to be considering 2 days a week at nursery

[deliakate]

for DS even though I am a sahm?

I don't think there will be a place available for him until he's 12 month, and by then, I hope to be just or very nearly pregnant with no. 2, so I figure I will need the rest. Is this a bit much to ask though?

I watched Jeremy Kyle this afternoon whilst doing the ironing, while DD was at nursery...

It is my guilty secret...

I quite like the lie dector and DNA tests....

You know me... I'm a bit of a drama queen

Chandellina, I do worry that when she has to go to school she will find it hard as she is something of a spoiled diva star at nursery. It's part of a school, though, so if I want to continue paying the fees, she can stay for a while yet.

Note to self - either win lottery; invent something; or fall in love with v wealthy man who wants to take good care of us both!

WWC -thanks for the advice - I have been bf for the last 4 months and plan to continue for the next 8!

mrsrigby - op did explain that this proposition was was because she thought she'd be pregnant by then and even if she wasn't so what! we all need a break from our dc's now and then and it isn't morally wrong to orgnaise one!!

belle - agree! the nursery (well montessori actually) i have chosen has all of those facilities also.

op - give it a go - if it doesnt work out at least you have other options. if your dc likes it then both have everything to gain. my god dd started nursery 2 days a week at 1. she loved it so much her first word every morning was 'nuss ree?' i'm hoping for the same response with my dd.

WWCA - you did what? I hope you're never outed in RL!

Lol at planning to "be pregnant". Yes, I am, and the last time it was like pmt x 100 at first. I also have no family nearby and barley see DH during the week, so I need a strategy to cope.

Is the difference btw cm and nanny that you go to the cm, and the nanny comes to you, then?

BDSM I have a slightly used one of those I could pass down to you if you're interested? (having a bad DH day to day)

Imsonottelling - for the obvious reason - thanks for noticing. Does my bum look big in this new name?

sungirl - mine is Monetessori too.

You flounced?

Good lord.

Unless there is another usual reason that I haven't thought of

WWCA - yikes, no thanks. I bet he's gorgeous but your life has a lot more drama than mine. I like my peace and quiet.

CM is self-employed, so will set the agenda to some extent, decide on outings when and where etc etc..

Nannies will come to you - you are their employer, and will need to pay tax for them, give them an employment contract, pay hols etc...

However, you'll have more flexiblity to stipulate what you want done and when..also nannies will look after both children for no extra cost... and will do nursery duites (tidy toys, launder kids clothes, make children's food etc),

Flounced?

What does that mean?

I fear there is a cultural divide here... work with me... we can bridge it...

DD started at nursery at 20 months. She has thrived there. She plays with other children, tells me about her day and her friends, eats better, all the things I wanted for her. I think it depends on the child as to whether they are ready (WWC, please remember that such studies look at the average), but 2 days sounds fine to me!

BDSM actually now you mention it, he is rather dashing - though not an excuse to be such an arse though...

So what's the usual reason?

Flouncing (off MN) is something I suspect you will never feel the need to do. Once flounced and deregged, people lose their username and have to choose one similar when they slink back return after their break.

so all your mince caught up with you.new name.new pc? butwill it be same ole same ole though

TBoM, there's a big difference though between 12 months and 20 months. I'd feel a lot more comfortable putting my son in now, at 18 months, than I was when he was 11 months.

deliakate - sorry, haven't read the whole thread, only wanted to say that settling ds3 at nursery at 11 months was far harder than settling ds1 at 4 months and ds2 at 6 months.

Think around the age of 1 is when they can develop separation anxiety - heightened if you are leaving them in new environment/with someone they don't know.

22 months between ds1 and ds2 btw and hard work but fun and they are good friends. Good luck.

Thank you for all the advice!

Is there somewhere specific I should look for a cm, like a registered body or sommat?

Chandelina - you are very right. 12 months, I'd say go for a CM. Some group dynamic, with the benefit of more personal care.

Ah well that's not the usual reason, that's quite an unusual reason.

I wonder when they will spot you...

word of mouth is always good, otherwise your local council can give you a list of the registered childminders with vacancies. once you meet with them or get their postcode, you can view their ofsted report.
references are also crucial.
best of luck.

re WWC's name change, it's not exactly lying low is it?

Sorry missed WWCA's deleted post can I have an abridged version as am now curious and find keeping up with the goings on on here impossible to keep up with as it is