it may solve the problem for you

img.thesun.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00373/terry_wogan_280_373518a.jpg

TrillianAstra · 19/03/2010 22:38

Kitkat - do it like this (without the spaces after and before the and ) img.thesun.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00373/terry_wogan_280_373518a.jpg this helpful link

this helpful link

Doodleydoo · 19/03/2010 22:48

Yours is lucky you might even consider it - my dh knows not to bother to ask (19 weeks)as he doesn't like to be disappointed!

Kitkatqueen · 20/03/2010 01:03

Trillian, I absolutley must be losing the plot tonight! I even started a thread for newbies learning how to do links ages ago! Crikey, idiot of the week prize goes to me!!!! I'm citing lack of sleep as my excuse!