To now dislike my dd's class teacher after finding her on MN?

[absinthe]

She wasn't very complementary about the little dah-lings in her care and I am silently fuming now. I completely randomly feel upon her user name and looked at her profile on the off chance that it might be her and there she was - pics n' all. She does not post a lot but one of her posts would put her in line for at least a formal warning if not more.

Can't say who she is but it is definitely her - without a shadow of a doubt.

I have never had MN cross over into RL before. Is it wrong of me to glance at her generally boring posts, just because it's her?

Maybe I could drop subtle hints about the fact that I use MN too just to see her reaction.

In any case, I think it was a bit sloppy and feel she should have taken more care to make herself anonymous.

I google people I want to find out about, isn't it normal these days?

I checked out my tutors on my MA for example, why not? (Had fallen out with one of them and wanted to get a grasp of where s/he was coming from).

And I would never check out celebrities because they hold no interest (and everythign on tinterweb about em is a big fat lie).

I would have had a bit of rummage in the laundry basket if I'd known how..

I suppose I think that if it's findable, then it's fair game. I'll have to think about whether or not I agree with myself now.

You look very pretty on your pics. Mwaah.

Ooh yes, piccies!!

Hully - I think that is her elder daughter actually - she appears in the first and last ones (not meant as a bitchy tit-for-tat style comment btw).

Gosh, seeing all that has enriched my life more than I can ever express .... not.

I don't understand that Absinthe?!

And I am only interested in love and the furtherance of understanding, and teaching the world to sing. Can't bear unpleasantness.

Hully - do you listen to The New Seekers a lot then?

Good plan, Lenin! One must always question, and then gloss.

Ahh, older dd looks v like you, thought you were the same person (tho didn't study that closely so obviously only a trainee stalker!). Only delete if you've something to hide?

The Cider House Rules is one of my all time tip top ten.

verity did you manage to get tickets for your DD?

StayFrosty Fri 26-Feb-10 12:07:06
">>Cory, I know you've hinted you think the op is lying, because she has criticised the teacher's Amazon wishlist. But I read the op again and her early posts and they ring true to me."

I have not hinted that the OP is lying. I have only pointed out that since I do not know what the remarks the teacher has actually made, I have no means of knowing if I would find them as shocking as she evidently does.

Sorry, messed up with the pasting there. Should have been pasted from the original post, by probono.

Will try again:

probono Fri 26-Feb-10 07:57:08
"Cory, I know you've hinted you think the op is lying, because she has criticised the teacher's Amazon wishlist. But I read the op again and her early posts and they ring true to me. I also disapprove of following someone around the internet but I know everybody does it nowadays and so she's not "deranged" for doing so."

I have not said that she is deranged. And I keep repeating that the bit I find odd is not following her round the internet, but publicising her findings here.

I am very well aware that I have not always exercised restraint when it comes to criticising my children's teachers. The same goes for obnoxious playmates of my children, neighbours who might get up my wick, and doctors who have made careless diagnoses in the past.

What I have tried to exercise is sufficient caution to ensure that no individual teachers/doctors etc can be identified.

And the OP certainly has not suggested that the teacher in question made it possible to identify individual children.

OP "It seems as though there are people lashing out at me because their own IT skills were too lacking, for them to realise at what point their private information became public. I am apparently to blame for that. By the same token, they are furiously updating settings on Amazon (thanks to the info that I shared). Deeply unpleasant people, if you ask me."

I think you are confusing some posters who disagreed with you with the many who commented on the IT theme only.

I cant see where anyone blamed you about their own private/public settings?

On the contrary some of the posters, who did not condone your own actions, have said that discovering the default setting on amazon wishlists is public was one useful thing from this thread.

In fact the only thing some of us discussed on this thread was changing our setting for our own reasons.

How on earth does this make us into "deeply unpleasant people?"

Your generalising and unpleasant comments are potentially quite upsetting as you will have read above that some people had personal and distressing reasons for changing private settings to public.

They did not comment on you be good enough to leave them out of it.

If you have a problem with a specific comment or poster address it with them please.

Well, there were a lot of unfair attacks on me yesterday - some of which I could have reported (though I try to avoid resorting to that in the interests of seeing the discussion through to it's conclusion).

I could not possibly address every poster individually on every comment DaftPunk-style (don't have time, am pro-generising to a degree) , so I was obviously dealing with the gist of it today (hence, no names). If somebody was gracious enough to have refrained from personal attacking me then I would not expect them to take offence to what I posted today.

"some people had personal and distressing reasons for changing private settings to public" - I don't respond well to 'poor ol' me's when I am generally at the receiving end of the antagonism.

Sounds to me like you are merely reigniting the touchpaper so that I am on the rec end of a bashing from the Friday night crowd. Pretty sick really, plus I have said everything I needed (and more) so don't want to post on this one again
UPDATE:
She has removed her profile from MN overnight so job well done, IMO