To have made sausage casserole for my family despite dh saying last night he does not want it!

[Snowfun]

Dh likes sausage caserole we don't have it that often last time I made it was about a month ago. Anyway last night he was adament he did not want me to cook sausage caserole but he wanted me to do toad in the hole with carrots green beans mash and gravy etc etc.

Anyway ds2 aged 2 loves sausage caserole. He is slightly off his food which is very unusual for him and so this morning I have made sausage caserole in my slow cooker. Ds2 got so excited and squealed sausage caserole!

So aibu to have done this its far easier for me anyway. Tried explaining that to dh last night too but he was absolutely adament he didn't want it! I know he'll be annoyed I cooked it and will doubtless moan!

My DH eats whatever I cook, but if he particulary said he didn't want something then I wouldn't cook it for him. I think YABU.

hahalol! THats another story! Yes I do tend to go for surprises now but I'm fed up of having too. I never discuseed tonights tea last night he bought the subject up as usual. THe sausage casserole thing is partly because his mum never cooked it at home and he likes me to cook things his mother did which annoys me as I am not his mother !

This is what is known in the trade as AIBU by stealth.

I think he needs to start doing some cooking TBH snowfun. Or start appreciating your efforts a bit more. He sounds a bit obsessed TBH, i thought we were bad in this house but we don't start thinking about tomorrows supper before tomorrow IYSWIM.

I hope he does not compare your efforts unfavourably to his mums...

If I had said to my husband I didn't want something for dinner after he suggested it and he then cooked it anyway I would regard it as a passive aggressive act, and feel my husband was saying he didn't love me and my likes and dislikes were unimportant.
If I'm cooking and ask folk what they want I take note of it. If I'm feeling lazy or want to cook something particular then I don't ask anyone what they want, am vague when asked what's for dinner and serve up what I want.
If you had no intention of cooking toad in the hole you should have told him so last night, or been noncommital when discussing dinner.

I always do two choices for dinner

Take or leave it!

He is a grown man - It wont kill him to eat it.I do meal planning for the week and post the menu for the week on the fridge

I always ask if there are any requests and am happy to do favorites -sorry but I think he sounds a bit controlling -not using the slowcooker ????

If I ever cooked anything like the food DH's Mum left out for his dinner when he was a child he would be really pissed off. Dry unseasoned mince for instance

You did not mention the slow cooker, the dumplings, the phone conversations, the fact that he does actually like sausage casserole, or his mothers cooking in the op - hence aibu by stealth.

Very true bibbity!

Apart from the first four words of the op regarding the suspect's husband's liking of boiled willy sausage casserole I believe this to be a classic AIBU by stealth!

OP is probably forcing dismembered DH into the slow cooker as we type.

With dumplings.

2rebecca - I didnot ask dhs opinion or bring the subject up for dicussion in any way. He bought the subject up as always

yep, very stealthy

I think that the OP's husband sounds weird. If I'm cooking I look in cupboards/fridge and decide what to cook. Ditto DP. As someone said, if you want menu options go to a fecking restaurant.

And as for the poster who said this

"FWIW i asked dh what he would like for dinner and asked for chicken wraps. I thought buggar why can't ask for something i got in the freezer, so i went and got the bits i need to make it."

YANBU to cook what you want to cook, but I think to make sausage cassarole specifically because your 2 year old likes it when your DH says he doesn't want it is truly strange. Your DS is 2 - if he likes sausages he would presumably also like toad in the hole. Do you really want to be one of those "oh, he'll only eat x" parents a couple of years down the line?

Hmmmmm.

Sausages and gravy chucked in the slow cooker V something that actually had to be cooked. I wonder whether there is more to the decision to do sausage casserole than first appears.

Sunny, her son is sick and off his food. Special circumstances, surely?

And given that her husband puts in his order the night before, then rings up from work to check that she's using the right implements and making dumplings, I think it's her husband who needs to be taught not to be an 'only eat X' child person, don't you?

Snowfun, I'm glad your son liked his dinner. In your shoes, I'd be making my husband cook at least some of the time, since he clearly regards you as a shortorder cook.

Also, those of you who think snowfun should've just whipped up a second dish for her husband, did you not see that he didn't just want toad in the hole, but had specified all the accompaniments? Which take extra pans, separate cooking methods, etc?

"he wanted me to do toad in the hole with carrots green beans mash and gravy etc etc"

Oh come on. The OP says "slightly off his food"!

And I am very impressed by a poorly 2 year old who jumps up and down squealing "sausage casserole!" - quick recovery and fantastic enunciation!

I never cook for my husband! He is a fussy bugger and eats out for lunch so half the time he turns his nose up.

Yes - why is everyone jumping to teh conclusion that her son is ill. She has just said that he is off his food - which could mean that he is going through one of those periodic bouts of food refusal which most toddlers do. Se hasn't actually said that he is unwell.

this thread is ridiculous. how long before someone comes on and tells her to leave him?

Leave him!

(5 mins, 45 secs)

snurk