to want to slap the girl on 'one born every minute'?

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in the title really, she is really making a meal of it!!

I just posted this on the other thread, but I do wonder if all women who suffer a lot in early labour get put in the "making a huge fuss/spoilt brat" box? It's like we all get put in boxes according to how dilated we are and what we should be feeling.

DH just kindly told me I was really reserved during my labour, but I'm thinking that if I'd made a bit more fuss when I was really in agony I might have got a bit more help when I asked for it - like pain relief for example. I felt like I had no right to be in so much pain so I just internalised it and I've suffered for that psychologically ever since.

Ooooh sky+ at the ready...

Er - yeah, but she's diabetic and in labour. She's not just a bit peckish...

I think she was just really terrified.

don't be too hard on the chinese lady (Joy). I had exactly the same situation, spent 4 days trying to be induced, even the synto drip didn't work in the end and had to have CS. It is VERY upsetting to be there, not allowed to go home and have nothing happen. You feel like you're being forgotten which actually, she had been - had she not made a fuss she wouldn't have got any food because they thought she'd gone home and even if you are not diabetic that is not ok. I reckon me and DP spent nearly £100 (in the NHS shop and cafe)on food, parking, newspapers etc and not once in the 8 days in total I was in hospital was DP ever offered a cup of tea on the rare occasions they came round with an urn (and he was there all day every day). Of course the people actually in labour come first and yes its difficult with stretched resources but I think she's allowed to have a moan.

I thought the chinese woman was funny and justified in moaning she was starving and had injected her insulin and hour and half before and told them several times where she was and that she was waiting to eat!

I felt sorry for the young girl, she was freaking out but its scary being in labour for the first time. Her boyfriend seemed nice, bit bewildered!

I know i am being a bit harsh

Oh you orrible sod, poor cows in labour even if she is a pain in the arse !!

You should've heard the one in the bed next to me when I was having dd, apparently being touched by strangers 'down there ' was against her religion, so thats why she was acreaming like she was being murdered.

Me and the other mums stood gawping and gobsmacked rubbing our bumps wondering why or how she got pregnant in the first place until one mum summed it up by muttering 'there's no fucking need for that !!'

I felt really really sorry for Sam. I could identify with her a lot - I got to that stage fairly early on in my labour as well. Luckily I had a lovely lovely midwife who took the time to go through breathing techniques with me and my mum was brilliant and kept chanting the thing we made up throughout the whole of the rest of my labour - I was about to lose it at that point and I was lucky I had people there to help.

I was just thinking poor girl, her boyfriend doesn't have much of a clue, though he came across as a bit useless and not very bright, he was clearly in distress about the pain she was in, I think it was obvious neither of them were well prepared. The mum did get her to calm down which was good but I felt she was a bit harsh! The boyfriend's mum was much warmer towards her. I bet her mum was scared/distressed for her as well though because she seemed a lot more reassuring once she had calmed down.

Missed the last part so just waiting for it to come on 4od to see the cute baby...

I was practically weeping for that young couple.

The girls mother was a cow. How dare she tell her daughter that she was making a fool of herself!

And that couple had been nowhere near an NCT class - if they had, the mum have had more coping strategies for dealing with her contractions than just thrashing about on her back screaming and tensing up with the pain.

And what sort of support was she getting from the midwives? What sort of help did she get to deal with her labour other than a shed load of drugs followed by a distresed baby and an emergency c-section?

In defence of the Chinese lady, she had been told her dinner was arriving so injected Insulin then her food didnt arrive which can be very dangerous, as it alters the Insulin/glucose level.... which in turn can make you very aggitated/irritable. Though she did seem like a moaner anyhow

Was going to say - she didn't have a lot of support from her family, it would have been nice if a midwife had been able to sit with her and give her another way to cope with the pain, it is a shame they are so stretched. I felt sorry for her when her mum was shouting saying she was making a fool of herself because I don't think anyone would do that on purpose - it was just literally impossible for her to cope with.

Agree that Joy was funny and she wasn't that bad - she only moaned about the food which was justified! The rest she only moaned to her DH about, and if you can't have a bit of a moan to your DH what can you do??

Thought it was very telling seeing the body language between the two couples. And quite sad

standanddeliver it made me cry too - xposts!

Thought the Chinese lady was gorgeous and funny. Can't wait to see her baby!

Agree Bertie, very sad

Sam's labour reminded so much of my first. Was v v painful from the start - dd was posterior - but was never encouraged to move, midwives just flitted in and out. You just don't have a clue with your first. We just escaped an EMCS.

Following babies for me had as little hospital contact as possible.

No I don't feel sorry for her she is a brat and making a massive meal of it - mena to the man too - her Mother has the measure of her entirely

Joy is stoic considering she has spent 4 days being induced - what a nightmare.

i was so shocked when the mum said she was making a fool of herself! that was a bit cruel, and being honest, as parents isnt that something we do alot, its kinder not to point it out though!

The moment that got me was when the young dad said he couldnt cope going into the theatre, I was 18 when ds was born and dp was 21, he was fantastic and didnt think twice about being with me every step of the way and ds when he was rushed to nicu and had many many tests with needles and tubes everywhere, he said it went from the best to the worst day of his life seeing his baby being put through that, but he stayed because he didnt want him alone, and id begged him to leave me and stay with ds, being young is no excuse for anything. It makes me cross seeing constant negative portrayals of younger parents!

Can we please have some young mums who dont go on and on and complain and ACT like children shown on tv!

I was also at Sam, I thought she must be about half an hour from the birth from the off - but no, 2cm at best... Thougt I was being mean/harsh etc, but at least I'm not alone in thinking she was going for the oscar with it!

Or did the epidural lead to the c section ?

It was all so predictable, where was her support, her reassurance, she was hyper venti;ating at one point, who helped her.
Such a shame, thank goodness the baby was ok.

I agree yanbu, i wanted to slap her too. I also think the mum was doing the right thing of telling her she was making a tit of herself, she needed telling, she was hysterical. wondered if if was also a little bit of acting up to the camera, as she must of been aware it was being filmed.
wondered why the hospital didnt send her home for bath and paracetomol after the first VE when they found she wasnt actually in established labour-considering they were super busy and understaffed. You wouldnt get admitted at my local hospital at that point, youd be sent away for labour to progress.

Yes YABU.

Am I being unreasonable to feel like wanting to slap people who feel that they'd like to slap the girl in "One Born Every Minute"?

not at all. free speech and all that lol

I have a feeling I was delivered by the older midwife! Hope not because mum didn't have the best time of it.

I wanted to slap the midwife on last week's one, really bullying the lady who couldn't push any more and clearly distracting her. But the young lass just didn't seem to know what was happening - I felt so sorry for her when she said she was being a wimp.

Why didn't anyone tell her she was hyperventilating and therefore (I assume) not getting any benefit from the gas and air? That was bugging me the whole time!