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AIBU to want her to have served the cake?!

145 replies

Kariba29 · 12/03/2010 11:37

Please be nice this is my first post!

So recently met another new mum through another site (that was before i joined this one!) Have met a few times in town but was asked to come to her house for coffee yesterday.

On my way i passed by Marks and Spencer and got a small cake that i thought would be nice to have with coffee.

Got to her place and mentioned i had brought cake, she said thanks but you shouldn't have, anyway come coffee time we are sat in the kitchen facing the cake i bought but she didnt offer the cake and i didnt want to say please cut the cake as i dont know her very well,

Am I BU to be dissappointed the cake was not offered, probably wouldnt have felt this way if i wasnt on a diet and fancied a treat!

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Original poster
Kariba29 · 12/03/2010 12:23

the thing is she didnt open the bag to see what sort of cake it was so she cant have known wether she liked it or not! and yes i did buy some more cake on the way home which i scoffed later!!

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CelticUnited · 12/03/2010 12:25

Maybe she is a traditionalist, so coffee and biscuits in the morning, tea and cake in the afternoon, and wouldn't have realised the cake was for the morning?

Fluffyone · 12/03/2010 12:27

Na! She scoffed the whole thing down herself as soon as she shut the front door on your retreating back. Very rude. I'd have said, "OK, let's cut the cake now" because otherwise I wouldn't have been able to concentrate for it calling me.

2rebecca · 12/03/2010 12:30

Have never heard of the traditionalist approach to biscuits and cake. I would have been miffed too, but would probably have said "are we going to have some cake then?" to her, unless she'd got her own cake and then the 1 I bought may keep longer if kept in it's wrapper.

FourArms · 12/03/2010 12:30

YANBU to expect to have eaten the cake. I love to take a small cake to a friends house... we usually start with a quarter each, but on several occasions haven eaten the other half between us with a second cup of coffee.

muggglewump · 12/03/2010 12:32

May be she doesn't like any sort of cake the freak

stleger · 12/03/2010 12:33

Isn't it coffee and cake, tea and biscuits? Or a jaffa cake with either.

gagamama · 12/03/2010 12:36

Very strange! You should have tipped all the Nice biscuits into my handbag and said 'thanks, but you shouldn't have'! Then just sit there and sip your coffee in silence and see who is the first to break and offer their snaffled snack.

Nice biscuits are nasty though, so I'd still be annoyed that I'd traded M&S cake for bad biscuits. YANBU.

dolphin13 · 12/03/2010 12:36

Yes I think she just hates cake.
Have you returned the invite give her fig rolls, yuch.
or bake a huge gooey cake yourself put a huge slice in front of her and watch her squirm.

gagamama · 12/03/2010 12:36

Into YOUR handbag, even. But you could equally tip them into mine. Even though I don't like them...

muggglewump · 12/03/2010 12:38

Maybe she doesn't like you and she thought torturing you with cake would make sure you never call her again?

caen · 12/03/2010 12:38

pmsl gaga at the image of someone walking out with a handbag full of biscuits.

AIBU to think that my guest shouldn't have stolen my biscuits?

CelticUnited · 12/03/2010 12:41

Maybe she is allergic to one of the ingredients?

zazen · 12/03/2010 12:44

Did you not bring the cake with you when you left?
After all if she had no need for it, you'd be doing her a favour really, taking it off her hands / hips?
Maybe she's dieting?
Maybe she's allergic to a lot of things?

maybe she's a weirdo you met on t'internet?

Can't believe you popped round to hers aren't you supposed to meet strangers in a public space far away from your home????
Now you know where she lives, and have a cake grudge!!

Morloth · 12/03/2010 12:47

I hate you people. Some of us are really pregnant you know and trying not to end up the size of a house and now all I can think of is CAKE.

Wanders off to find someone to have cake with...

5Foot5 · 12/03/2010 13:00

YANBU that is very odd behaviour IMO. Surely if someone brings cake to a coffee date it is obvious they expect you to cut it?

And Nice biscuits! OMG. That is not exactly making the effort. I mean they are OK when everything else has run out but not exactly a treat. Actually I think I prefer even Rich tea to Nice. The only biscuit I would place even lower is ginger nut.

oldenglishspangles · 12/03/2010 13:01

YANBU - gaga. I would be seriously hacked off. It happened to me once. I now make a point of saying 'I have brought us some cake etc to have with our coffee'. So my host is under no illusion that I will not be leaving without sampling the goodies.

oldenglishspangles · 12/03/2010 13:03

L like Nice biscuits, but I wouldnt take them for coffee.

GypsyMoth · 12/03/2010 13:04

which m and s cake was it?

Original poster
Kariba29 · 12/03/2010 13:07

LOL! ThreeBlonde Boys it was Coffee and Walnuts

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fifitot · 12/03/2010 13:08

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

GypsyMoth · 12/03/2010 13:09

yum!!!

muggglewump · 12/03/2010 13:15

Ah, I see the problem. Coffee and walnut cake is Not Nice. It has walnuts in it fgs.
You should have asked my advice before choosing. I'd have directed you towards carrot, or some chocolate brownies.

Now she's thinking you are quite odd for buying something containing walnuts, and wanting her to eat it.

I take back my YANBU, and replace it with YABVU

oldenglishspangles · 12/03/2010 13:15

Oh the waste

paulaplumpbottom · 12/03/2010 13:17

I had a similar situation at my house one day. A friend bought a cake but I had just made scones for her. I didn't know which to serve. I went for the scones in the end but now i'm worried she might have been miffed we didn't eat the cake.