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Original poster

To have made sausage casserole for my family despite dh saying last night he does not want it!

130 replies

Snowfun · 03/02/2010 11:55

Dh likes sausage caserole we don't have it that often last time I made it was about a month ago. Anyway last night he was adament he did not want me to cook sausage caserole but he wanted me to do toad in the hole with carrots green beans mash and gravy etc etc.

Anyway ds2 aged 2 loves sausage caserole. He is slightly off his food which is very unusual for him and so this morning I have made sausage caserole in my slow cooker. Ds2 got so excited and squealed sausage caserole!

So aibu to have done this its far easier for me anyway. Tried explaining that to dh last night too but he was absolutely adament he didn't want it! I know he'll be annoyed I cooked it and will doubtless moan!

OP posts:
OrmRenewed · 03/02/2010 13:54

We often cook 2 meals. Because we can't always eat at the same time as the children and because they don't always like what we have. I don't want to force them to eat aubergine parmigiani or stonking hot chilli, but I don't want to go without the foods I like.

junglist1 · 03/02/2010 14:03

Oh my mum does the "what do you want for dinner tomorrow darling" routine. What a load of cack. If he doesn't like it he can go hungry, unless he's your boss

shockers · 03/02/2010 14:03

I'll have his portion and I'll wash up afterwards. I love sausage casserole

gagamama · 03/02/2010 14:06

skidoodle - precisely!

Angelcat666 · 03/02/2010 14:39

"But the OP asked him. Didn't she?"

The OP doesn't actually say if she asked him or not. It could be that she said I'll make sausage casserole tomorrow and he said he didn't want it he wanted toad in the hole.

If he wants toad in the hole he can make it himself.

MoChan · 03/02/2010 14:44

Is this a real thread, or are you all talking in code?

ChippingIn · 03/02/2010 14:50

MoChan - LOL - I hate to think what the code would be for...ewwwww

If we had discussed it and I was under the impression you'd agreed to cook Toad in the Hole and came home to sausage casserole which I'd said, quite clearly, I didn't want - then I'd be a bit pissed off - but only because it would be telling me that you didn't care what we'd talked about, but if you said 'Sorry, I made casserole as Little J hasn't been eating much and I thought he'd eat that, I'll make TITH soon' then I'd be fine with it', especially as I can't be bothered with cooking, so coming home to any meal someone else has prepared is a huge bonus

Would all have to be with Veggie Sausages though

Hullygully · 03/02/2010 15:01

I love it that these dinner threads cause such a furore. Who'd have guessed sausage casserole could provoke such strong feeling.

Original poster
Snowfun · 03/02/2010 15:16

Firstly I did not start a discussion with dh on what to do with sausages. He saw we were having sausages and did his usual saying what he wanted which he often does. I often keep quiet about what I'm cooking because for instance all stews or casseroles have to have dumplings with them. He never wants me to cook chicken casserole but when I do cook it he rings up several times to make sure its with dumplings and says it should be cooked in the caserole dish not in the slow cooker. I've beeb know to dish and wash the slow cooker before he gets home so he doesn't know I used it. I'm just fed up with the constant negotiations over what I can and cannot cook. The phone calls and secrecy. Thats why I thought for goodness sake I am not cooking something he dislikes I never do I'm not THAT cruel so I'm cooking it!

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Hullygully · 03/02/2010 15:19

Oh. My. God.

He phones you about dumplings?

Oh. My. God.

2shoes · 03/02/2010 15:19

yabu And a bit mean to your poor old dh

Hullygully · 03/02/2010 15:20

Am v much liking this DH. What other views does he have? What are his views on laundry for eg?

Hullygully · 03/02/2010 15:21

What does he think about Ecover products?

doesntplaywellwithothers · 03/02/2010 15:21

He wouldn't last 5 minutes in this house...

doesntplaywellwithothers · 03/02/2010 15:22

LMAO Hully

Hullygully · 03/02/2010 15:22

Does he like hospital corners on the beds?

OrmRenewed · 03/02/2010 15:24

O-oh! A food control freak. I see.....

Does he ever cook?

Pikelit · 03/02/2010 15:26

"He wouldn't last 5 minutes in this house..."

He'd have starved to death long before the sweepstake.

GetOrfMoiLand · 03/02/2010 15:26

I often make two of everything - when make curries I always make two anyway, as DD is on the korma end of the scale whilst I prefer Vindaloo. So would not be fair for me and DP to eat a nice homecooked dinner which would be too hot for DD.

Plus I know that DP is not that keen on pasta - so if me and DD have got a yearning for some carbonara or something, I would cook DP a chop.

If I can't be arsed to cook (DP's cooking is too 'experimental' - aka he is a bit crap) we eat out or order in.

It's not exactly hard. Looking at some responses here anyone would think that cooking dinner was some nightmare chore. It is a drudge sometimes, but hardly domestic slavery.

doesntplaywellwithothers · 03/02/2010 15:27

PMSL Pikelit...agreed!

Pikelit · 03/02/2010 15:27

Sorry, that should have read:

Round here he'd have starved to death long before the sweepstake.

doesntplaywellwithothers · 03/02/2010 15:28

Still funny...

thirdname · 03/02/2010 15:31

Hully what are hospital corners on the bed????

southeastastra · 03/02/2010 15:33

i think it's pretty mean to serve him something he doesn't want. fgs what a fuss over a sausage though.

Pikelit · 03/02/2010 15:34

Cheers! I just wanted to make it clear that I wasn't sharing Mr Doesntplaywellwithothers with you!

But I'm still amazed at how food becomes such an ishoo. I don't cook stuff I know that dp hates (not much, in fairness but chili con carne is the most regretful) and he doesn't do similarly. But I've never thought to text him to ensure that there will be dumplings or him to stamp his feet over what's appeared on the supper table. As his mother would say, it's not a problem worthy of St. Teresa's intervention.