AIBU to ask why do people object to condoms so much? im seriously asking!

[BritFish]

i keep reading stuff about men refusing to use them because they dont like them blah blah blah.

so go on, why are they so awful?

they smell a bit but surely you dont notice that during?
and for risk of sounding like a family planning clinic, they are the only way to prevent against STD's and the like.

i mean, if you spend more than half a second thinking about it when you're doing it, you're doing it wrong

of course, this doesn't include people who get allergic reactions to them. and they do them in all sorts of exciting shapes sizes and thickness now....

go on, why are condoms so unreasonable?

oh they are annoying. You have to stop what you're doing and put them on, they can break and are not that reliable. They ruin the feeling for the guy

I don't know about men, but I don't like them. They smell, they make your hands smell when you touch them, and I hate the feel of them. But I have been with DH for years and years, so the whole STD thing isn't an issue now. When I was a lively teenage girl, I always used them. And boys didn't mind.

they ruin feeling? see, i know every penis is different but i've never been with anyone [ahh the younger years] who complained.
its just we used one recently and DH was also saying he didnt understand what the fuss was about...
god, i just thought they were a little colder at first but thats it! im wierd aren't i.

My head knows all the reasons why they can be a good thing and my objections wouldn't stop me using them to be safe ..... but ..... they do smell horrid, they look stupid and unattractive, they are horrid to touch once on so unless you keep taking them on and off (using a new one each time of course) it kinda kills the option of intercourse interspersed with play, they taste awful and feel awful in your mouth (gag) and if you do take it off for oral they leave a horrid taste behind and .... sorry if TMI ...... but I hate personally hate the feeling after the event when he takes himself out and I swear you can actually feel the droopy rubber as it leaves you.

last time I tried a condom it popped and the result (after the map also failed) was DD1.

and they smell funny and make your fingers feel icky.

that said. will be stocking up and providing the DDs with supplies in the years to come.

I hate them! They smell, I don't like how they feel, I can't feel DH well with them, ugggh.

So glad he had the snip and we are using them until he gets the all clear and then never again!

They smell and taste vile, feel awful, only come in one size (if you can't afford to pay for them) and they resulted in me getting pg.

Always give me thrush. Absolutely without fail.

Including the hypoallergenic ones. And the latex free ones are all crinkly and chafe

They interrupt the flow of things. It doesn't feel as nice - would you rather touch rubber or skin? (Don't know about the guys, but I can tell the difference so they must be able to) You often have to use lube, which I despise, apart from oil-based lubes, which of course aren't compatible with condoms. (Incidentally if anybody can recommend a good brand which doesn't go sticky and isn't oil based I would be grateful as am single ATM )

Also I have some issues about sex and in the few seconds it takes to find one, open it and put it on correctly, then apply lube, and warm that up, I can go from horny as hell to not wanting sex in the slightest. I have to literally grab my moments! I am aware this is a personal issue though and does not apply to everyone.

I didn't have sex without a condom until I was trying to conceive. I will definitely advise my kids against using contraception other than condoms because protecting yourself against STDs is so important. I wish they would make free condoms more widely available.

They break. They ruin the moment because precisely when you're, er, caught in the moment, you have to reach into the bottom drawer and lose the magic.

Also, personally, there's something seriously icky about used condoms in the bin. Eugh.

I always used one outside of long-term relationships where we'd both had a full screen, but I hate them.

haven't used one since my teens and have been with DH since then but never mind him, I didn't like them!

made me feel like i was being pulled inside out

obviously i don't plan on having any other sexual partner for a while but if that one from the Mentalist ever came knocking, from an STI pov he'd have to put one on (and bring some lube )

Catsmother yes I know exactly what you mean!

Have never given a man the choice. They don't ruin the feeling as much as an unwanted pregnancy, STD etc.
And they keep the bed lovely and dry

I miss condoms. DH had the snip last year and got the all clear for sperm in August. He is happy but now I have to put up with a sperm gush about an hour afterwards (got knows why I seem to incubate it for so long). I wasn't expecting it the first time and had gone out and was wearing leggings. It wasn't pleasant. You ladies don't know how lucky you are.....

God not got.....

I agree with all of the above but the fact that you don't get leakage after using a condom is a big plus point. No wet patches on sheets or - well anywhere. Shag and Go if you will.

I may instigate a condom revival now that all these new types are available. DH will be so pleased

I always think that men that say that they dont like them are the same saddos that say..... #if you love me you will...'

Just because dh doesn't like them, doesn't mean he refuses to use them. They're unavoidable. Not fot STDs- 11yr relationship- but to prevent conception.

Gosh! I have never used any other type of contraception. Have been using them for 20 years except went trying to conceive.

It certainly was nicer having sex without a condom but I have never really considered taking the pill or having a coil put in.

[Declaration of interest: I'm a man]

I must admit I'm not a huge fan of condoms. They can be a right faff to find, get out of the packet then get the right way round and put on (particularly if it's dark), and that can really break the mood.

Also, once in place, they limit options an awful lot; for example, and although I've never had occasion to try, I can't imagine they taste very nice. Plus I have had a few that have split.

And I have to say that in my experience there is a noticeable difference in sensation.

That all being said, and despite the fact that I had a vasectomy a few years ago, I'd still use condoms until I was in a long-term committed relationship with someone I trusted. They're not ideal but they're a lot, lot better than STIs and unwanted pregnancies.

To the OP. I think YANBU.

i like them. no damp patch, no mess!

bloody fiddly to get on though - i always manage to get them wrong way round at some point.

until DH volunteers for the snip im using them. i was hoping he would volunteer sooner rather than later....but seems not. so condoms it is as ive had enough swallowing hormones.