AIBU to want her to have served the cake?!

[Kariba29]

Please be nice this is my first post!

So recently met another new mum through another site (that was before i joined this one!) Have met a few times in town but was asked to come to her house for coffee yesterday.

On my way i passed by Marks and Spencer and got a small cake that i thought would be nice to have with coffee.

Got to her place and mentioned i had brought cake, she said thanks but you shouldn't have, anyway come coffee time we are sat in the kitchen facing the cake i bought but she didnt offer the cake and i didnt want to say please cut the cake as i dont know her very well,

Am I BU to be dissappointed the cake was not offered, probably wouldnt have felt this way if i wasnt on a diet and fancied a treat!

did she offer anything else?

How odd.

Not unreasonable at all! I would have wanted some cake too!

Just to add - I am very single minded about cake and probably would have said 'shall we have some cake then'. But maybe I am just cheeky!

yes NICE biscuits

Strange. Perhaps she forgot though. I do things like that when I'm sleep-deprived.

Maybe she thought it was a present for her to scoff later!

I think I would have said right, let's have some cake - where's the knife?

You mean nice biscuits or those horrible cheap Nice biscuits? If it was the latter I would have been gutted!

If she turns up at yours - give her Rich Tea. They are even worse IMO.

well if she had nice biscuits then shes forgiven
or do you mean these tasteless things?

YANBU.

I do love Nice biscuits and Rich Teas though but she should have served the cake.

So you both sat their staring hungrily at the cake and nibbling Nice biscuits?

Sounds like hell!

I think she just forgot, she is probably not with it. It's the sort of thing I'd forget TBH.

You should have bolstered your courage and suggested having some cake!

Nice biscuits don't work with coffee anyway, with tea yes but you need something stronger,ideally a chocolate biscuit, to complement the coffee.

I mean NICE as the ones written NICE on!

urgh
they're not horrible (I save that for digestives and custard creams) but they're not cake

I liked Nice biscuits when I was little.

YANBU.
How weird of her. I too would have said something.
Did you buy another cake on the way home and eat it all yourself to make up for your disappoint?
Of not, then you should have

maybe she didnt like it butdidnt want to offend you

Of course YANBU.
If I asked someone round for coffee & they bought a cake I would assume it was for consumption with the coffee, not a gift.

On what planet does an M&S cake= thanks for coffee?

The only possible way I could find this gesture "upsetting" would be if I´d taken a lot of effort to bake.

In which case I would still have used the M&S cake & saved the bakes for family.

its the opposite of taking wine to dinner parties

That is really weird. I would have said something though.

Now I want some cake! Of course she should have given you cake. And offered Nice biscuits too.

I am guessing she either didn't like the cake, or couldn't eat it for a reason, or didn't want to eat it because she was on a diet, or something like that.

TBH, this thread just enhances my insecurities over this sort of thing. I have dreadful insecurities that people won't like the food I have made them, so much so that I don't offer any anymore.

If I had been you, I would have stopped off at M&S on the way home and bought another cake and then scoffed it all myself!

She may have sleep deprived but that is categorically no excuse for cake deprivation- that's just immoral.

YANBU.