To feel so sad for this mum and baby but still think she could have been more careful?

[Vivia]

Was in Costa just now. I was in the queue getting a takeaway while two mums were sitting with their newborns on the comfy sofa nearby. Very gorgeous scrunchy babies. I noticed that one mum had the baby lying vertically on her lap, so baby's feet at mother's chest and baby's head near the table. I thought it looked precarious.

And it was. As I walked out, I glanced back I noticed the mum reach over her baby's head and pick up the piping hot mug of coffee. She dropped the large mug of black coffee on the child's face and body. In that split second, I almost didn't register what happened. I ran back in. The security guard from nearby was jumped over chairs and tables to get to the baby, the mother was screaming 'help me!' The security had whipped the newborn to a sink of water and staff were calling the ambulance. The baby screamed at first then went horribly silent. Poor child had been hit in the face by a large, falling china mug and thoroughly scalded by coffee.

I feel so sad but wish the mum had realized that reaching over a newborn to pick up coffee is a terrible idea? I don't mean to judge her but

i h0pe its not

I don't know, some posters have suggested it might be, and now I have doubt in my mind.

viva where was this. I guess it will be in the local press in a couple of days?

Maybe the thread should just be deleted. It is really disturbing true or false.

Gaaah
a couple of sticky beakers shout troll - people start believing them for no reason, the OP gets a hammering and nobody is happy.

There is no actual reason to believe this is not genuine, only the suspicions of a couple of people.

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Just goes to show that babes and coffee shops dont mix.

of course babies can go to coffee shops i spent my mat leave in local cafe and coffee shops

really dreadful accident,heartfelt sympathy to mum and baby

The headline of the OP includes a "...but..." that makes clear it's a covert judgement, albeit denied.
Very distasteful given the circumstances.
I agree that mother and baby deserve privacy and consideration.

No doubt upsetting for the OP but essentially, this is someone else's (potentially fatal) trauma.

The coffee shops around here are for the mummy crowd. Buggy parks, change tables, babycinnos, kiddy books in a bin for them to grab etc.

Like scottishmummy a vast amount of my maternity leave was spent in coffee shops chatting with friends.

Aren't most kids injured/killed at home? Does that mean that family homes and babies don't mix?

I thought that a place where people carry boiling hot drinks around all day is not exactly a baby friendly place, no?

the op is judgy and distasteful.apportioning blame isnt most empathic thing at the moment

adds scorn to a horrd accident

Like a lounge room/kitchen at home you mean?

Or a restaurant?

But at home you're in charge of what happens. You don't have several strangers milling around with their hot drinks, surely. Like all day long, without pause.

I really can't see how being in a coffee shop has made any difference to this accident. If anything it is better that it happened when there are other people around to help the Mum.

I dont get the blaming the op for the thread. Seems quite reasonable to me to witness something and come on here to talk about it if it upset you. And I dont read it as judgy. Quite the opposite actually - genuine concern for the poor lady involved.

"I don't mean to judge her, but.."

YABU to have started this thread. Have you never made a mistake? A momentary oversight where your dc's health / safety was concerned and then regretted it immediately? No? Not even in the privacy of your own home with nobody to observe and "not mean to judge you, but.." and then go and post it on the biggest national parents' online forum for us all to analyse and discuss and "not mean to judge, but.."

I'm just talking generally, not about this case. I also get really annoyed when I have to watch out for other peoples kids who are running around the tables, making me fear that I'll spill hot coffee on them. I nearly spilled coffee on a little girl last year and that's when I thought how unsuitable Costa etc is for little ones.

Nope. Read last 2 pages and still does not compute.

Sooo, we can't talk about anything external and upsetting that happens anymore? What are we? Babycentre?

We'd best get all the Jon Venables/lying breastfeeding woman/fatal accident/school bully stories deleted then hadn't we? And talk about pushchairs?

So maybe you shouldn't go to the coffee shop? As I said upthread, the ones around here are for the Mummy crowd. They are marketed that way, the products for sale are targeted as such etc.

Do you also think that soft play places shouldn't sell tea/coffee/hot food?

Life is dangerous a coffee shop isn't really that scary in the grand scale of things.

Babies have to live in houses and travel by car and go with mum to supermarkets. Babies dont have to spend time in coffee shops.

We could talk about pushchairs. I need one you can collapse one handed and which doesn't weigh too much so that it is easy to throw in the boot.

I just hope that whatever the story, all ends well for everyone involved.

So you should only do things that you have to do when you have a baby? No space for simple enjoyment?

Bucharest you forgot pavements, schools, nurserys and parks.

I feel so sorry for the poor mother involved. She must be hating herself right now. Poor baby. I hope ity all turns out well.