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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to wonder if some ops deliberately misread threads

140 replies

swanandduck · 02/03/2010 11:22

Have seen this several times on here of late. It usually goes something like this:

OP: I was at the supermarket the other day and I saw a little girl (about 6) shove a bag of crisps up her jumper and the mother just laughed and put her own stuff through the checkout. I was really shocked. Am I being unreasonable to think this was wrong and training her child very badly.

Respondent 1: What are you? The Tesco police? I suppose if it had been a tub of hoummus or a box of organic crackers, that would have been okay. YABU.

Respondent 2: YABU. You know nothing about these people. Maybe the mother has had a really really hard life and is living on benefits and suffers from a medical condition. And you grudge her one lousy packet of crisps.

Respondent 3: Actually, I sometimes let my dd eat a bag of crisps. Didn't realise I had to seek approval from all the other shoppers in the store first.

OP: No, no, sorry, maybe I wasn't being clear. It wasn't the crisps I was giving out about, it was the fact that she didn't pay for them.

Respondent 4: How do you know she didn't pay for them? Did you follow her all around the shop? Did you check her receipt before she left. YABU and need to learn to mind your own business.

Respondent 5: You sound like a total snob, not wanting to shop in a store with a chavvy mum who lets her kid eat crisps.

Respondent 6: This is why I hate shopping in supermarkets, with people constantly complaining about other people's children. Maybe I should leave ds at home in future so he doesn't annoy people like you.

Respondent 7: Well, I'm really sorry if children in supermarkets annoy you. Maybe we should only shop in the dead of night so you don't have to see them. I really can't stand these childhaters.

Respondent 6: Well said, Respondent7.

OP (horrified). Whaaat? Where did I say I hate children. I love kids, I have two of my own. This is ridiculous.

Respondent 6: Would you calm down. Who accused you of hating children? We're just pointing out that you need to be a bit more tolerant when using what is, after all, a public place.

Respondent 5: You sound jealous to me. Was the little girl prettier than your dd.

Respondent 4: Actually, I've just checked and this is only your second post and you have had the nerve to actually start a new thread . Are you sure you're not a journalist?

Respondent 3: Well, I've just checked the cupboards and they are bare. I was going to go shopping but I have a dd. Maybe it would be better if we all starved though, in case you're lurking around my local Tesco with your big judgy pants on, deciding what my daughter should and shouldn't eat.

OP: (Feebly) No, no, that's not....(voice trails away).

Respondent 8: Well, I wish other kids eating crisps was all I had to worry about. Try having a MIL who calls around and retiles the bathroom and puts the house up for sale when you've just popped out to post a letter. Honestly, that woman....

OP drops to knees, bangs head off floor and starts to weep quietly.

OP posts:
juneybean · 02/03/2010 11:25

LMAO that was quite an entertaining read but yes they do seem to pick out the little things and start an argument about it. Missing the point completely.

bibbitybobbityhat · 02/03/2010 11:27

Yanbu - but I think you mean some posters deliberately misread threads, not some ops.

But yes, it can be frustrating!

VinegarTits · 02/03/2010 11:27

'to wonder if some ops deliberately misread threads '

So the OP misread her own OP? or the OP mis-posted what she actually meant ?

again

GibbonInARibbon · 02/03/2010 11:28

so true

swanandduck · 02/03/2010 11:29

Was wondering who'd spot that typo first. Yes, I did of course mean posters. I really wish there was an edit function on here.

OP posts:
TrillianAstra · 02/03/2010 11:29

You mean posters misread OPs.

I'm not sure if you mean they deliberately misread or if they just don't try very hard to understand what the OP is saying.

But yeah, people tend to get a bit carried away.

Very nice fake thread BTW

kimlouiseb · 02/03/2010 11:30

That made me chuckle and yes - it does sound familiar!

VinegarTits · 02/03/2010 11:32

It is true, it is AIBU though, people just love an excuse to say YABU

EasyEggs · 02/03/2010 11:32

Very good

Yes it can be a bit like that sometimes though

pagwatch · 02/03/2010 11:34

has the OP explained why she hates children. And whats with all the force-feeding of crisps?

Get a grip OP. It isn't all about you you know

KurriKurri · 02/03/2010 11:36

How do you know the people who misread threads don't have dyslexia? what are you the thread police?

WhoIsAsking · 02/03/2010 11:37

GOD. Data is not the plural of anecdote.

bibbitybobbityhat · 02/03/2010 11:38

Hmmmph, I don't think you can pass off using the word op instead of poster as a typo can you? Really???

GibbonInARibbon · 02/03/2010 11:39

I will laugh my socks off if this thread implodes. Oh the irony.

2010aQuintessentialOdyssey · 02/03/2010 11:40

cor, swanandduck, you have a lot of time on your hands.

mampam · 02/03/2010 11:45

OP I totally agree. I find it very annoying when this happens and it puts me off the thread altogether.

GuntherMcKilocodie · 02/03/2010 11:45

YADNBU I agree, Matthew Wright is a twat

PorphyrophillicPixie · 02/03/2010 11:47

I see this happening way too often and have been that poor bastard who gets misread too, but that's life in a forum. Where you see whats in front of you and not the intention/emotion/tone behind the posters words!

I do feel bad for posters when I see them in that situ though, but if you try stand up for them you become a child hater too! No-win situation.

GingerSling · 02/03/2010 12:07

(towards end of thread) I think that the poster has issues and is probably mentally ill.

gramercy · 02/03/2010 12:18

YANBU

At the moment this is happening so often as to be quite boring. Every instance of anti-social behaviour is excused quite aggressively.

And there's so much hypocrisy, too. Mils can do no right whatsoever (and I admit I do have an awful one, so no fan of mils here) and if a dh dares to come home from work at 8pm and then fail to put on three loads of washing, cook a gourmet dinner, decorate the spare room and put up six shelves all these posters come charging in like so many harpies and say how lazy he is.

Honestly, it's no different from those old images of women in flowery housecoats and turbans with hair in rollers, a fag hanging out of their mouth and arms folded, carping across their back walls.

GhoulsAreLoud · 02/03/2010 12:23

How do you know she hadn't paid for the crisps already, hmmmmm???

JustAnotherManicMummy · 02/03/2010 12:25

Oh FFS. She obviously has SN.

shootfromthehip · 02/03/2010 12:26

YANBU- I had to take a wee quiet break from MN because I was fed up with some OP's getting a doing from people who seemed to deliberately miss the point. I know we all judge but judging the judger and then the judgees sometimes gets a bit head melting!

gorionine · 02/03/2010 12:28

I suppose OPS means Other PosterS?

Your Op made me LOL I would not have been able to magine so many ways to miss the point myself!

YANBU though!

Bleatblurt · 02/03/2010 12:42

Excellent!

I have found myself hissing insults at the computer screen when people haven't read stuff properly and are ranting on.