in being cross at the girl on the very crowded commuter-stuffed bus who decided to peel and eat a satsuma?

[MadameDefarge]

Two reasons I am pissed off at this. One is, I do think that eating something very odiferous in a confined public space is anti-social....there is no escape from it...(even healthy foods)

second, and I do know this shouldn't really come into it, but its an hour long bus journey for ds who has dyspraxia, and he has trouble with travel sickness AND is a supertaster....literally throws up in the presence of oranges being peeled and eaten. She was sitting right opposite him.

I saw how he was trying to control himself, but it was clear he wasn't going to make it. So I manage to get him off the bus, for him to throw up all overhimself, and poor wee lad has to walk 25 mins in the freezing cold without his top layer....

Possibly IABU.

YABU

And so he was late for school.

YABU. The woman in question would not have realised that the smell of a satsuma would trigger someone to be sick.

If it was something as offensive as an onion pasty I would say YANBU.

yabu. Nothing offensive to the majority in an orange. What does piss me off is the people who come on drowning in perfume. Bad enough at the best of times, but when I was suffereing morning sickness I had to get off the bus a few times to actually be sick at the smell of some people

So its okay to stink a bus out with food smells?

Er unless your DS had a big sign on him saying "do not eat oranges near me as I will throw up" I do think you are being a bit U.

YABU

yes YABU - take your DS in a car and not on public transport if he throws up, thus eliminating any possibility of some stranger eating and him being sick.

Its funny, because I was brought up to think that eating oranges on trains etc was really anti-social, because it is so strong....

Unfortunately its part of travelling on public transport, I can understand why you;re upset, but maybe you need to travel with some kind of bag for him to be sick in next time it happens

sorry yabu

er, thehills, I do not drive. I use public transport.

YABU

There is worse to be eaten on public transport believe me.

No, you're not being unreasonable to feel the way you feel. Your circumstances are such that her eating that fruit affected you.

It's not for me or anyone to say you don't have the right to feel the way you feel.

That said, she did nothing wrong, was entitled to eat her satsuma and, with the best will in the world - and saying it as the mother of 2 boys with autism who hate unexpected noise etc, it's not her problem that your son is sensitive to smells. My kids hate loud bangs, for example. Am I pissed off it people are banging - hell yes makes things hard for me. But they can bang if they want to. It's just tough titty at the end of the day

No, I do know ds' condition is not part of the AIBU. But I not thrilled for myself either. It is so strong.

I agree that is antisocial to eat foods that are known to have unpleasant smells e.g onions, fried food etc but I have never thought of orange as being anything other than a pleasant smell. At christmas we decorate the house with oranges studded with cloves because they let off such a nice scent. You can buy candles with an orange aroma so most people obviously feel otherwise, you wouldn't buy scented garlic candles would you?

It was a satsuma, not an orange.

If she had been stinking out the bus with samosas or pasties then you would have cause for complaint.

Did you point it out to her that your son had an issue with the smell??

I have an issue with people putting on make-up and eating things like sushi on a tube but a satsuma is pretty innocuous - many detergents are made to smell of lemons and oranges ...

shame you had to get off and walk,but tbh the passenger couldnt possibly have known that- not their fault. were you not able to move seats

Did you ask her to stop? maybe a polite "I'm so sorry but my son is allergic to oranges, would you mind waiting until we get off" (I know he's not allergic but it's an easier explanation) - I am sure most people would have refrained.

I eat apples on the train sometimes. Yes it is possible that this may affect someone opposite me, but very unlikely - I'd expect someone to point out to me if I was upsetting them.

Ah well, if I see her again, I'll just ask her nicely not to do it.... as I can't guarantee she won't end with vomit all over her!

agree with heQet

is your ds okay now?

i agree with you in regards to strong smells its just that i think most people would think an orange smells quite nice so it wouldn't cross their mind to not eat an orange as they would think about onions or blue cheese

When I used to get the train to work I often had someone plonk themselves down next to me with a cup of weak milky coffee . Was bad enough normally but when I was pg it was unbearable. I used to be inwardly fuming but there is bugger all you can do. Thankfully now my panic attacks on trains are so bad that I no longer use them and drive to work.