in being cross at the girl on the very crowded commuter-stuffed bus who decided to peel and eat a satsuma?

[MadameDefarge]

Two reasons I am pissed off at this. One is, I do think that eating something very odiferous in a confined public space is anti-social....there is no escape from it...(even healthy foods)

second, and I do know this shouldn't really come into it, but its an hour long bus journey for ds who has dyspraxia, and he has trouble with travel sickness AND is a supertaster....literally throws up in the presence of oranges being peeled and eaten. She was sitting right opposite him.

I saw how he was trying to control himself, but it was clear he wasn't going to make it. So I manage to get him off the bus, for him to throw up all overhimself, and poor wee lad has to walk 25 mins in the freezing cold without his top layer....

Possibly IABU.

you are clearly mad.

We do not really have many social norms anymore MadameDefrage society is really too large and complex for that sort of thing.

And who's comfort gets priority? That of the person who is really hungry (I get queasy if I don't eat for awhile) or that of the person who objects to people eating on the bus?

If it's not harming you, you have no right to impose your ideas of good behavior on anybody else.

I repeat, its called tolerence.

clarissimo, terracotta trousers? the colour? wow. How hard that must have been.

Oh please, you're being silly now. If we took into account every possible situation no one would be allowed to leave their front door. I bet the majority of people on that bus didn't give a monkeys about the girl and her orange.

Eating on public transport is bad manners imo.

If I hadn't eaten on the bus though when I was pg (and she may have been who knows) I would ahve flaked out

It happens

And apaprently pranges and chocolate are the only 2 things to taste the same going down as up again (I didntb really eat oranges so didnt notice myself)

Could be lots of reasons she was eating quite apart from the fact I myself have never heard of said rule above be selective what tyou eat, and have breached it myself when facing a v long train journey after working away wiith little fodder to select from

well, amber it was harming somebody. My ds.

So while I can be tolerant about many things, I don't see that I have to be tolerant about someone flagrantly ignoring a request not to eat food on a bus and thus making my child sick.

I pointed out above that you ARE allowed to eat on buses - you are just asked to be considerate by not eating smelly food. Oranges (satsuma - whatever!) are not smelly to the majority (to whom this 'rule' applies). feels ignored !

What about eating on trains? Is that ok?

Or is it just buses?

huge numbers travel on bus someone bound to engage in an activity that will offend someone else.be it oranges.wearing perfume.one cannot prevent that on public transport.

it was shame your wee son was ill.

trains. well, clearly that is acceptable. But I still draw the line at citrus fruit. because it is so smelly. Its a question of consideration.

And on a train you have the opportunity of moving, which you don't on crowded routemasters in london.

And she didn't 'flagrantly' ignor a request - you didn't ask her (although am guessing you sent hate waves in her direction to try and get her to 'hear' you and stop!!)

But you did not say anything to her Madame how was she supposed to know? Where I live only hot food is banned on public transport.

Should peanuts be subject to a total ban in all public places too?

the request is the general one displayed on all buses.

Well, I hope that you took note of her details and have reported her to the relevant authorities for abusive orange eating.

amber, for the nnth time, I was nowhere near her, and she had an ipod on.

Why is it acceptable on a train but not a bus?

And I am not moving to the sodding dining car and it's silly prices.

Arrgghh!!! FFS! The request is against smelly and offensive food. To most (normal!) people, satsumas are NOT offensive goes off to hit head against wall

yabvu

and at 'chuffing on a crack pipe'

I hate sitting on crowded public transport whilst someone stands in the aisle next to me with tight polyester trousers and camel toe at my eye level.
Gives me cystitis just looking at it.
I would not go so far as to request a dress code, however.

You could have got up, and gently tapped her on the sholder/waved etc.

She may well have been able to hear you speak over the Ipod, not everyone listens to them at such a volume.

You can't ban everything on the tiny chance that it might offend someone.

MoreCrackThanHarlem - PMSL!!

What part of it did offend me and my ds is irrelevant? some seem to say that because they do not find it offensive that's ok. Good manners would say that any strong smelling thing is likely to provoke a negative reaction in a least a few people, so the polite thing would be not to do it.

Madame, my ds has a food phobia, travel sickness and is hyper sensitive to smells, so i can sympathise.

I would have probably had to do the same as you and get off the bus and walk, so understand why you would be a bit pissed off.

However the woman eating, didnt know it would cause this reaction in your ds.

Sorry to hear you and your ds have had a crap start to the day.

Aha! So this is a wind up. There are no routemasters in London at the moment unless you are on the heritage route...

Seriously, she may have a good reason to be eating, as others have said. Supposing she is eating to stop herself being sick, whose need takes priority? Hers, or your DS?

MadameDefarge, objectively speaking YABU,..but I TOTALLY agree with you on this one so therefore I am probably BU too.

Can't bear anyone peeling oranges, or chomping on fruit of any kind beside me, esp up close in a car or bus, I find it repulsive and even sometimes quease-making.

Move over there on the Grumpy Old Women bench cos I'm joining you!