to refuse to shag dp?

[jendaisy]

I am 21 weeks pregnant. My back hurts. I am knackered. I run a business and have been rushed off my feet all day, then have had to look after 5 year old dd and her friend who are having a sleepover, waiting on them hand and foor (kitchen is in basement, they are 4 floors up so no easy task). I also walked the dogs in the pissing rain, took the cats to the vets so they could have their nuts cut off. And now DP (who has done very little today) is hassling me for sex. I would rather eat wasps. I have told him to jog on.

YABU
Get rid of the pets !

Jasper, methinks you may be biased............

YANBU

i went completely off sex for a few months whilst pg with ds2. OH took it so personally and was a nightmare to live with. i ended up asking advice here and being directed to a link that explained it all to him. if i could remeber it now i would link but i cant. sorry.

but also i think you are doing too much. you should be delegating these tasks to others in the house. couldnt your husband walk the dogs and take the cats to the vet? or look after your dd and friend while you do it?

YANBU but remember this is how affairs start.

I think I have found the real reason that DH is accompanying me and the dog to the vet appointment tomorrow...

Nearly 21 wks pg here too-if you're due in Aug come join us on the ante natal thread.

At least he wants to have sex with you- mine didnt when I was pg (and doesnt much when im not pg tbh!)

Have to say am with Reality there! Ridiculous and daft thing to say.

Does that mean then when my fella doesn't shag me enough for my liking I can wander off and find someone who does?

As much as sometimes id like to I dont think it works that way generally!

@ java. Get some self respect girl. If you expect men to behave like animals they will.

I strongly suspect java was saying this with tongue in cheek, with just a tiny GRAIN of truth implied

I just can't feel your pain... I would love to have sex with my DH, but am not allowed as my waters broke far too early (14+5) and so the risk of infection in extremely high. I am now 18+1, so a while to go (hopefully, obviously want to get to 24 weeks at least before going into labour!!!)

DH has not complained once about the lack. Maybe as I am on bedrest, so he is in charge of the kids, cooking, cleaning, walking our 4 dogs, looking after 2 cats, around 50 snakes and hundreds of rodents, driving me to hospital and back 4 times a week and trying to fit his job in beteen all that...

YANBU at all!
Midori I hope things turn out well for you and your DH sounds fantastic (and incredibly organized!)

Don't be mean to Java. If my dh went off sex for weeks (actually, even days) on end, I'd be hacked off and want matters put right, pdq. And if he told me to put on some porn and frig myself to sleep, I'd think that pretty fucking dismissive and rude. Can completely understand you're tired, but it's surely nice your husband wants sex with you? better than the opposite, eh? Or have you now decided that, actually, chocolate is better? You know you'll only end up fat and lonely if that's the case, don't you?

Haha haven't logged in for a few days and suprised to find my thread still on the first page!

No he doesn't seem wigged out by the fact there is a baby in there, BUT we did have an unfortunate incident the time before last when we had sex and as I climaxed he said 'eurgh, sticky stuff just came out of your boob!' (he happened to have his hand on my boob at the time). And right enough, it had (this did happen after the birth of dd1 but not during pg so unexpected for me too!). So that was enough to put him off for a few days until he'd forgotten the horror of the experience.

I do not what it's like to have a partner who doesn't want to shag you when you are pg, as this is exactly what happened with dd1 (she has different dad). As soon as I started to show he didn't want to know, which really hacked me off and all I could think about was sex. Now I have the opposite problem and it's just as annoying, maybe it's a case of wanting what you can't have! In my defence I do have a UTI at the moment which I am taking antibiotics for and that makes things uncomfortable, and DP is hung like a donkey which doesn't help (well not at the moment anyway!).

ZOMBIE THREAD.

Kathsmum

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