AIBU to ask why do people object to condoms so much? im seriously asking!

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i keep reading stuff about men refusing to use them because they dont like them blah blah blah.

so go on, why are they so awful?

they smell a bit but surely you dont notice that during?
and for risk of sounding like a family planning clinic, they are the only way to prevent against STD's and the like.

i mean, if you spend more than half a second thinking about it when you're doing it, you're doing it wrong

of course, this doesn't include people who get allergic reactions to them. and they do them in all sorts of exciting shapes sizes and thickness now....

go on, why are condoms so unreasonable?

Riven . Quote of the week?

I use them because they're best of a bad lot. I think the other options (snipping, alien devices, tying and weird chemicals) are far more intrusive and horrendous.

We use them in conjunction with fertility cycle planning which means there are certain times when they are not necessary. I do like those times.

it's the only birth copntrol method recommended for me ATM whilst dh is awaiting a vasectomy (long list).

Do tehy affect it? maybe 2% off the full 100% but still pretty good, far better than abstinence. Or for people who haven't had very long term relationships / HIV screens / etc a damn sght better than the alternative.

YAallBU. No wet patches, can afford to go straight to sleep without having to "clean up" (how "male" of me ), prevent STDs and pregnancy etc. Having said that, I have used condoms AND the pill together ever since becoming and each time I've been sexually active. I figured with both options, an unwanted pregnancy is an even more unlikely risk. Obviously, there are lots of people out there that think I'm weird, given I'm married and have been with DH for 10 years, but stuff 'em

I think it's a generation thing! Who remembers childrens' tv presenter couple Sarah Greene and Mike Smith telling us if we had unprotected sex we would 'CATCH AIDS AND DIE'? Actually I'm sure they didn't infact say that - but that was the message many an impressionable teenager got in the 1980's.

Because I am sensitive to latex and the non-latex ones cost a fortune and still bloody irritate me.

Snip snip - chases DH down the hall with the scissors...

URGH the smell and the feel URGH

And if you lose them....

The glow in the dark ones are fun though.

So the coil or the pill have no negatives? All contraceptive devices have negatives unfortunately, I think condoms are the best of a bad lot. Obviously they are the only contraception that takes some effort from the man, which seems to complicate things.

It is the only form of contraception I've ever used (except the MAP on the three occasions we didn't use one). Been married ten years and have never had a broken one (seriously are these Tesco Value condoms you guys are buying?). Never even thought of not liking it, I don't like the other options available and I don't want to get pregnant so no choice really. Dh doesn't mind it though would prefer not to use it.

Never used it for preventing STIs, only ever been with dh (and I think him only with me, I haven't asked).

I object to them because I am allergic to them & I get thrush.

Asana, I´m with you.

I like not having to clean up after. No wet patch, no stick-together-thighs

Also, no unwanted pegnancies.

Am on a pill that is 98% safe, which is not safe enough for me so we use condoms too.

DH doesn´t like them, but doesn´t hate them either.

TMI but they dry me our horribly. Sex with chaffing is NOT good.

I will not be telling DD this when she is older though, I will gush about the glories of condoms to prevent STI's.

I also don't like that they say that are 98% effective but are actually much less than that because of incorrect use. I wish ALL schools were obliged to show teenagers how to put them on properly. Teenagers + drink + hard to put on condoms = PG.

Horrible, horrible horrible! They're too tight for the chap, they give me thrush, if you want to switch to, ahem, something else the taste is vile and numbing.

Having said that i will be making sure that both ds' know how to use them and have access to a supply.

Oh, I love them.

No mess.

DH doesn't mind them. Better than me being on the pill fro years and being at increased risk of umpteen conditions unnecessarily. Am pg with last kid now after which it is vasectomy time.

laweaselmys "I wish ALL schools were obliged to show teenagers how to put them on properly."

Is that excruciating class with the banana not standard issue here? Is burned into my memory (which I guess is the point!).

they chafe

and they cause an awkward break in proceedings while they're applied

and they break

and they chafe

and you never have them in the right place when you're getting frisky which means spontaneous sex is generally ruined

and they make sex rushed as both parties try and get done before everything dries out too much to be pleasurable

and they chafe

there's no nice stickly sweaty cuddling afterwards as the man has to rush to the bathroom and remove condom and clean up

the man can't feel a thing with them

and they chafe

Nope. It is not.

We were shown how to put them on. But not on anything and not told not to try it again if you get it wrong etc. This was in a private school. Funnily enough about six girls a year get PG.

(I'm 23, so not long ago, and policy there has not changed)

certainly wasn't demonstrated in either of my secondary schools.... one was a catholic all girls school and one was a private fee paying mixed sex college

I don't like them cause they smell weird, the sensation is different, and I hate it when they crackle! Have never had a partner who was keen on them.

That said, have always used them until the relationship hit a definitely committed stage. Better than the alternative of risking STDs.

Wow, that really sucks.

We got split up into boy/girl classes in Health I think it was for a couple of periods from Year 8ish and had the banana demonstration and the talk about pregnancy being the best thing you can catch from unprotected sex.

Am 33 this year and this was in a state school in Australia.