AIBU to want her to have served the cake?!

[Kariba29]

Please be nice this is my first post!

So recently met another new mum through another site (that was before i joined this one!) Have met a few times in town but was asked to come to her house for coffee yesterday.

On my way i passed by Marks and Spencer and got a small cake that i thought would be nice to have with coffee.

Got to her place and mentioned i had brought cake, she said thanks but you shouldn't have, anyway come coffee time we are sat in the kitchen facing the cake i bought but she didnt offer the cake and i didnt want to say please cut the cake as i dont know her very well,

Am I BU to be dissappointed the cake was not offered, probably wouldnt have felt this way if i wasnt on a diet and fancied a treat!

Coffee & Walnut-the Marmite of cakes

ps: when you come to my house for a drink, I will only accept Victoria Sandwich or Chocolate Cake.

Maybe she doesn't like to share?

i've had to eat carrot cake three times, DG:
my OH's sister brought some with her once and i was too polite to tell her i thought the very idea was gross. so i pretended to like it and now she's brought it a couple more times and i've had to eat it.

I am looking at an M&S vic sandwich at the moment. Problem is that DD has already had two M&S raspberry viennese biccies so I'm trying to work out a strategy where I can scoff the lot without her noticing... What time is Waybuloo on?

The cream cheese frosting is the best part.

YANBU. This is a bit rude IMHO. Even if she didn't want any, she should have offered some to you.

You sound lovely - I'll help you eat the next cake you buy!

I meet with 2 friends and their children once a week and we all bring/provide some different biscuits - there's very rarely any left but I always make sure that they all get opened if it's at my house that particular week.

Cream cheese on cakes - boak boak boak!

This reminds me of when we moved into our first marital home and the charming old lady next door to us came round to tell me she had baked a cake for me. So sweet of her! I envisaged a lovely Victoria sponge with reaspberry jam filling or suchlike. But no, it was a carrot cake made with yoghurt and had to be kept in the fridge or eaten very quickly before it went off. I am sure it had a cream cheese filling too.

I have a sweet tooth and make cake every week for tea and pride myself on eating virtually anything, but I think this one cake became familiar with the inside of my bin or compost heap.

Nothing wrong with that littledawley

I agree, it was a bit odd but there are a few odd women out there that don't like cake or other sugary goodies

So maybe because she wasnt thinking "MMMmm cake" (in a Homer Simpson type of way) she forgot to serve it?

My (very skinny) Aunt eats very little & you could spend the whole day around hers before she will even offer you a drop of water! But the minute you ask her for a drink you get "Oh sorry, you must be hungry too, let me do lunch, Is that the time already??" I think because she doesnt stuff her face continually eat very much she forgets the rest of us greedy buggers do!

Bleugh to cream cheese frosting stuff.

Cream cheese goes in sandwiches with cucumber.

Walnuts go on walnut whips where they can easily be pulled off and binned. Coffee goes in cups. So ner

Well you could say chocolate should stay in bars and thus shouldn't be in biscuits, cake, cereals etc or wrapped inside pastry and served as pain au chocolat, but you would be put away in a mental institution if you did.

Coffee cake is ds3's (aged 7) favourite flavour cake and his choice for his birthday cake.

Sorry, there should be a after my comment about locking you away. My post looks a bit stern without it.

This would never have happened to me.

I would have opened the cake and said where do you keep your knives.

If I felt unable to say where are your knives to another woman my age I wouldn't want to be friends with her or go to her house.

How scary does somebody have to be to make you too worried to say shall we have this lovely cake then?

No no, Dumbledoresgirl. Stern is good. Someone has to tell the c & w haters the Right Way of things.

Oh dear, Victoria sponge.
That has jam in.
Jam is the work of the devil. Surely everyone knows that?

Hmm, suddenly cake bringing is throwing up all kinds of questions.

Just bring me some chocolate brownies and you'll be right

MorrisZapp, the cake isn't lovely if it is flavoured with coffee or contains walnuts, and surely that is the point?

How to serve a vile cake in company.
Do you serve it, and then have to eat some, wasting calories and hip inches on vileness, or pretend it doesn't exist, throw some Nice biscuits on a plate and say nothing.

Oh the responses to this have made me laugh!

A personal favourite of mine is coffee and walnut cake and now I really, really want one all to myself

Kariba, I cannot believe how restrained you were! I would have had the cake out of the bag and been ferreting in her cutlery drawer for a knife/spoon/fork/any implement actually before I had even taken my coat off!

No, coffee cake is lush.

Isn't it about M&S v. home baked?

It's v embarrassing to refuse somebody's home baked cake.

But if it was just grabbed from M&S you can easily brush it aside by saying oh, I've actually just eaten etc.

Nobody could take offence at having their M&S cake rejected surely? I wouldn't, on a 'all the more for me' principle.

But if you reject my home made coconut slice I will cry.

I would have taken offence Morris, because I could have kept it hidden in my bag and eaten it on the bus instead!

Coconut slice?

Eww, that stuff sticks in my teeth. Coconut is Not Nice.

Just bring a box of eclairs and be done with it.
No jam, no nuts, no coconut and you can't go wrong, oh and I love cream, just bring a plate of cream if you like, or a carton even, I don't mind drinking it.

Is it weird to sometimes drink double cream from the pot?
I suspect if I met any of you, you'd think, 'ahh yes right, that makes sense', as you see the size of my arse.

But no horrid coffee/nuts/stick in teeth things or jam.

Kill her

It is rather odd that neither of you offered. However, it could simply be that you are both trying to make a good impression. Therefore, it's quite likely that she didn't offer it because it wasn't hers to offer???

Don't be put off. Next time just be bold and say something like "a piece of that cake would be great with this coffee, now where's your knife?".

We all try to do what we think should be the right thing when we become friends. Maybe you both thought you'd be being rude if you were the one to ask, but actually, neither of you would have been rude at all!

Give it another chance. Maybe see what happens when you invite her over to you...maybe she will copy your example and bring something to you, then wait a bit to see if she's the one to offer and if you've drunk half your cuppa and she still hasn't said anything, go for it yourself! On the other hand, if she comes empty handed, maybe have something in the cupboard anyway so if she hasn't caught on, you can still produce something.

Just see what happens. For meeting no. 3, if you still don't know what the score is, you could always make the suggestion before you next meet and see what her response is - it might be that she can' eat cake (gutted!!!!).

Good Luck!

I went out with my new netmums mummy friend for lunch today and we had Rocky Road ice cream sundaes for pud with a cup of tea. They were fecking ace.

I would have asked to open the cake, but I'm bolshy when it comes to matters of the stomach.