To feel so sad for this mum and baby but still think she could have been more careful?

[Vivia]

Was in Costa just now. I was in the queue getting a takeaway while two mums were sitting with their newborns on the comfy sofa nearby. Very gorgeous scrunchy babies. I noticed that one mum had the baby lying vertically on her lap, so baby's feet at mother's chest and baby's head near the table. I thought it looked precarious.

And it was. As I walked out, I glanced back I noticed the mum reach over her baby's head and pick up the piping hot mug of coffee. She dropped the large mug of black coffee on the child's face and body. In that split second, I almost didn't register what happened. I ran back in. The security guard from nearby was jumped over chairs and tables to get to the baby, the mother was screaming 'help me!' The security had whipped the newborn to a sink of water and staff were calling the ambulance. The baby screamed at first then went horribly silent. Poor child had been hit in the face by a large, falling china mug and thoroughly scalded by coffee.

I feel so sad but wish the mum had realized that reaching over a newborn to pick up coffee is a terrible idea? I don't mean to judge her but

why would the op make this up?? why?

Why bother posting to say you don't believe the OP if not to antagonise?

Takeaway cups already have warnings on them don't they? Caution: This cup contains hot liquid etc? I always think, "I certainly hope so..."

erm lady why are you getting so het up about this?

If you don't believe the op then fine, you've posted that you don't believe the op, so what more is there to say?

I dont see why one shouldnt discuss this. The op witnessed this, was distraught and posted. Burden shared burden halved, although strictly speaking it was somebody elses experience. It still serves as a reminder that one should be careful with hot objects/drinks and babies. My son still has a mark on his arm from accidentally pushing against an uncovered lightbulb as a baby.

I vividly remember tugging at the pot of hot chocolate my mum was making, it was on the hob, and getting it all down my wool tights when I was little. My legs were so painful, my mum was carefully removing the tights, as they started "sticking" to my skin.

lady...i know! lol...just trying to figure out why someone would post this if it werent true?? i know,people post odd things sometimes....just why?? whats to be gained

Oh I see. So the story is true, the OP just aquired it as her own today, after reading yesterdays thread?

The thing about saying you don't believe a post is that you either you "feed the troll" - if they are doing it for attention, or you upset someone who has posted a genuine OP. Just by saying you don't believe it you aren't going to change anything. If I don't believe a story, I just don't post on that thread.

NHS 0-5 burns advice

Immediately put the burn or scald under running cold water to reduce the heat in the skin. Don't do this for longer than 10 minutes as babies and toddlers can get too cold. If there?s no running water, immerse the burn or scald in cold water or any other cool fluid, such as milk or another cold drink.

give pain relief if possible

Use something clean and non-fluffy, like a cotton pillowcase, linen tea towel or clingfilm, to cover the burn or scald. This will reduce the danger of infection. If your child?s clothes are stuck to the skin, don?t try to take them off.

Don?t put butter, toothpaste, oil or ointment on a burn or scald as it will have to be cleaned off before the burn or scald can be treated. Depending on the severity of the burn or scald, see your GP or go to a minor injuries unit or accident and emergency department.

Blisters will burst naturally. The raw area underneath them needs a protective dressing. Ask your pharmacist or practice nurse for advice.

there seems to be a lot of conflicting advce on this thread about what to do in case of a burn.

Wow some of you are sooooooo cynical. Is scolding only allowed one time and place. I bet everyday there is a scolding emergency sent to the hospital. You lot are harsh!

Thanks for putting it right ellie sound advice everyone should know

I'm afraid I'm inclined to agree with Blabbermouth's post at 15:29:48. Methinks the OP doth protest/insist too much. There is no other reason for that than to shock/horrify people unnecessarily; that, or the OP needs to have this believed to justify her judginess.

RollBaubleUnderTree, scottishmummy, ImSoNotTelling, EcoMouse, Twilightobsessed, LadyintheRadiator, spiderpig8, MeMyselfAndIt and Blabbermouth are all right. AIBU probably was not the best place to post this. Tasteless in the extreme. However, if for any reason the mother involved actually exists and was to ever hear about/read this thread (and I truly hope she doesn't), I hope she will see that she is not alone in doing something where a split second/distraction can make a huge difference and that she gains some comfort from it (unlikely, but one can at least hope).

I don't know asana, a distraught mother reading the title of the OP

"To feel so sad for this mum and baby but still think she could have been more careful?"

• wouldn't probably take comfort from the supportive posts, but just see the ones criticising. It just gives makes me so uncomfortable to think that is a possibility.

I know what others are saying and normally agree, but in this case it's so identifying and in a way not the OPs story to tell.

Like I say I have never thought a thread should be pulled before and can see I'm alone on this one. It's just my POV and I feel I need to put it across.

I think the thread should be pulled. I have expressed my concerns to MNHQ.
I have not called Viva a troll and I don't think that is what is going on here. It is just too graphic and horrific a post, especially in "AIBU".

Sincere thoughts and support to the mum and baby. I cannot imagine the devastation.

I'm with you ImSoNotTelling. This is both a distressing story and an inappropriate thread for AIBU.

horrid thread