AIBU to ask why do people object to condoms so much? im seriously asking!

[BritFish]

i keep reading stuff about men refusing to use them because they dont like them blah blah blah.

so go on, why are they so awful?

they smell a bit but surely you dont notice that during?
and for risk of sounding like a family planning clinic, they are the only way to prevent against STD's and the like.

i mean, if you spend more than half a second thinking about it when you're doing it, you're doing it wrong

of course, this doesn't include people who get allergic reactions to them. and they do them in all sorts of exciting shapes sizes and thickness now....

go on, why are condoms so unreasonable?

BertieBotts - Astroglide. It's really, really slippery.

All been said but to add two-pennyworth... they taste horrible, kill the mood (slightly) and (can't speak for the man here but) they make their willy feel different - not as ... umm... hard (sorry if TMI!). That said, I'm single and on the very rare occassions since birth of DD that I've been requiring of them, they've been used. No glove no love still stands!

wtf is anyone doing tasting them? seriously?
DH gets the BJ before it goes on...when i last checked you cant get pg that way. why would you taste it?!? just put it on last thing before the deed.

We use them cos his sperm makes me itch and reacts with my fanjo fluids so that I get thrush.

The downside is that i can't orgasm with it on him so we have to do me first then wop it on.

... so go on, why are they so awful? ...

It's like washing your feet with your socks on.

he doesn't particularly like them but I DETEST them, they're a complete passion killer for me.

VicarInaTuTu you can still catch things from oral, like someone else said if you want to give him oral in the middle it either stays on and tastes awful or comes off and he tastes awful.

hmm, i see what you mean about the midplay action/blowjobs
but id never give a blowjob with a condom on! defeats the point doesnt it.
ahaaaa leakage, the BANE of my life.
i guess im lucky in that me and DH are among a group of friends including singles who always test before and after new relationships. you never know after all!
and it's a lot easier than getting a flippin' smear test anyway.
or a vasectomy, i read something a while back [may have been a thread on here actually] about a woman who was angry that her DH was reluctant to get a vasectomy.
she wasnt offering to get her tubes tied!

oh god, another thought, has anyone tasted those flavoured condoms? id prefer latex to banana...

I'm not offering to get anything tied and, forgetting how heavy pregnancy has been physically on my body for one moment, he wasn't offering to cook, deliver or nurse the babies for years on end.

You do know that things can be passed during oral sex, right? So as much as there doesn't seem much point health has to trump.

For me, they chaff after a while, then stopping to put more lube on, stopping for more play in the middle and maybe having to put another one on.
They split.. welcome to the world DS...

As a woman, they do feel a lot different and when i think about it during, they do lower the mood a bit. I agree about hitting the "big O" easier without.

Oh yeah and they can slide off and into you as well.... welcome to the world DD... after that it makes you paranoid and I have to check it's still on every now and then during vigorous play. Completely knocks the mood. sigh

I've also overheard someone say that theirs broke twice and that's why they had kids. Apparently they nicknamed the kids "oops" and "oh no not again" when they were babies.

I don't mind using them, neither does DH but he has described them as ...."like wearing a lilo on my dick".

Is a pain when they break though. This happened to us once when we were on holiday and I had to traipse around asking in chemists for the MAP. Eventually got directed to a Family Planning Clinic. Felt like a naughty teenager, not a married woman asking for it and even worse with kids sat in the car wanting to know why mummy had to go to a clinic

Hate them hate them hate them! Stinky rubbery haultingly annoying!!

YANBU
they are just what you have to do. They are nasty though - they feel funny, break the mood, smell funny and limit your options. The pill is worse though - makes me feel like I never want to have sex. The problem with no condoms is drippage after which is quite rank.

I find that the noise of the foil unwrapping wakes the children

they need quieter packaging

I agree with the people on here who say they quite like them... I hate having sperm trickle out of me all night But I agree they smell vile.

laury - this is going to sound crazy. but i get that too. i discovered when i put my (then) dp on a diet that limits his yeast intake.i.e he switched off the beer, rice/potatoes instead of bread that we didn't get that problem anymore.

i'm particularly prone to thrush.
condoms give me thrush,all varieties.
they also have the knack of changing the enviroment down there from "swimming pool" to "sahara" in record breaking time.

which is the main cause of them splitting for me.

and can lead to a lovely case of friction burns

i use IDglide lube

but... definately dont like them. just HAVE to use them for safe sex as not currently in a long-term relationship.

They feel funny, they make sex half as good and they are just awful, they look stupid and I cant orgasm if a man has one on as they dont rub on my clit they same. (Sorry if tmi)

I like them a lot better than taking a pill every day. They're clean and convenient. Has anyone tried the cap? Apparently it's really good and you don't feel it in there and you get all the sensation of "proper" sex. But how on earth do you get it in there??

We started using them when I came off the pill as wanted to give my body a rest before ttc and are still using them since DS was born.

I dont mind them at all and now think I might stick to them rather than going on the pill again.

No wet patch!

They're a PITA but they're better than an unwanted pregnancy or disease FFS!!! It's not exactly a difficult choice is it.

DH and I used them problem-free for about 4 years before first PG, and for 18m before second PG. Can't deny sex is way better without though, so I'll be getting the Implanon thingy soon - in a few years if we definitely don't want another baby DH is getting the snip.

Lol Riven, my midwife recommended them as a little-used alternative, but your description was pretty much the scenario I imagined!

What Riven and Baileys said.

Cant say they make me feel DH any less as some posters have commented on, buts thats probably because my fanjo has taken a hammering after 3 kids and is not perhaps as pert as it was in the old days

I like them. dh is a pro at putting them on - someone somehow instilled a genuine deep seated respect for using protection at a young age and he has always been steadfast in using them, we only stopped to conceive ds. Other guys I've been with made much more drama out of the whole thing, we fool around and then when the moment come he whaps it on and it takes about 2 secs and I barely notice. It is really not a big deal and I do think when it is, the guy is making a great big faff over nothing.

And the lack of wet patch/post coital leaking is SUCH a huge plus.